I just started thinking about this and realized it is helping me build my self-confidence in general. That's a positive thing for me as I've always been quite shy.
What about you?
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Do you think writing erotica helps you in your real life?
Active Ink Slinger
Definitely. The more I write the more I discover -mostly, about myself : )
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Definitely. The more I write the more I discover -mostly, about myself : )
Agree. Before I started writing erotic stories, I did not even know I can write. Now I have more confident and start reading more books to learn from them.
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yeah me too and I think writing erotica is pretty challenging at times
Challenging but definitely rewarding when people enjoy it. Sometimes I get stressed over trying to 'keep people happy' i.e. my friends and followers but going into unknown territory can be a great release. The whole step to starting to write was a challenge and i think 'Hey, if i managed that, i might as well write what the hell i like' (with SOME restrictions btw).
But, yes, as a whole, it has increased my confidence, and not just in the sex-department.
Active Ink Slinger
Yes - every time someone buys one of my books that is a few more pennies to spend on my beloved.
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Gingerbread Lover
Absolutely! The feedback I have had from my stories and posts etc on here has led to me posting a picture that is on here, but lost in albums on Facebook. It has now been re-posted in honour of National Cleavage Week, and recieved many heartfelt thanks. 
The fact that people here have made it a point to encourage me and value what I have to offer (not actually physically, but in general), has made me think outside my own gloomy little world a little, and I am beginning to come out of my indrawn shell somewhat, just because I started off by posting a story that people were so kind about. It's made me feel normal.
Obviously it would take a whole lot more to have direct effect on my real life in how I act and react to real live people, but I am already thinking more postively in my own way on my own, and... enjoying it!
The fact that people here have made it a point to encourage me and value what I have to offer (not actually physically, but in general), has made me think outside my own gloomy little world a little, and I am beginning to come out of my indrawn shell somewhat, just because I started off by posting a story that people were so kind about. It's made me feel normal.Obviously it would take a whole lot more to have direct effect on my real life in how I act and react to real live people, but I am already thinking more postively in my own way on my own, and... enjoying it!
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Active Ink Slinger
I agree with everyone as well, especially tashitasha. I was and still am shy at times and writing erotica definitely helped with my self-confidence and my self-conscience in general. I used to write basic fiction and poems, but since finding my liking to erotic literature, it has helped my overall well-being.
"So don't cry to me.
If you loved me,
You would be here with me.
Don't lie to me,
Just get your things.
I've made up your mind."
--Evanescence
If you loved me,
You would be here with me.
Don't lie to me,
Just get your things.
I've made up your mind."
--Evanescence
Constant Gardener
It all depends on your point of view.
In the beginning (a dozen years or so ago) I wrote erotic stories in an attempt to get into the skirts/panties of various women I'd meet off of adult mating and dating websites... it worked like gangbusters for a few years. Then I discovered Lush.
A little more than 2 years ago...
My cousin found out that I wrote erotica, read a few of my stories...and has been pestering me to knock her up and help her save her sexless marriage (she thinks having a baby will keep her and her husband of 17 years, together). Turns out...she's into all sorts of naughty filth and at 44, she's still pretty hot. On the down side, her husband is a big, mean, jealous bastard who I have never gotten along with.
My probation officer discovered this site, recognized my photo, read a few stories and she's leaning on me to take some hot showers with her, when her husband travels out of town on his frequent business trips. Every three months, I have to report in - to her house out in the burbs. I leave feeling clean but icky - make any sense?
An executive assistant to my director at the office...can't quit flashing me, whenever I get within line of sight of her as I run to fetch my morning coffee. If I'm in a meeting with my boss and my boss' boss, she's usually there sitting across the conference room table from me, taking meeting minutes...blouse unbuttoned flashing side-titty & tickling my leg with the tip of her shoe. She's pretty good looking, but...she's married to the guy who decides whether I have a job or not...She likes to distract me and create tents and possible stainage.
So no...writing erotica has not been as profitable for me as it used to be.
In the beginning (a dozen years or so ago) I wrote erotic stories in an attempt to get into the skirts/panties of various women I'd meet off of adult mating and dating websites... it worked like gangbusters for a few years. Then I discovered Lush.
A little more than 2 years ago...
My cousin found out that I wrote erotica, read a few of my stories...and has been pestering me to knock her up and help her save her sexless marriage (she thinks having a baby will keep her and her husband of 17 years, together). Turns out...she's into all sorts of naughty filth and at 44, she's still pretty hot. On the down side, her husband is a big, mean, jealous bastard who I have never gotten along with.
My probation officer discovered this site, recognized my photo, read a few stories and she's leaning on me to take some hot showers with her, when her husband travels out of town on his frequent business trips. Every three months, I have to report in - to her house out in the burbs. I leave feeling clean but icky - make any sense?
An executive assistant to my director at the office...can't quit flashing me, whenever I get within line of sight of her as I run to fetch my morning coffee. If I'm in a meeting with my boss and my boss' boss, she's usually there sitting across the conference room table from me, taking meeting minutes...blouse unbuttoned flashing side-titty & tickling my leg with the tip of her shoe. She's pretty good looking, but...she's married to the guy who decides whether I have a job or not...She likes to distract me and create tents and possible stainage.
So no...writing erotica has not been as profitable for me as it used to be.
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Active Ink Slinger
I'd say reading it does. I'm just now coming out of a three-year illness that devastated my sex drive. Part of the reason I chose this site is because I had the android app, and reading stories here definitely helped get me in the mood. 
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Quote by naughtiestmommy
I'd say reading it does. I'm just now coming out of a three-year illness that devastated my sex drive. Part of the reason I chose this site is because I had the android app, and reading stories here definitely helped get me in the mood.
hmmm well yea mommie u saaid it.reading erotica makes our pains go away for a while as we get in the mood
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Quote by naughtiestmommy
I'd say reading it does. I'm just now coming out of a three-year illness that devastated my sex drive. Part of the reason I chose this site is because I had the android app, and reading stories here definitely helped get me in the mood.
hmmm well yea mommie u saaid it.reading erotica makes our pains go away for a while as we get in the mood
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Hi Tasha,
It has helped my self-confidence in day to day life, but not because I write "porn".
The change comes from being recognized for your writing by complete strangers.
That is a fantastic confidence builder, and lifts my confidence in general.
It has helped my self-confidence in day to day life, but not because I write "porn".
The change comes from being recognized for your writing by complete strangers.
That is a fantastic confidence builder, and lifts my confidence in general.
Active Ink Slinger
Most definitely. Real life men and sex have never lived up to my expectations, high standards and the fantasies my mind has churned out. So I choose celibacy over the inevitable disappointment and channel my desires into writing, since I've come to realise that the only thing capable of turning me on is my own imagination.
"Nothing is villainous if it causes an erection"
-Marquis de Sade
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Constant Gardener
Quote by sholomrabin
it has helped me and my girlfiend find our "kinky" side. we enjoy reading the stories together and then have fun.
30 years ago, I'd have to go throw down $5.75 on a Penthouse magazine in some seedy 7/11 store, just to enjoy 3 pages of Xavier Hollander and maybe 3-4 pages of Penthouse Forum letters, to maybe gain similar thrills with my girlfriend(s).
Isn't technology wonderful? (now you can google what I just talked about to see how difficult that actually was)
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Quote by FtLMale
Hi Tasha,
It has helped my self-confidence in day to day life, but not because I write "porn".
The change comes from being recognized for your writing by complete strangers.
That is a fantastic confidence builder, and lifts my confidence in general.
I know what you mean and yes, it definitively boosts confidence