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Is Fantasising the same as cheating?
Prolific Writer
Absolutely not.
Cheating is physical not fantasy....
Cheating is physical not fantasy....
Advanced Wordsmith
No, I don't think you can consider fantasizing as cheating. Cheating is if you were married or had a significant other and you went behind their back and had sex or kissed somebody else. Fantasizing is in the mind and it could also depend on how your partner defines cheating.
Candyman
Is fantasizing the same as cheating? For the most part, I have to say no. But, it depends to an extent. If all you do is fantasize about others whilst making love to your partner, then it kind of means you're not into them so much. At that point I would recommend you take a step back and think about what it is you really want versus what you have. Amazingly, most people realize that what they have is way better than any fantasy.
Now - having said that - if you and your partner fantasize together, well then - relax and enjoy the ride, eh?
Now - having said that - if you and your partner fantasize together, well then - relax and enjoy the ride, eh?
"I expect nothing. I fear no one. I am free." Nikos Kazantzakis
Candyman
Quote by LittleLuce
Only if you make the fantasy come true!
Would you say it was possible to make the fantasy come true with your partner?
"I expect nothing. I fear no one. I am free." Nikos Kazantzakis
Active Ink Slinger
we all do it and we do it alot more than some would ,but its just until you take it pass that .
Advanced Wordsmith
If the answer to your question is no, I wonder what the matter is with what they call emotional infidelity.
"Some say love
It is a razor
That leads your soul to bleed."
It is a razor
That leads your soul to bleed."
Advanced Wordsmith
Quote by Ruthie
Cheating is physical. Fantasy is all in the mind. If fantasy is cheating there is nobody who can claim not to have cheated. In my opinion cheating is specifically doing something that you and your lover/spouse/significant other have agreed not to do with other people. It seems impossible to me not to have sexual fantasies about other people, they flit in and out of my mind all day long. I have fantasies that I'd never actually want to happen in real life so fantasies aren't wishes. They aren't intentions to have sex, they are just thoughts about sex.
i totally agree with you.
if fantasy is crime then everyone should be in prison.
Blackbird Supernova
My mind is my own. What happens within its walls is entirely mine to enjoy. Even writing and sharing fantasies is fine. Problems arise when fantasy and reality cross. Always be damned sure that you really want that to happen before you let it. There are no take backs in the real world.
Active Ink Slinger
I don't consider fantasizing to be cheating. Having said that, I had a friend who took it a little too far and was sexting another woman. No physical contact, just electronic. The judge gave his wife half of all their assets when they divorced.
I think Jimmy Carter said it best:
PLAYBOY INTERVIEW: In an interview published in the November 1976 issue of Playboy magazine, then-Governor Carter talked about the role of religion in his life. In one part he said:
" I try not to commit a deliberate sin. I recognize that I'm going to do it anyhow, because I'm human and I'm tempted. And Christ set some almost impossible standards for us. Christ said, 'I tell you that anyone who looks on a woman with lust has in his heart already committed adultery.'
"I've looked on a lot of women with lust. I've committed adultery in my heart many times. This is something that God recognizes I will do--and I have done it--and God forgives me for it."
So I follow Jimmy's advice and keep lust in my heart, never outside it.
I also believe in free will and if there's a God that gave us free will and then he condemns us for using it without hurting anyone then s/he can go to hell themselves.
PLAYBOY INTERVIEW: In an interview published in the November 1976 issue of Playboy magazine, then-Governor Carter talked about the role of religion in his life. In one part he said:
" I try not to commit a deliberate sin. I recognize that I'm going to do it anyhow, because I'm human and I'm tempted. And Christ set some almost impossible standards for us. Christ said, 'I tell you that anyone who looks on a woman with lust has in his heart already committed adultery.'
"I've looked on a lot of women with lust. I've committed adultery in my heart many times. This is something that God recognizes I will do--and I have done it--and God forgives me for it."
So I follow Jimmy's advice and keep lust in my heart, never outside it.
I also believe in free will and if there's a God that gave us free will and then he condemns us for using it without hurting anyone then s/he can go to hell themselves.
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If fantasy is cheating - I have cheated with some of the most amazing men and women in this world - and they dont know it.
Fantasy is just a wonderful means of enjoying masturbating.
The young guy living upstairs must have sex with me every time he sees me - from the way he looks at me - thats his fantasy.
One day it may come true - thats my fantasy.
Fantasy is just a wonderful means of enjoying masturbating.
The young guy living upstairs must have sex with me every time he sees me - from the way he looks at me - thats his fantasy.
One day it may come true - thats my fantasy.
Quote by Meggsy
If fantasy is cheating - I have cheated with some of the most amazing men and women in this world - and they dont know it.
Fantasy is just a wonderful means of enjoying masturbating.
The young guy living upstairs must have sex with me every time he sees me - from the way he looks at me - thats his fantasy.
One day it may come true - thats my fantasy.
Uh, what's stopping you?
Two fantasies for one - WOW!
Go for it.fE0Tb6FPKlTxF1xa
Personally, no I don't think it is cheating.
But fantasies tend to have a certain sense of perfection which we may start to impose on our significant others. I'm not talking about constructive criticism or genuine "for-your-own-good" advice. I'm talking about setting impossibly high (physical, etc.) standards, which may harm an existing relationship.
But then again, we tend to be together with the "girl/guy of our fantasies", don't we? ;)
But fantasies tend to have a certain sense of perfection which we may start to impose on our significant others. I'm not talking about constructive criticism or genuine "for-your-own-good" advice. I'm talking about setting impossibly high (physical, etc.) standards, which may harm an existing relationship.
But then again, we tend to be together with the "girl/guy of our fantasies", don't we? ;)
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Quote by emilykiss
Personally, no I don't think it is cheating.
But fantasies tend to have a certain sense of perfection which we may start to impose on our significant others. I'm not talking about constructive criticism or genuine "for-your-own-good" advice. I'm talking about setting impossibly high (physical, etc.) standards, which may harm an existing relationship.
But then again, we tend to be together with the "girl/guy of our fantasies", don't we? ;)
Emily, this is a great answer. Since it IS fantasy, it can affect how we see others....in short, distorted or "un-real" ideas can make us not like real things for what they are.
Now that dis-liking things for what they are is a kind of nihilism.....which totally goes against my grain of being and thinking. I want to see what is good and beautiful in life, and not get fixated on the negatives.
Thank you for sharing your answer as it is, IMHO, a very well made point that show how very real people can be hurt if they let fantasy, or unrealistic expectations spoil their enjoyment of real things, and real people.
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No never. Just a sign of an active and beautiful imagination. Fantasies keep me sane.
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Active Ink Slinger
IMHO:Yes, if it is sexual in nature, because you’re working towards an extramarital affair by fantasizing it first in your mind. 
Advanced Wordsmith
Why think about it. Why wonder? isn't life just a mistake of the intellect? We're each infinity - 1... only in our minds. we're actually infinity, individuation creates the mistake of mind... Oh that was mental masturbation, I must have been cheating on myself, with myself, about my mind... it's all very pointless, enjoy moments. shrugs...
Story Verifier
NO!
With all due respect to the OP, this is one of the questions I've felt the most black and white about. Fantasy is just that, fantasy! Cheating is bad for a number of reasons, including emotional betrayal and the danger to your partner's sexual health, but fantasy is harmless to everybody. Healthy even.
With all due respect to the OP, this is one of the questions I've felt the most black and white about. Fantasy is just that, fantasy! Cheating is bad for a number of reasons, including emotional betrayal and the danger to your partner's sexual health, but fantasy is harmless to everybody. Healthy even.
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Active Ink Slinger
If it is sexual and with the same person, could mean an obsession. I used to have one with the same lady and, it was so often, it felt like cheating. It affected my relationship because the time was all spent thinking about another and not my wife. Luckily, the woman never gave me an open door as I would have surely went in.
A random fantasy when a pretty lady with a nice ass smiles at me, completey harmless.
A random fantasy when a pretty lady with a nice ass smiles at me, completey harmless.
Active Ink Slinger
YES ... NO ... and MAYBE. Seems like a straight succinct answer to me.
Active Ink Slinger
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YES ... NO ... and MAYBE. Seems like a straight succinct answer to me.
I think you've nailed it.