In my own relationship (38 years) dirty talk is used, but never degrading. The use of cock vs penis, pussy and cunt vs vagina, are common terms used in our sexual play. We also both enjoy oral play--her sucking me or me going down on her--but again no derogatory references. I would never say "suck my cock, bitch" and I'm pretty sure if I did, the blowjob would be anything but pleasurable.
That said, we are also not in to pain or bondage. Of the people I know who are into these as elements of sexual play do occasionally like references to degrading terms. However, it is far more common for derogatory terms to be used for men in those situations.
I think women already face too many situations in real life where they are treated as second class to find 'abusive' language to be a turn on.
- Just my thoughts.
I agree with Pegasus. I do not like men who use "bad language" especially the C word but I do admit to having a "slutty" side.
I love sucking cock I love the response that it gets from my husband or my lover. especially the first time that you take a mans cock into your mouth. I love my pussy sucked its a natural part of sex to enjoy giving pleasure as well as getting it.
Domination is not everyones cup of Latte' and it can take many forms but it can be very erotic. I have been the sub and the Domme in these situations and all I can say is try it you may well find that you like it ;-)
Linn
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I would like to point out that this (repeated) reference to terms like 'whore' or 'slut' as strictly a term of degradation is off base for a lot of women (and men) who enjoy giving and receiving these types of words and phrases.
For some who like it - it might be a fun, flirty turn on.
Or, as is the case for me, it's the act of taking a word that other people deem is offensive and making it your own - fuck what society tells you that you should FEEL about the word - make up your own appropriate emotional response.
I was raised in a religious family and we were always told how we should FEEL in response to words. And essentially we were trained to be offended by words by punishing us if we used those words, by banning the words.
I can't even remember the number of times I was fed a bar of soap.
I'm an author - I've been a passionate writer for more than 3 decades - I don't need someone else trying to tell me how to feel when I read a word or hear it. I'm capable of deciding for myself what's offensive, what's hot, and what's not.
So . . . just remember, what turns me on isn't about anyone else but myself. The factors in this equation is one.
If anyone thinks that some old prunny prude woman is who decides what words turn me on and what doesn't, you have lost your friggin mind.