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BelleduJour
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 56
Canada

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This sounds more like a question for the guys than girls since women are pretty automatic regarding this not to mention that most even have their men cum in their mouths already (whether they swallow or spit).

All I have to say is that you should at least give it a try particularly since you're already thinking about it. From a women's perspective, there is nothing hotter than a man who's not afraid of his own cum and if giving me pleasure is part of that equation, fucking awesome!
Although I've engaged in intercourse whilst having a full bladder (makes for an insane orgasm), I've certainly felt like peeing many times but can't say that I've actually done so as a result unless it was very deliberate like a golden shower. I supposed I'd be more inclined to let it flow if we were in the shower but anywhere else? Yeah, I'll hold it until I get to the little ladies room thank you.
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I think there are couple big distinction to note here. You're talking about your lover, presumably a lover you've been with long enough to know her likes and dislikes. If you're with a woman for a while and you KNOW that she is vehemently opposed to anal sex, you've discussed it numerous times and she finds it gross, painful, or disrespectful.. or any combination of those things, and then one night when she is completely trashed and decides she wants to take it up the ass; you her lover know better and should refrain.

Another distinction is if you've just met a woman at a bar, which happens millions of times a week, and you go somewhere more private.. if she's so drunk that she can't consent to anything then that's .

But, if you're with a new lover or just met someone and she's not drunk, but a glass or two of wine has made it easier for her to "loosen" herself up... while still having full control of her faculties, if she (or he) wants to fuck.... go for it. Some people need a little bit of liquid courage, doesn't mean they can't have sex because they aren't capable of consent.



I think lafayettemister broke it down perfectly. It isn't exactly black and white. All I have to say is that if you know for a fact that your partner wouldn't do something whilst sober, I would tread VERY carefully in fulfilling that fantasy whilst she's intoxicated regardless to what degree. I think, at the very least, there should be some serious discussion about it.
Just another toy in the tickle trunk! If I can have my toys, he can have his. Besides, just like men enjoy watching women play with their toys, I too find it very arousing to watch my man play with his.
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I think Porn (when watched together by couples) can be a good way for couples to realise and discuss what turns the other one on. It's a way of learning new things for the inexperienced and it's a good way of breaking the ice to talk about things you might usually struggle to discuss.

I don't think porn is necessarily all that healthy when watched alone or in secret. I think it gives people (particularly men) an unachievable expectation of what everyday sex is like. It implies that all women like rough anal sex and enjoy the man cumming in their face. I've learnt to my cost that NOT all women enjoy this.


Very well said and I will have to agree with this. There is both good and bad that comes from watching porn but like everything in life, there needs to be some balance as well as an understanding that it is highly contrived and edited and choreographed as well as designed to be provocative. There is something to be said that porn seems to set these unrealistic standards for how women should look and behave that is IMO quite damaging for both women and men. It's all about keeping a healthy perspective.
From a woman's perspective, I too agree that there is definitely big and then there is TOO big. I also think there is a difference between being too big naturally and being too big on purpose with implants. Some women can't help the size they are regardless of their frame and believe me when I say that that can create a serious love/hate relationship with their breasts just as a woman with small breasts might have. Personally, I think the beach ball enhanced look, particularly when they don't even jiggle are very unattractive but then again, there must be some men that like that look otherwise why would women bother to get them?
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Ditto! And I hope that NEVER goes away.
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Just out of interest, why do you want to know? Are you doing a cross-section of Lush lady sizes? Looking for somebody to cam with? Wank material? Most people have trouble visualising from the numbers and letters alone, as every woman carries her size differently.


I'm no stranger to cam fun and have indeed made my fair share of mistakes particularly in the beginning when I was trying Lush on for size. It's with that in mind that I can confidently say that, for me, it's really only exciting and even fulfilling when it's with someone I know, trust and have a connection with.
Early November was the last time, when my partner came up for a visit but come Monday, he'll be back and we'll be spending the week making up for lost time!
Oh my goodness!! In all honesty, I stopped keeping track because after 6 years, it got far too depressing to try and remember when the last time I had been touched never mind had sex. If I had to venture a guess, I would say it had to have been 8+ years...

That was definitely NOT my doing but rather my ex husband who decided for the BOTH of us that sex just wasn't important any longer. It was hell on so many levels not to mention that it was a HUGE catalyst for why I ended my marriage. And to think I was with him for 20 years!
I can't tell how old either of you are but I'm going to assume you're in your twenties. That being said, I had the same issue all through my twenties. I thought there was something wrong with me that I couldn't enjoy sex the way they seem to in movies or in porn. It wasn't a lack of not wanting sex because I did very much but at the same time, back in those days, I didn't get very wet on my own and needed a lot of lube to make it even possible to have sex.

Eventually, we tried different positions and found a few that significantly reduced the pain or comfortableness I was feeling which was a huge relief for both of us but especially for me.

When I got into my mid to late thirties, that problem all but disappeared and I've never looked back since. Sex has never felt better but that could be due to a number of factors not the least of which is just being more comfortable in my own body and my sexuality. I really can't say the same for when I was in my twenties or younger.

I'm no expert or doctor nor is anyone who responds here so I wouldn't rule out a visit to her doctor just to make sure there aren't any physical issues she needs to address. If all is well in that department, I say experiment with different positions, lube liberally and be patient with her. It's really not that uncommon.
I'm in a long distance relationship at the moment so there is a lot of "me" time in between our visits unfortunately. When it comes to phone or sex, I will usually wait for my partner to initiate it for some reason. When we're together, I think I'm the one that initiates more often or at least I'm more obvious about wanting some playtime even if it's just me taking care of him. That's not to say he never initiates when we're together but I think I'm still the one with the higher libido. And besides, we usually only get to see each other a week at a time so we need to get in as much lovin' as possible to keep us going until our next visit ;)
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People see the content of this site, and forego really simple things like common decency/courtesy/sense.


Exactly. Just because of the genre, doesn't mean one should check their manners at the door. It's one thing if we know each other and it's a whole other thing if we don't. I'm not very forgiving of random cold calling dick pics or videos from strangers. Personally, I see that kind of attention seeking as desperate and immature which are both very unattractive qualities.
What can I say about MdeSade64 that hasn't already been said. He's a man that appears to never be at a loss for kind words who seems to have a knack for seeing beyond the obvious. Nothing is lost on him.
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To be perfectly honest, I think a man should have some hair, so I just prefer him trimmed. I find shaved chest, pits, arms, and legs a total turnoff.

However, not a big fan of a hairy ass or back.


Ditto! Embrace what you have be it hair or no hair but if I had to choose, I do prefer my men to have some well groomed hair.
Hmm I have never had a man ever say that to me - usually it's been the opposite. For me, however, I have been known on a few occasions to fall for a guy that might not have otherwise been my "type" but then again, I'm not with any of them right now so obviously the mis-match was a miss indeed :P
A good friend got me hooked on chia seeds. I've been including them in my diet on a daily basis for the past two weeks and I've noticed a significant improvement in in so many areas not the least of which is the mental clarity and energy I've seemed to found again. Can't recommend it enough! My next mission is to incorporate spirulina.
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ok I so don't get this

you are a hot wife who has a GREAT sex drive

YOU make the money in the family

he is LUCKY enough to stay at home and provide a home for you

and yet He needs MORE wives

and yet he CANNNOT satisfy you??

having been a SAHM

you know what

he sounds amazingly lazy and he wants to have sex with others as well as not doing what MILLIONS of women have been doing on their own for decades!

I know I am being mean and blunt...DPW did warn you

but I am doing this for your own good honey

he wants to have less work at home

wants YOU to provide free sex and extra laborers for HIS enjoyment

and all you will get out of this

is EVEN less sex and more people to take care of

since as you said he is not interested in sex

say (as you all are not Mormons) I will go for an extra husband to help ME out

you get more sex he gets help

it is ALL good

but to me honey

I would kick this guy to the curb

he HAS it ALL in YOU!!

and frankly does not appreciate the fact that he CAN stay home

sorry but I am sooooo smh at this one


Sorry MamaNeeds2Cum but I'm with thesexynun on this one
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Honestly, I used to find doggy very uncomfortable because of the cervix slamming when I was on all 4's (hands and knees). However, after a bit of research (I read an article or two on the subject) and adjustment, I find if I'm literally face down and ass up that it seems to stretch my "love canal" out a bit and it's now very enjoyable, pleasurable. Definitely one of my favorite positions now. Good luck!


I second this response. Where there is a will, there is a way
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A few in my life know I'm here. Am I 100% upfront about all the conversations I have and my photo gallery, no. If they asked would I tell them, possibly. I dealt with my significant others addiction to porn for years and now I'm getting my umm feet wet!


You GO GIRL!!!!!
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The person I was in love with, about 30 yrs ago, I still love to this day. It's rare that a day goes by that I don't think about him at least once. There's a line in a song that I believe is true "no-one else can have the part of me I gave to you". When it happens you find a way to get through but you never forget.


I say love what you have. Being comfortable with yourself is super sexy.
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I did it once, but only after my ex asked me to do it. I wouldnt just do it while Im down there, I have no idea when she last backed one out.


Haha, I loved this answer and you might have a point SS! I think it's one of those things that unless you're in the shower together gettin' busy, a wee bit of notice might be appreciated just so you can make sure there aren't any undesirable surprises (giving or receiving)
I did find amazing love with when I married my ex husband. As already echoed, the failure of that union and subsequent death of "the dream" was one of the most painful experiences of my life even though I was the one that ended things. I was bruised and beaten and exhausted and jaded and became cynical about love for a long while after my break-up. Thankfully, I did the work that was needed to better myself and managed to heal a lot of old wounds and make peace with it all.

These days, I'm so grateful to have found love again for the second time.