I would have to disagree with the popular answer here, and say yes it IS possible to 100% trust some one again. That said, it is one hell of a journey and more often than not it is one that you never quite make it to the end of. So yes it is possible but but hard and rare to do/find.
Every case is unique though.
Me and the OH are a perfect example of this..
We've been together almost 6 years now, started a family, built a life together. We has one seriously rocky start though. When we got together we were too young to be in a serious relationship.
Long story short I cheated and told him right up, he cheated and told me only a few months ago. All in the first few months of our relationship together.
For him he had to re-build his trust in me over the following few years, I started bad as in he was wayyyy too controlling cut me off from anyone who happened to own a willy, but over time he build the trust in me again. So much so that I have gone on to build a career in the male dominated worlds of both construction and warehouse distribution. I have several male friends whom he knows of, and is fine with.
For me only finding out after so many years devastated me, not because of the cheating, as I said we we're too young for us to be in a serious relationship, but because of the lies over so long. I went out of town for a couple weeks to get my head clear and prevent me doing something stupid (No cheating, just got some work and focused on that) Anyway I came back and that was the end of it.
He trusts me again and I trust him. It was a hard road but one we followed together. It takes a strong bond to do so but it can be done!
Pfft! Nope, I tend to be the submissive about 75% of the time. I prefer a man to take control of me. That said I am far from a quiet person. Anyone who knows me will describe me as a "loud mouthy bitch" XD
This reminded me of an old joke...
I was a very happy man. My wonderful girlfriend and I had been dating for over a year, and so we decided to get married. There was only one little thing bothering me—it was her beautiful younger sister. My prospective sister-in-law was twenty-two, wore very tight miniskirts, and generally was bra-less. She would regularly bend down when she was near me, and I always got more than a nice view. It had to be deliberate. Because she never did it when she was near anyone else.
One day her “little” sister called and asked me to come over to check the wedding invitations. She was alone when I arrived, and she whispered to me that she had feelings and desires for me that she couldn’t overcome. She told me that she wanted me just once before I got married and committed my life to her sister. Well, I was in total shock, and couldn’t say a word.
She said, “I’m going upstairs to my bedroom, and if you want one last wild fling, just come up and get me.”
I was stunned and frozen in shock as I watched her go up the stairs. I stood there for a moment, then turned and made a beeline straight to the front door.
I opened the door, and headed straight towards my car. Lo and behold, my entire future family was standing outside, all clapping!
With tears in his eyes, my father-in-law hugged me and said, “We are very happy that you have passed our little test. We couldn’t ask for a better man for our daughter. Welcome to the family.”
Moral of the story: Keep your condoms in the car!
Seriously though, keep them in your head, do not act on it, you might lose your wife but you would destroy an entire family!
So yeah like the title says, erm... Is there a way a gal can help with premature ejaculation?
Like my OH has been having this issue for 2-3yrs now and I'm totally done with being patient! I'm sorry, I know that makes me sound like a right bitch but after 3 yrs of 5min sections (If i'm lucky) I'm done! So is there anything a gal can do other than just being OK with it and making no big deal or whatever?
To be fair it's half the reason I started writing, gotta get it out somewhere I guess. He is 100% refusing to try any delay products on the market so that's out.
My drive is almost gone all together, I can't get into it when I know what's coming, I'm really trying my damn hardest to remain understanding but fuck me it's not easy. It don't help that he's a roll over and sleep kind of guy either!
Sorry I know there is more info than needed, just kinda half venting, half seeking advice.
Thanks in advance.
Ignored, yet again!
Ah well, I have my writing and you lushies!
So I'm curious as to if there is a difference in gals and guys on writing style preference. So guys only 1st or 3rd person in a story? I will ask the same question in the 'ask the gals' section. If there is a difference, it would be worth knowing when targeting a certain group with a story. Please feel free to comment why you like one or the other.
For those who may not know..
1st person is; I went to the shop, I bought some milk, then I walked home.
3rd person is; Jane went to the shop, she bought some milk, then she walked home.
So I'm curious as to if there is a difference in gals and guys on writing style preference. So gals only 1st or 3rd person in a story? I will ask the same question in the 'ask the guys' section. If there is a difference, it would be worth knowing when targeting a certain group with a story. Please feel free to comment why you like one or the other.
For those who may not know..
1st person is; I went to the shop, I bought some milk, then I walked home.
3rd person is; Jane went to the shop, she bought some milk, then she walked home.
Never mind, just saw I've been on this post already... Couldn't figure out how to delete my post LOL
Yes. Cut him out my life, job done! I couldn't think of any other way, I guess I never 'worked through' my feelings, but it worked. Some might argue that it was the wrong way to go about it, but it worked for me.
So long as both parties are over 18, then no age is just a number. If however one is under that age then yes it matters a lot!
I'd have no regrets. I may not be proud of everything I've done in life, but those things made me who I am.
As for my last day...
1. I'd be pretty pissed that I've only got one day left!
2. Write a couple letters, and post them 3rd class so those I care about can hear from me after I'm gone. I'd also trust as many as I can write to my best friend to be given to my son on his birthday every year.
3. Spend the rest of my time with my son, doing what ever he wanted, so that his last memories of Mummy are the best of his life!
Assuming that, I were single...
I would have to say no. This is a great site, and I love it here; I've met some lovely people. That said, a site like this - no matter how good intentions are - is going to attract some creeps. Meeting someone from a site like this, for sex, I would class as just plain stupid.
I might meet some one, that I had been talking to for ages, if I was going to be with several other people. That is, I would send an invite to them - and friends - to a night out with my social group. The only way I can say would be safe. To meet some one alone, would be seriously asking for trouble. Not to say that everyone here is a creep - in fact, I bet few are - just better to stay safe, I value my life.
So I'm curious...
Your in a bar, and want to get lucky tonight. You look around for a gal (or guy if that's your thing) to try and chat up. There are three woman at the bar.
A slutty girl/boy, clearly easy, pretty much a sure thing.
A classy woman/man, you're gonna have to try hard with this one.
A gal/bloke somewhere in the middle, can't really tell if their a slut or not.
Who do you offer a drink?
Yes, and both! I've been shared, would love to share him!
Hmmm, hard question. I'll go with top five I've done, I went through a year, or so, of having no respect for myself...
1. Public place sex, many times
2. Gave blowy to the OH - before he was the OH - in a room FULL of people, not even discretely. To be fair I never thought I'd still know those people to this day, and count some of them as good friends. *sighs*
3. Again with those same people. Got on most of them at one time or another, purely to cock-tease, and see who the 'alpha male' was.
4. Sleeping with other peoples BF, I count this as a seriously slutty thing to do, even now. Just plain wrong.
5. Threeway
Not proud of that year, but it was a good year!
I don't drive but I would give it a go when I do get a motor, and feel a confident driver aha!
Fingered, ha! Done the frikking lot in public. I love that 'might get caught' rush. Lucky the OH is up for it too!
Nope! Not something I don't understand, feet are just feet. You walk on them, end of. It's not like they are all the sensitive either. Nope, don't understand why so many people have a feet thing. Whatever floats your boat, I guess.
Pretty low count here, about 10.
It depends on why I am playing. I prefer RPG games, hands down, when playing by myself. Social gaming however, I'd rather play a shooter, such as COD. Co-op on RPG is OK but shooters have a more competitive aspect for social gaming.
So I'm working on a four book series, which I am posting by the chapter here on Lush. I'd like to offer them as complete E-Books for free on Amazon or Smashwords, when they are finished. Since the cover is really what grabs the attention of a potential downloader, I've been working on mine. These are what I have come up with. Would they grab your attention? Thank you.
I have added them to my signature below.
haha.
) Anyway, it's a nice thought I guess, but watching it I was like, erm.... nope, just nope! That shit'd hurt like hell.
Wow! Biggest I've been with, I'd guess was about 8, maybe 9 if I were to be generous, with a hell of a girth. So many people saying 11-12, I wouldn't of thought that so common. Poor guys must go light-headed with each boner!