Doh!! This ia an erotica site. However with my friends we talk about everything except sex. I find it so refreshing finding out how something
is done or is being handled in other countries from my own. I alsohave ben rather selective in my choice of friends and picked ones I think I will be able \to have intelligent conversations with,
so far. Thank you friends!!
When you meet someone for the first time whether in real life or on line.. time should be taken to get to know each other before jumping straight into bed ......... You wouldn't walk upto someone in a pub and talk like that so why do it on line....
It's all about respect
Thats a very good question..... i prefer to be asked a million question than to jump into a sexual chat with a new add.
I believe ppl should take the time to get to know something about each other not like your dating but at least to find
a common interest.
You probably haven't your kind of people yet. While people do sometimes try to talk about sex, if you get past the horny exterior (!) they can handle normal conversations. Really, most people are NOT sex-addicts, it's just that the ones who do like sex-talk are generally the first to IM you.
I have to admit, cyber actually makes me shiver. I used to do it years ago, when the internet was new...yes I meant the internet. We had to chat on IRC servers back then.
Anyway, I rarely chat to people on here through the chat system, I am here to read the stories, write them and appreciate other people's work. Some are just wonderful works of erotic literature. I do come across people that intrigue me and make me want to know more about them. I do email friends and there are one or two that I have formed an on-line understanding and relationship with. I would like to think we are friends, though we would probably never meet in real life.
I like being able to be honest with people I talk with...on all matters including sex.
I used to be a pervert. In here, I'm normal!
Watch this space...She is really - cumming soon!
After a few visits on lush I got a steady stream of "cyber" requests. So I added I wouldn't cyber with anyone. Just friendly chats for me.
It seems to have stopped them. I agree though you need to have a connection or at least have talked to a person for a while to feel comfortable to cyber.
Got to agree with you there. There's more to people than sex and erotica and it should be possible even in a site like this to be able to chat about the everyday and nothing.
I don't know about anyone else but it's the mundane details about a person that makes a relationship more intimate and when a relationship is more intimate the sex is more meaningful and fulfilling.
I know many people have pointed it out but heres how I feel about all of this.
I have noticed before that people tend to talk about things in their current setting. I notice people talk about work alot at work, talk about music alot at band (I was a band kid in high school), and so on and so forth. I think its human nature to want to talk about things that you know people are interested in or involved in, it makes for easy conversation. Id love to talk to people at work about music but most of them wont understand what I am talking about (as in music performance) so I generaly default to work or small talk. This is why I believe we see alot of people talking about sex here.
Now that being said, you dont have to talk about sex here. Its just something alot of people like to talk about and most people here share similar interests.
Because psychologically speaking; sex is and always has been a permanent fixture on the brain.
It is erotic site and normaly people come here to talk about sex.I mostly like normal,casual aproach turning to a sexy conversation.
Wait! You can have sex here? I must be missing something. I'm typing, and typing isn't a sex act that I know of unless you can type with a nipple or a dick!
Seriously babe, this is an adult site for writers and readers of erotica. There are ways to change your settings so that people don't disturb you, and there's even a way to blcok someone. Familiarize yourself with the website and I bet you'l get the full experience you're looking for.
I have many friends here that have no interest in sex chat or cybering. A little flirting maybe, but nothing crazy. Of course, I'm very lucky to have some really good friends who are unbelieveable writers, and still haven't hinted they wanted anything more. Get yourself some classier friends.
There are plenty of them here.
I had one guy recently request to cyber sex, when I said no, he turned to ask if I would be willing to cyber via again I declined.
Finally he asked if I was willing to meet up with him to fuck. I don't even know the guy from a Adam and he had the hide to ask to meet up to fuck.
Even though I might bag out my other half, especially when my other half has had a bad day. Doesn't mean I'm going to cheat on him with some random guy.
I asked the guy if he read my profile where I state that I don't cyber sex but rather chat with other people who are looking for a friendly chat or to chat about their erotic stories. He confirmed he had but he didn't get it through his skull that no I don't cyber.
Well his reply was:
That I shouldn't be on here on LUSH if I didn't want people to request cyber fucking with me. I shouldn't even bother logging in on here and just go back to Facebook. Because and I quote
"This is a cyber sex site after all."
Uh mate the last I looked Lush is for Erotic STORIES Or Erotic discussing, not for cyber fucking. I'm not snooty when it comes to sex, in fact I enjoy writing about it and discussing it. However I don't go mentally mind fucking others on here. I find cyber sex to be boring, even web caming nor do I go and meet total strangers for romp sessions.
I go to Hellfire Club a few times a year and participate in activities there. So in no way am I against sex or erotica.
Sorry guys for posting this but I can't believe this guy couldn't take the hint no.
Just because I stood up to him and said I'm not interested he tells me to get off Lush because Lush is for cyber sex or hook ups.
I have talked to some rather interesting people on Lush who don't let sex be everything about them.
Still laughing that when you knock the people back for cybering that they Justify it by saying Lush is a sex site, well duh but it is for stories and discussion, not whoring around lol.
While I have nothing against talking about sex, or even cybering, I would appreciate if people would actually read a bio before asking a lot of stupid questions about my preferences, etc. I do expect a certain amount of advances when I go into the bedroom or the basement or the shack, as those are what those rooms promote. And yes, I do realize the avatar invites those advances. However, just like in the real world, no should mean no and if someone turns you down, MOVE ON!
I am totally mystified why anyone would visit this site other than to talk/think about sex as a prelude or aid to masturbation or some other sexual activity! It is what Lush is FOR!!
Anyone with at least half a brain can see that it is a site about sex stories and has a Forum full of sex questions. Duh!
I agree with some of that, in that you don't have to talk to people you don't want to. But if I want a general chat I will talk to my friends or visit a chat site. This is clearly a sex site and I only visit it for sexual, er, reasons...
Because most members are guys and that's all we ever think about.x7gm5oYsXrN4cYg8