Have you ever withheld sex as a form of punishing your partner, as a power-play, or in order to get what you want?
Does it work?
For those on the receiving end, does it give you the incentive to cave into your partners demands or apologize faster than you normally would have?
I would never withhold sex from anyone. I may joke about it from time to time, but really it seems like a completely childish thing to do. You should be able to talk about whatever the issue is and compromise, if you are having to withhold sex then something is wrong with that relationship. Their shouldn't be an issue of "giving into" one's demands.
I am married so.....hell yes I have done it! And hell yes it works! LOL It may sound mean and cruel, but when you find something that works, you stick with it. LOL
I don't do it to be mean or cruel......I do it to prove a point. And I am sure there are plenty of men out there that have done the same.
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The only times I've withheld sex from a boyfriend, I've done it permanently, not as a weapon- though I wouldn't rule it out!
the day you withold sex from your partner, is the day your relationship does downhill. you can still be mad and get some, just focus the fustration on something else, like sleeping on the couch, special treatment, or no dinner. no sex hurts both people.
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I have a friend that swears by this tact as a way to get her husband to do what she wants...
I've never done it and don't agree with it at all. It would be like punishing myself to have to say 'no' to sex.
Besides, after a heated argument, angry sex can be hot!
Anyone withholding it to get what they want is into control. Count me out of anything to do with her.
If two people can't enjoy it and be honest with each other in the first place, well...
I had an old GF tell me one time, "If you don't do what I want, then I'll deny you sex" (she actually spoke like that). I told her "Don't flatter yourself honey, It ain't that good!"
Hence, OLD GF.
My wife would never do anything like that to me, which is one of the reasons we are so happy...
I think doing that is a fucked up mean self esteem killer. Much more fun to bribe them with sexual favors! Couldn't do that anyway I can't hold out that long! LOL
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Bunny Rabbits cute and fuzzy they want to love you but they have razor sharp teeth - don't piss them off! have been turned on throughout day by hub with phone calls touching and stuff been made to wait heightens orgasm for me but have always got it in the end
I don't do this. Mostly my husband is really awesome with me so I would not do this anyway but even when I am not happy with him I just go along and make him happy.
I have never done it..
If I would start playing like this with my man it would ment only one thing and that is we couldn't comunicate it through the problem and when in my 'relationships' is no good comunications there is no conection and consequently no good sex.
And I am always for no sex than for lousy one, lol. So, I would rather break up with the guy than play games that are no good for me, nor for him.
I wouldn't ever consider it... unless I'm done with that relationship for good. It is spiteful, hurtful and simply inhumane. That's however just my point of view.
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Agree with the whoel immature thing, I've had it held over me and it was definitely and immature guy in so many ways
I've tried this once yet I couldn't follow thru with it. It lasted for all of about the time it took him to throw me over his shoulder, pack me to the bedroom and toss me on the bed. Needless to say we've turned it into a game. I threaten to "cut him off" and he immediately calls my bluff. We've used it many times when we've had company. Acting pissed off declaring he's cut off and storm out of the room. No one questions him following me into the bedroom because he's "in trouble". Those quickies are just a promise for a night of intense sex when everyone leaves. So in my case my boyfriend loves when I withhold sex frm him.
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Never withheld sex from any guy as a power play, or a punishment, however certain things may be offered as an inducement or refused as a punishment, but not sex in general...:-)
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I would have to say this is why I'm divorced. My ex-wife did that with me and I fell for it for awhile but then it got old and things fell apart from there. She was a bitch in a lot of ways, this being one of the worst, but I have to say I would do it all again (with the same results) just to have my son. He's a great kid and is worth all the emotional pain I went through.
my girlfriend does it everytime wen fallout. she once with hel sex for a months.
I would never deliberately withhold sex from my husband. But if he pisses me off, then I usually don't feel like having sex with him until we've resolved our issue. But since I'm the hornier one in our relationship, that usually takes about an hour or two tops.
With holding sex from the one you love is just wrong...it can lead to bigger problems....and if you are sick and really not in the mood then make it up to your loved one at a later time
It seems like a immature thing to do...But then again it might depend on the situation.
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This falls into the category as something I have never done and not likely to try.