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TransitionalMan
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 155
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69 is fun, but getting a blow job interferes with he concentration needed to properly give head yourself.
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I cycle fantasies, but favorites include a lesbian character I may one day write about, my first steady lover who shall remain nameless but affected me greatly, and lesbians. Lots and lots of lesbians. I have no idea why that works, but it does.
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Lying about cock size on line is an ancient internet tradition, so why should anyone care. The truth is, I've never taken a tape measure to my junk, but I'm certainly not going to be invited to make any porno films soon. That said, I have enough to satisfy every woman I've been with and most of all myself.
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I was woken that way, only one time, but I have to say that I have never forgotten that night. Perhaps that should tell ladies all they need to know. You needn't make a habit of it, but as an occasional treat you will thrill your man.
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a Volkswagen Jetta, but my favorite was my SCCA racing ITB Toyota Corrola #63
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i don't whisper, and if I do I let the woman initiate it. I know that in sex chat men are a dime a dozen, and women are constantly getting hit on. I think it wiser to talk. If a lady wants to speak privately to me, she will.
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That depends. I don't have casual sex really, and my last two girlfriends had passed menopause. But with a younger woman I would use a condom, and recommend everyone use one unless you've had serious talk about the subject first. It's all a man can do.
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We may not have much, if any, choice in accepting North Korea as a nuclear state. Like it or not, any state that really wants nuclear weapons can have them. After all, nukes and effective missiles are a state of the art 1945 technology. North Korea seems willing to pay a terrible price for having nuclear weapons. Will the brandish them with good judgement? Well, that remains to be seen and I have my doubts, as I have considerable doubts of the judgement and maturity of Donald Trump.
Still, the last thing we should expect is a direct North Korean attack. They know that would be suicidal, in fact, they are very well aware that they have fallen militarily well behind South Korea. They are a regime whose existence depends upon a narrative of constant threat and sacrifice, so doing the right thing for their people necessarily requires admitting that narrative is a lie. So they bluster. The key to dealing with this is seeing their bluster for what it is without forgetting they do not see the world at all as we do or understand our way of thinking. That does make their judgement . . . ahem, problematic. Right now I'm even more worried about our judgement, because Trump feels he cannot be seen to lose face because he might lose face.
Still, the last thing we should expect is a direct North Korean attack. They know that would be suicidal, in fact, they are very well aware that they have fallen militarily well behind South Korea. They are a regime whose existence depends upon a narrative of constant threat and sacrifice, so doing the right thing for their people necessarily requires admitting that narrative is a lie. So they bluster. The key to dealing with this is seeing their bluster for what it is without forgetting they do not see the world at all as we do or understand our way of thinking. That does make their judgement . . . ahem, problematic. Right now I'm even more worried about our judgement, because Trump feels he cannot be seen to lose face because he might lose face.
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The issue is best explained by the mix of biology and culture. Sex is inherently riskier for women then men. Men enter women's bodies. Men can't get pregnant, and until recent decades paternity was difficult to establish at best. Safe, reliable contraception is less then a century old. And men can, in theory, impregnate a vast number of women while a woman can have only a limited number of offspring. While culture of mating and reproduction extends back many centuries.
Because women have much more at risk then men, they logically ask for a higher standard before becoming comfortable enough with someone to have sex. The premium placed on virginity in many cultures is intended to assure paternity, and thus the man's continuing support in the rearing of children. Human civilization grew up with those biases built in. Slut shaming, the 'groping' and even the burqua all grew up as ways to assure paternity rights. And the bias in those rights was reinforced by both men and women.
This also changes the sexual balance between men and women and how our politics broke down. Except for prostitutes, no man wanted to be with a loose woman. A woman who was willing to say yes, was relatively rare and that balance is reflected her on Lush. How many potential cyber partners does a woman enjoy in a chat room. How long does it take before a man hits on a woman? Minutes. But for men the situation is reversed.
In essence, sexual condition for women is Pavlovian, for men Skinnerian. In Pavlovian conditioning, every time the lever is pressed (or the bell rung) the reward is given. It's easier for most women to find sex, if that's all you're going for is sex, Animals trained under pavlovian conditions press the lever only when they're hungry. Because sex is easy, women naturally aspire to more.
For men the situation is often reversed. Except for a few rock stars/celebrities, sex isn't so easy. My presence in a chatroom is a matter of no interest until I stand out in some way. I could spend hours in a chat room and its iffy if a single woman would initiate conversation, sexual or otherwise. Men face a more Skinnerian situation, where you have to press the lever to get your reward, but you never ever know if a reward is coming, It is random and intermittant. Animals conditioned that way press the lever constantly because they can never have confidence a reward is coming.
Now that's sort of basic biology, but remember the biology of men and women has derived over centuries. For a man, finding a woman willing to have sex with him is difficult, so success is self-affirming in and ove itself. For a woman sex is easy, so they want more, they are more invested before they admit a man to their body. For women it is often the cementing of a pre-exiting bond. For men it's often that way too. We aren't unaffected by sex. But rather, we don't require the emotional commitment before saying yes.
Because women have much more at risk then men, they logically ask for a higher standard before becoming comfortable enough with someone to have sex. The premium placed on virginity in many cultures is intended to assure paternity, and thus the man's continuing support in the rearing of children. Human civilization grew up with those biases built in. Slut shaming, the 'groping' and even the burqua all grew up as ways to assure paternity rights. And the bias in those rights was reinforced by both men and women.
This also changes the sexual balance between men and women and how our politics broke down. Except for prostitutes, no man wanted to be with a loose woman. A woman who was willing to say yes, was relatively rare and that balance is reflected her on Lush. How many potential cyber partners does a woman enjoy in a chat room. How long does it take before a man hits on a woman? Minutes. But for men the situation is reversed.
In essence, sexual condition for women is Pavlovian, for men Skinnerian. In Pavlovian conditioning, every time the lever is pressed (or the bell rung) the reward is given. It's easier for most women to find sex, if that's all you're going for is sex, Animals trained under pavlovian conditions press the lever only when they're hungry. Because sex is easy, women naturally aspire to more.
For men the situation is often reversed. Except for a few rock stars/celebrities, sex isn't so easy. My presence in a chatroom is a matter of no interest until I stand out in some way. I could spend hours in a chat room and its iffy if a single woman would initiate conversation, sexual or otherwise. Men face a more Skinnerian situation, where you have to press the lever to get your reward, but you never ever know if a reward is coming, It is random and intermittant. Animals conditioned that way press the lever constantly because they can never have confidence a reward is coming.
Now that's sort of basic biology, but remember the biology of men and women has derived over centuries. For a man, finding a woman willing to have sex with him is difficult, so success is self-affirming in and ove itself. For a woman sex is easy, so they want more, they are more invested before they admit a man to their body. For women it is often the cementing of a pre-exiting bond. For men it's often that way too. We aren't unaffected by sex. But rather, we don't require the emotional commitment before saying yes.
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My choice would be (presuming she's single) newwoman Lara Logan. She has guts and brains, and tells the truth. Plus she's exquisitely beautiful. If she's married then I'd go for Cathrine Keener. I just like the smart girls.
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I raced sports cars just long enough to figure out I cannot afford to race. If the money fairy ever lands, I'm going back to the track with competitive equipment.
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Is there such a thing as a bad pussy? What I want is a pussy attached to a broad, questioning mind who makes me laugh. As Woody Allen once put it, "The worst orgasm I ever had was right on."
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Battlestar Galactica (the remake), Dexter, The Game of Thrones and The Daily Show top my all-time list
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I live in Ohio, the Axis of Ice Cream. From Cincinnati we offer Graeters, best known for their Raspberry with dark chocolate chunks. To the norheast in Cleveland we have Mitchells' whose apricot makes me sigh. And in the center is Jeni's, named by a couple of mags as the best in America, and maybe the world. My favorite is goat Cheese with Cherries, though in winter it's Goat Cheese with Fig. Yummmmmm/
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Ayrton Senna, Emerson Fittipaldi, Tony Kanaan, and other great Brazilian racers
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That depends on the women. I have had a serious relationship with women whose periods were extraordinarily difficult and painful, where sex was out of the question. One underwent a hysterectomy in order to end it Others it has been no big deal, and were very receptive when menstruating. Really, it's all about her. If she wants to, it's good. But her body and physical space is going through things we men thankfully avoid. We need to let our partners be our guide.
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Showers on a daily basis, bubble bath if I have company. You have more time, and I have a big water heater.
Have you ever done it an an automobile?
Have you ever done it an an automobile?
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It means that I have been a first-post-divorce boyfriend so many times my head spins. And sadly, two of the deepest loves of my life came that way, when I dated a woman who was in no way emotionally ready to commit. Luck matters, and sometimes it doesn't go your way.
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private generally.... but there is something exciting about the possibility of being seen....
Agreed, and even if you were to 'show off' it would be best in a place where no one would know you.
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I think it possible they can last, but lets face it, like on the net is often directly proportional to distance. You aren't going to meet someone here you can ask out Saturday night. And so many people are married, which adds another barrier.
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My influences outside of erotic-- most of them actually-- I wrote my first erotic story after reading Gene Wolfe's SF classic 'The Book of the New Sun'. Tolkien, Connie Willis, Bruce Catton, Ursula LeGuin are much bigger influences
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I don't think anyone I've ever dated would have been okay with an open relationship. Most women aren't, or at least the sort I attract, all are interested in commitment. Often that isn't an option. If things are at a low level, enjoy and perhaps someone will stand out. If you're serious about someone, you really owe it to them to put their needs first.
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