I'm thinking I'm addicted to sex. I love to fuck. I do it so much that I'm quite drained of energy and sometimes get rather sensitive. Usually I will tell myself during the day that I will just have a quiet evening by myself, but more often than not I end up going out for a drink and usually end up in bed with one or more guys. During my cycle, I don't have sex, and after a week i'm so horny I practically explode at the thought of getting fucked. Am I a sex addict?
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Sexual addiction is a real phenomenon and while many people might think they are "sex addicts" because they seem to love sex more than the average person or think they suffer from "major depressive disorder" because they just broke up with someone and laid in bed for two weeks eating cookie-dough ice-cream and listening to Evanescence on repeat on their ipod... this doesn't make it an actual clinical disorder or issue that requires outside help or therapy.
But when a fixation or focus becomes something that affects your daily life in a negative way for a prolonged period of time, it needs to be taken seriously.
If you find that you're missing work to masturbate or watch porn or that your social life with family/friends takes a constant backseat to your pursuit of orgasms and having sex with strangers, then you have a problem.
Many people think about sex quite often, and this is often influenced by hormones and age. Between 10-14 days after the first day of your period, you are ovulating which is when a woman is at her most fertile, and women often feel easily aroused and horny. I would say that's normal. If it becomes a problem for you where you feel like you can't focus or concentrate on anything other than sex, I would recommend going on the birth control pill. This will regulate your hormones and you won't be ovulating, so you will experience a more steady state.
Next, think about your sexual activity. Is this a phase you're going through? A woman may have promiscuous periods in her life where her list of sex partners starts to escalate. This sometimes happens when you just get out of a relationship or marriage, when you move to a new city and feel bored (and more anonymous) or when you want to enjoy the last thrills of single life before settling down.
Think about what you want from these men. Are you just looking for orgasms? Does it make you feel temporarily comforted or loved? Does it make you feel validated or more desirable to have constant sexual attention? Do you ever talk to these men again or are they all one night stands? Are you using safe sex practices or are you being self-destructive by taking risks and chances as a form of self-punishment? Do you care about their orgasms or are you merely focused on your own sexual gratification and needs during these encounters? Would one partner satisfy you or do you feel you need the thrill and excitement of multiple partners in order to get off? Is sex allowing you an escape from other unpleasant things going on in your life right now?
If the situation is concerning you and affecting your day to day life, then you may need professional help. There can be many issues at work here which I'm unable to comment on based on the limited information.
Sex creates a kind of physical and emotional 'high' for many people. Getting addicted to this rush is not that different from using drugs or alcohol. It can be a serious problem and definitely shouldn't be shrugged off or ignored.
But when a fixation or focus becomes something that affects your daily life in a negative way for a prolonged period of time, it needs to be taken seriously.
If you find that you're missing work to masturbate or watch porn or that your social life with family/friends takes a constant backseat to your pursuit of orgasms and having sex with strangers, then you have a problem.
Many people think about sex quite often, and this is often influenced by hormones and age. Between 10-14 days after the first day of your period, you are ovulating which is when a woman is at her most fertile, and women often feel easily aroused and horny. I would say that's normal. If it becomes a problem for you where you feel like you can't focus or concentrate on anything other than sex, I would recommend going on the birth control pill. This will regulate your hormones and you won't be ovulating, so you will experience a more steady state.
Next, think about your sexual activity. Is this a phase you're going through? A woman may have promiscuous periods in her life where her list of sex partners starts to escalate. This sometimes happens when you just get out of a relationship or marriage, when you move to a new city and feel bored (and more anonymous) or when you want to enjoy the last thrills of single life before settling down.
Think about what you want from these men. Are you just looking for orgasms? Does it make you feel temporarily comforted or loved? Does it make you feel validated or more desirable to have constant sexual attention? Do you ever talk to these men again or are they all one night stands? Are you using safe sex practices or are you being self-destructive by taking risks and chances as a form of self-punishment? Do you care about their orgasms or are you merely focused on your own sexual gratification and needs during these encounters? Would one partner satisfy you or do you feel you need the thrill and excitement of multiple partners in order to get off? Is sex allowing you an escape from other unpleasant things going on in your life right now?
If the situation is concerning you and affecting your day to day life, then you may need professional help. There can be many issues at work here which I'm unable to comment on based on the limited information.
Sex creates a kind of physical and emotional 'high' for many people. Getting addicted to this rush is not that different from using drugs or alcohol. It can be a serious problem and definitely shouldn't be shrugged off or ignored.
Well, it sounds like you have a healthy libido. I don't think it's a clinical "sex addiction". On the other hand, if you're out most nights (or in) hunting cocks, it may mean you're a) compensating for lack of emotional bonding b) Don't want any strong emotional commitments at this time c) Need something else to occupy your time that's not so fraught with potential STDs
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um sounds like it ... but I can so so so relate to that ... it is so draining both mentally and physically.
Oh, I know how you feel... I don't think I am really addicted to sex itself because I definitely won't go out and sleep with random guys... But I am horny literally every second of every day and I masturbate way too much for it to be normal... Don't think I would ever go to the lengths of that though. You can get help though, and I am sure many here can relate...
Well, I do go out and fuck random guys, and only sleep with them if I pass out. I have been getting better though, and have been exclusive to one guy for a week. I'm taking a week off from fucking while I go through my period, and this guy is supporting me in this. Maybe, just maybe, I'll settle down after 5 years of absolute sluttiness?
I think I am the same way. I have a guy who I have been fucking for the last 4 years. No matter what kind of relationship we are in with each other or as he had with someone else. We always seemed to want to have sex. We sexted, we videoed ourselves and emailed them. We don't go long with out it, for the last year he was in a relationship with another women and 5 weeks into it he was having sex with me, as often as we could. They have broken up, because she found out about us and we are back at it. He said he is additiced to my pussy. I think he is my sexaual soulmate. But for the 2 months we didn't when he was going through his break up I was horny! Now I am on here all the time. I shared this and my stories with him. So I can relate, I think if he wouldn't be around I would be out there finding someone else.
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"Well, I do go out and fuck random guys, and only sleep with them if I pass out"
this is destructive behavior!!
i am all for sexual play
but this is EXACTY how STDS are spread
buy a dam vibrator
limit it to say 2- 3 guys
have more respect for your beautiful body & soul
sleep with hitachi & the rabbit girlie!
this is destructive behavior!!
i am all for sexual play
but this is EXACTY how STDS are spread
buy a dam vibrator
limit it to say 2- 3 guys
have more respect for your beautiful body & soul
sleep with hitachi & the rabbit girlie!
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Usually I will tell myself during the day that I will just have a quiet evening by myself, but more often than not I end up going out for a drink and usually end up in bed with one or more guys. am i a sex addict?
here is the key statement. if you replaced booze or cocaine for sex what would the answer be?
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ha i read all the above threads here n iwant to say,u r not alone,i will also think about sex all the time,sometimes i masturbate for 7 to 8 times a day,even skipping my work,i dont think it is normal,n regaarding sex,i dont get it as often as i want it,iam lonely and working in almost a no man's land
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yes you are. but that is not really a bad thing. just get checked up once a month.
That's an absolute lie. If she's a true sex addict, then she needs to consider seeking some sort of help. Any addiction is bad. Just because it seems fun doesn't mean it's good for her well-being. That's why it's called an ADDICTION. And addictions of any sort are destructive and shouldn't be encouraged or taken lightly.
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That's an absolute lie. If she's a true sex addict, then she needs to consider seeking some sort of help. Any addiction is bad. Just because it seems fun doesn't mean it's good for her well-being. That's why it's called an ADDICTION. And addictions of any sort are destructive and shouldn't be encouraged or taken lightly.
This is true, even people addicted to working out and eating healthy can reach a point where that takes over their life and interferes with normal social behavior.
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I wish that Dawana would rub up against my wife - and help my wife [who has resisted sex after she 'did her duty'] realize that real women enjoy sex.
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Quote by Olivia
Sexual addiction is a real phenomenon
but it's not a real addiction.
Unlike addictions to alcohol, tobacco, narcotics and medication, your body does grow to depend on sex in order to function, nor does it go through withdrawal symptoms when you fail to have sex.
Nevertheless if you feel a growing sense of dissatisfaction or unhappiness because you need (but don't feel any) intimacy in your sexual encounters, you should seek professional psychiatric help - and I don't mean some local self-help group of self-appointed sinner-turned-moral-apostels who lecture you about how sex is a "spiritual addiction", and that you shouldn't have sex anymore because it's your 'addiction'. Sex is not an addiction anymore than breathing or sleeping are addictions.
You should have sex - as often as you like -
BUT
You should feel happy about having sex, and not have this sinking feeling, "This is just wrong". If you feel that way, please get some professional help and NOT from some strange-pseudo-religious amateur anonymous self-help group.
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Well, I do go out and fuck random guys, and only sleep with them if I pass out. I have been getting better though, and have been exclusive to one guy for a week. I'm taking a week off from fucking while I go through my period, and this guy is supporting me in this. Maybe, just maybe, I'll settle down after 5 years of absolute sluttiness?
Deumea you sound pretty normal to me. I have been married many years to the same man and we are very happy together. Monogamy is not something in our dictionary. He knew before we married that I like to fuck any number of guys and had no plan to change.
It is not about the lack of an emotional relationship, because I certainly have that.
It is just I love to fuck and sometimes there does not seem to be enough men and then other times a strange guy is just fine. I never sleep with the guy/guys of the hour. When I have drained them I go home or if I am in a hotel I send them home.
No I am not concerned about their well being nor do I expect them to be concerned about mine. These affairs if short are about the pleasure of sex and not about love.
If you are able to do the things that you want out of life in addition to fucking I think you are just fine.
I know and I know most people think a Slut but I am happy, my husband is happy and we have raise two young adult woman who are well adjusted and happy also.
Deumea do not change until you want to change.
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Sexual addiction is a real phenomenon and while many people might think they are "sex addicts" because they seem to love sex more than the average person or think they suffer from "major depressive disorder" because they just broke up with someone and laid in bed for two weeks eating cookie-dough ice-cream and listening to Evanescence on repeat on their ipod... this doesn't make it an actual clinical disorder or issue that requires outside help or therapy.
But when a fixation or focus becomes something that affects your daily life in a negative way for a prolonged period of time, it needs to be taken seriously.
If you find that you're missing work to masturbate or watch porn or that your social life with family/friends takes a constant backseat to your pursuit of orgasms and having sex with strangers, then you have a problem.
Think about what you want. Is sex allowing you an escape from other unpleasant things going on in your life right now?
If the situation is concerning you and affecting your day to day life, then you may need professional help. There can be many issues at work here which I'm unable to comment on based on the limited information.
Sex creates a kind of physical and emotional 'high' for many people. Getting addicted to this rush is not that different from using drugs or alcohol. It can be a serious problem and definitely shouldn't be shrugged off or ignored.
Olivia, I like your definition. I still think about sex extremely often and I think it affects my outlook on life. I don't have sex with anyone and haven't for years, and have created a pseudo-moralistic tone that says I SHOULDN'T have it because one partner or another isn't getting the most out of it (gee, the one partner is likely to be me).
Women who are nice to me are sure to attract me, although often the attraction fades -- often because I kick myself out of being attracted to them and think they're too good for me.
One, a dozen years ago, I was accused of masturbating in the workplace and found guilty without a trial. The affair was sickeningly bizarre (I had decided to clean off my shirt and leave it untucked until it dried out from the sink bath I gave it), and I suppose someone saw my putting it back in my pants. Later I heard that I was trying to hump the photocopier (say what???). I was forced to resign, and it was then that I started really needing sex and really hating the fact that I needed it. There was a sickening interlude at that same job about five years later, when a person took two women out to lunch at his home, for them to have sex with each other (so he said) and killed them both. There were literally no words to describe how I felt.
Sex addiction makes you see double standards under the bed and makes you feel like you are doing something horribly wrong even though it's natural. 'I wonder how many alcoholics and other addicts despise the substances on which they rely. For those people, only being sober a day at a time for the rest of their lives will suffice. For sex addicts, it seems much more complicated because they often want love with sex tacked on. You can't live without love and it's hard to deny the value of love. Sometimes you feel sex is the ultimate act of love.
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Deumea you sound pretty normal to me. I have been married many years to the same man and we are very happy together. Monogamy is not something in our dictionary. He knew before we married that I like to fuck any number of guys and had no plan to change.
It is not about the lack of an emotional relationship, because I certainly have that.
It is just I love to fuck and sometimes there does not seem to be enough men and then other times a strange guy is just fine. I never sleep with the guy/guys of the hour. When I have drained them I go home or if I am in a hotel I send them home.
No I am not concerned about their well being nor do I expect them to be concerned about mine. These affairs if short are about the pleasure of sex and not about love.
If you are able to do the things that you want out of life in addition to fucking I think you are just fine.
I know and I know most people think a Slut but I am happy, my husband is happy and we have raise two young adult woman who are well adjusted and happy also.
Deumea do not change until you want to change.
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There have been times in my life that I had a large number of sex partners and hooked up with randoms. But you can also get lots of sex from one partner. There is some reason you are seeking out ransoms. I did it because part of me loved the "dirtiness" of it. Being totally slutty can be a tiurn on. But I never had sex other than to have fun and hopefully orgasm over and over again. If you fuck to fill a void then that's bad. Filling a hole is good but filling a void is bad ;)
Here are some interesting Tidbits about nymphomania & the satyriasis/and Hyper Sexuality.
Awareness is key and sometimes we just do not have a clear understanding.
My first ex husband ended up going to SA or SAA (for 'Sex Addiction') - and knowing him, I am sure he sought religion and professional help too and nothing was probably enough on its own. We had already gone our separate ways when he realised he had some serious disorders (bi-polar being one of them), that he had not previously known or understood. We were young.
I have been around a few "Sex Addicts"
My non-professional and personal "opinion" therefore is thus:
Addicts differ in their functionality in daily life and work ~
I personally think there are some differences in behavior that range from "Obsession" to "Compulsion" or both- where I am personally unclear and uncertain on the current debate of "Impulsivity" and "terminology" because behavior varies person to person in any addiction-however the relationship of what it does to the person "inside" is the same.
Healthline - example of one or more possible signs, options, and genral more information.
No one can really say if you have a problem or not but YOU (and possibily a court system-in extreme cases, and of course, people CAN say, but you do not have to listen. Ultimately it is your call whether or not you feel you should seek more information or help).
Awareness is key and sometimes we just do not have a clear understanding.
My first ex husband ended up going to SA or SAA (for 'Sex Addiction') - and knowing him, I am sure he sought religion and professional help too and nothing was probably enough on its own. We had already gone our separate ways when he realised he had some serious disorders (bi-polar being one of them), that he had not previously known or understood. We were young.
I have been around a few "Sex Addicts"
My non-professional and personal "opinion" therefore is thus:
Addicts differ in their functionality in daily life and work ~
I personally think there are some differences in behavior that range from "Obsession" to "Compulsion" or both- where I am personally unclear and uncertain on the current debate of "Impulsivity" and "terminology" because behavior varies person to person in any addiction-however the relationship of what it does to the person "inside" is the same.
Healthline - example of one or more possible signs, options, and genral more information.
No one can really say if you have a problem or not but YOU (and possibily a court system-in extreme cases, and of course, people CAN say, but you do not have to listen. Ultimately it is your call whether or not you feel you should seek more information or help).
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Deumea you sound pretty normal to me. I have been married many years to the same man and we are very happy together. Monogamy is not something in our dictionary. He knew before we married that I like to fuck any number of guys and had no plan to change.
It is not about the lack of an emotional relationship, because I certainly have that.
It is just I love to fuck and sometimes there does not seem to be enough men and then other times a strange guy is just fine. I never sleep with the guy/guys of the hour. When I have drained them I go home or if I am in a hotel I send them home.
No I am not concerned about their well being nor do I expect them to be concerned about mine. These affairs if short are about the pleasure of sex and not about love.
If you are able to do the things that you want out of life in addition to fucking I think you are just fine.
I know and I know most people think Im a Slut but I am happy, my husband is happy and we have raise two young adult woman who are well adjusted and happy also.
Deumea do not change until you want to change.
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This thread seems to be just about woman, but this is an issue for me too. I would love you to comment if you can.
Ok, so I am a cross dresser, bisexual or gay, who knows. I have had lots of girl friends and three wives, now ex’s. I always dressed in secret and would masturbate when I could. Always thinking about having sex with men. I did try to fight it, thinking there was something wrong with me but after the last failed relationship I realized that this was never going to go away. I got much more into the dressing up as a woman and joined some sites, like this one which has been a revelation and very cathartic and helpful.
I got very into the idea of using dildos for anal sex and of course lots and lots of masturbation. The main problem is that where I live, in France, Europe, It is very old fashioned and I could never be my female self around here.
So, here’s the point. I have had a few sexual experiences with men, sadly not many, sometimes dressed sometimes not. I have had to rely on my imagination and self stimulation to get by. I have made videos of myself, taken hundreds of pictures of myself dressed and playing and find them wonderful. But I can’t get enough. I masturbate every day, swallow my own cum, fuck myself like mad with my various realistic dildos but find that I need it more and more. I sometimes have sessions with myself that start at eight in the evening and go on until three in the morning. I know that the lack of sexual partners plays a big part but my self stimulating times are so frequent and so intense that it is like an obsession. The more I do it the more I want to do it. The last week has been a case in point. I have spent many hours everyday having solo fun and cannot stop.
I obviously have a problem because it is overwhelming, but at the same time so enjoyable that I don’t want to stop. What do you think I should do? Is it right to want to dress up, fuck my self with dildos, masturbate and swallow my own cum every day, more than once.
Any advice you can give either on here or by a private message will be great. Thanks. Xx
Ok, so I am a cross dresser, bisexual or gay, who knows. I have had lots of girl friends and three wives, now ex’s. I always dressed in secret and would masturbate when I could. Always thinking about having sex with men. I did try to fight it, thinking there was something wrong with me but after the last failed relationship I realized that this was never going to go away. I got much more into the dressing up as a woman and joined some sites, like this one which has been a revelation and very cathartic and helpful.
I got very into the idea of using dildos for anal sex and of course lots and lots of masturbation. The main problem is that where I live, in France, Europe, It is very old fashioned and I could never be my female self around here.
So, here’s the point. I have had a few sexual experiences with men, sadly not many, sometimes dressed sometimes not. I have had to rely on my imagination and self stimulation to get by. I have made videos of myself, taken hundreds of pictures of myself dressed and playing and find them wonderful. But I can’t get enough. I masturbate every day, swallow my own cum, fuck myself like mad with my various realistic dildos but find that I need it more and more. I sometimes have sessions with myself that start at eight in the evening and go on until three in the morning. I know that the lack of sexual partners plays a big part but my self stimulating times are so frequent and so intense that it is like an obsession. The more I do it the more I want to do it. The last week has been a case in point. I have spent many hours everyday having solo fun and cannot stop.
I obviously have a problem because it is overwhelming, but at the same time so enjoyable that I don’t want to stop. What do you think I should do? Is it right to want to dress up, fuck my self with dildos, masturbate and swallow my own cum every day, more than once.
Any advice you can give either on here or by a private message will be great. Thanks. Xx
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Sometimes you have to do what you need to do. Masturbation, cum eating, dildoing, extra partner sex (with consent and foreknowledge), machine sex, doll sex, exhibition, bi, gay, whatever - it is still sex at the end of the day. We take care of one another as well as ourselves as often as desired throughout a day sharing when we are apart all that we did, even reenacting it. Videos are the bomb.