The Dorian Gray Effect.
Ever heard of it? Below is a link to a quick and easy article explaining it.
https://qz.com/1050340/the-name-youre-given-as-a-child-can-shape-your-face-as-an-adult/
But essentially, "Social scientists believe that names produce a Dorian Gray effect, influencing personality, how we’re perceived, and even physical appearance."
Ever met a Bob or Dan or Becky or Sam, and think, that name suits them? Why is that? Did their given name help shape that person into being who they are; a person many believe to display the physical and personality traits of someone with that given name?
Not many Adolf's being named these days. Why is that? Probably many reasons for it, including not wanting their child to be ridiculed their entire life. Incessant ridicule could possibly manifest itself into something self-destructive and/or more sinister, so the parents might think. What would your first thoughts be meeting someone named Adolf? You're mind will go there. Your initial perceptions may too.
A teacher told me that she cringes every time she has a student named, Kyle. Every Kyle she's taught, that she recalls, she said, has been a bad behaving egg. This is literally tens of thousands of students (not all named Kyle) over three decades of teaching. Two Kyle's in one particular class of hers, were routinely kicked out or expelled for their actions, which included smearing their own shit on the schools bathroom walls, "... because it was something fun to do... " Has that teacher been conditioned to see all Kyle's as shit smearing degenerates? Probably. Now that you've read this, will your thought of people named Kyle change? Possibly. At the very least, for the next family gathering, you now have a better understanding of, or insult to fling at, your (husband, brother, father uncle, nephew, etc.) named Kyle.
Do given names contribute to a child's-teen's-adult's physical and personality, self-fulfilling prophecy?
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Is The Name Given At Birth A Person's Self-Fulfilling Prophecy?
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I have a friend named Adolph. His mother liked the name. Changed the spelling so people wouldn’t connect it with Adolf. It mostly worked. Of course once he got his PhD most of his close friends starting calling him Doc. He’s a very successful man and I believe people see him as such. So no, I don’t thing a name is a self-fulfilling prophecy. That being said, I’d never choose that name for my kid. Nor would I choose Damien, although as a teacher I’ve had some really lovely young Damiens in classes along the way. I actually just want my kids to be able to buy coffee mugs and keychains with their names on them without paying the fee to custom personalize these items. There are no mugs out there with my name on them. That always bugged me growing up! Lol!
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Urban Dictionary says,
“Alpheus is a genus of snapping shrimp of the family Alpheidae. This genus contains in excess of 250 species, making this the most species-rich genus of shrimp. Like other snapping shrimp, the claws of Alpheus are asymmetrical, with one of the claws enlarged for making a popping noise.”
Score one for the social scientists’ theory.
“Alpheus is a genus of snapping shrimp of the family Alpheidae. This genus contains in excess of 250 species, making this the most species-rich genus of shrimp. Like other snapping shrimp, the claws of Alpheus are asymmetrical, with one of the claws enlarged for making a popping noise.”
Score one for the social scientists’ theory.
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Ping, are you bringing this up because your parents named you Ping and it sounds like a sound effect from a cartoon, so you blame them for in effect turning you into a walking, living, breating cartoon?
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Ping, are you bringing this up because your parents named you Ping and it sounds like a sound effect from a cartoon, so you blame them for in effect turning you into a walking, living, breating cartoon?
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Well, my real life given name has been used by a king or three, a saint and, in my own family tree, a prominent physician and country coroner. I can't see that I resemble any of those.qif0HrJ8aeHSHUBa
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I do think there's something to it.
Last year the Suriname Slave Registry (not BDSM!) came online, consisting of the survived bookkeeping regarding slave owners and their slaves in Suriname between 1830 and 1863. Slave owners used to choose the names of kids born into slavery. The registry shows at least one girl was named Matras (Mattress). It suggests what kind of plans the owner had with her, but I guess everyone will understand that having such a name will increase the chances that a girl/woman will suffer sexual harassment/assault.
Many names have their stereotypes and so they come with certain expectations. We know of the experiments where they had strangers interact with babies dressed as a boy or a girl (in fact it was actually the same baby) that showed that people addressed and even handled the baby in very distinct ways. If most people do this during one's entire life time then this has an effect on their personality for sure. I can only assume that names can have a similar effect, perhaps to a lesser extend.
On the other hand, certain names also very much belong to certain classes. This is what many of the name based stereotypes are based on, but it also says something about the parents that gave their kid such name and the kind of upbringing that comes with it.
I guess there's a mix of causality and correlation.
Last year the Suriname Slave Registry (not BDSM!) came online, consisting of the survived bookkeeping regarding slave owners and their slaves in Suriname between 1830 and 1863. Slave owners used to choose the names of kids born into slavery. The registry shows at least one girl was named Matras (Mattress). It suggests what kind of plans the owner had with her, but I guess everyone will understand that having such a name will increase the chances that a girl/woman will suffer sexual harassment/assault.
Many names have their stereotypes and so they come with certain expectations. We know of the experiments where they had strangers interact with babies dressed as a boy or a girl (in fact it was actually the same baby) that showed that people addressed and even handled the baby in very distinct ways. If most people do this during one's entire life time then this has an effect on their personality for sure. I can only assume that names can have a similar effect, perhaps to a lesser extend.
On the other hand, certain names also very much belong to certain classes. This is what many of the name based stereotypes are based on, but it also says something about the parents that gave their kid such name and the kind of upbringing that comes with it.
I guess there's a mix of causality and correlation.
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A person's given name can affect the level of success in their life. It doesn't have to, and there is always that person who overcomes obstacles anyhow. But common sense can tell you what not to name your kid, if you have any commom sense.
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Try dealing with your name being passed down and having a numeral after it. If I have a son, he'll get something new, no numerals.
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Try dealing with your name being passed down and having a numeral after it. If I have a son, he'll get something new, no numerals.
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No Jr or numeric designation after my kid's name, however he does have the same middle name as I do.
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