My so called girlfriend, with whom we were allegeably in loving relationship just disappeared. That was over a month ago, her/his profile is still active. I also came across her pic elsewhere, if it was her in the first place. Strange, same pic had grown a dick. Was I deceived? I think so.
Life is not a rehearsal!! Having been around on the internet for a fair old while I no longer expect anybody I encounter online to be a true friend until I've met them (either in person or on a webcam, which is a very rare occurrence for me) and even then, I understand that people come and go through other people's lives and none of it is a reflection of the people that they walk away from.
As one friend put it, a good friend is surprisingly hard to lose, and if you can lose them easily that means that they weren't actually a good friend in the first place.
If there are 312k members on Lush that pretty much guarantees (statistically at least) that there are murderers, fraudsters, violent criminals and every other sort of person who you would never actually wish to meet, all registered and posting the same as everybody else. Are you a violent criminal? How do I know that you aren't? Come to that, how do you know that I'm not?
Because the main forum that I manage is a very large community forum I have the luxury that I have met all of my admin and moderating team in person, and I've met literally hundreds of other forum users too. I have minor local celebrity status when people find out who I am because many of the users who haven't met me think I'm fictitious (I'm not) or that I'm a split personality of the forum owner (I'm not). I even met Him on the forum, although we met in person within a couple of months of getting chatting, at another forum user's divorce party. That's almost 10 years ago, and I was an admin of the forum even back then.
The important thing is that even with all of my admin tools there are times when I can't tell whether one user is actually a second registration of a banned user, so what chance do other forum users have?
I treat everybody on face value and respect them unless there's a reason not to, but the chances are that I won't be close enough to be hurt by them leaving.
Just noticed that Papergirl and all her amazing stories are gone. That's too bad.
At one time or another, everyone will leave. Like anything in life, one must use logic and common sense. The media is a pool of good fish and bad fish. Don't get reeled in. I have four or five people that I think of as extended family. Don't be fooled by a name under a box, just because it says friends. That is ridiculous and not to logical.
I know I disappear from time to time, sometimes for long periods of time. I always have my profile active though and don't plan on deleting my account. I do know I lose friends cause of it, but that's their choice.
†Jinxy Approved†
I think it is very sad. I lost another good friend today. Just disappeared.
Sometimes life causes us to be away, sometimes for extended amounts of time. Like Jinxy I too have lost friends over it. I understand people wanting to keep in contact with everyone, if not then delete them. I have never deleted anyone. I don't know everyone's situation. Oh well. Their choice. Nothing can get me down now. I love you Lilly! !!
When it's with someone you trust and have a relationship with its heartbreaking
Personally I have been disappearing a lot lately. I just needed a break but I'm slowly coming back. I miss my friends here, and have developed relationships with many of my friends. I didn't tell anyone, and that's why it seems like I've gone, but I'm still here. I think many of us fail to communicate that it's a break.
I have three famous stories, 2 recommended reads and have come in the top ten in two competitions~ Come in and make yourself at home.
"It's strange to have a friend that I have never met, never hugged, never kissed, or never looked into their eyes.
But..... I have been touched by their soul, seen the good in their hearts, and felt the warmth of their being.
These friends I have never met are NOT friends untouched, for I have felt them with me when I needed them, and have their love. They are some of the sweetest and kindest people I have ever known."
Yes it hurts when they just disappear...we are people behind the keyboard and monitor
I think some just come and have a great time for awhile and then leave. Some get caught by their spouses and some come back under different accounts.
Most of the writers stick around awhile but you always bump into them on other websites.
The other's that are here come and go like the wind.
I used to get upset but now I just am glad to have had the opportunity to have talked with them for a brief time
Just like real life really.....
Hugs,
Mysteria
xo
Sometimes, life takes over. Things change. I check in, but most have moved on. I think it's normal, and inevitable.
I feel a bit guilty that I have not written a new story recently, as that new story might at least interest some people.
I admit I haven't even taken much time to read new stories. Not sure why.
But I still believe in Lush. This kind of place is needed, and I appreciate the fact that most other visitors and all the members I've interacted with respect each other. Not many assholes around. I credit the mods for shielding us, if in fact that is what is happening. Worst I've ever seen is the occasional spammer try to become my "friend".
"Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than open one's mouth and remove all doubt" - Mark Twain (or Lincoln, or Confucius, or...)
I have just started on this site and hope to make many friends. I hope none of them vanish. I guess it happens....sadly on all social media sites.
One friend just drops off randomly and I can't seem to reach her irl anymore, then another friend completely vanished. Like, her profile is gone. Not sure if she deleted, deactivated or what. Makes me sad. :(
That's horrible 
