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I believe it's different for every relationship...there are boundaries set once you enter into a committed relationship and once the line is crossed (it could be as simple as a text or as obvious as sex) it is cheating...you know what will not be ok with your significant other.
It is cheating. However I believe you have to look at the reasons why. Has there been no intimacy between the married couple for a longtime. Does he or she offer no emotional support. Is there any communication in the marriage, hi honey how's work been today? Oh that'snot good.
If any of these are in the marriage or all of them, I feel the marriage is not working and the partner is breaking his or her vowels.
To me that marriage is over and the cheating is the first step of a way out.
If there is none of this, then whoever is cheating is having their cake and eating it.
Cheating is always cheating. Yeah, it's a lesser offense than many others, but it still violates the trust of your relationship. Any relationship is based on trust. Period. When you cheat you betray that trust, and if your partner finds out, and you haven't already pre-negotiated an open relationship, you've shattered the terms of your relationship.
If you don't want to cheat, your partner has to be informed, before you do the nasty. They have to support and hopefully enjoy hearing about the details. But if you go behind your partner's back and you find out that it shatters your relationship then you have no one to blame but yourself.
It doesn't even have to be sex. There is emotional/mental cheating. My ex husband became very close friends with a single mother who was our cleaner. While I was at work for staff meetings, he was spending his free time with her and her kids. I could tell by his body language, tone of voice and face that he had deep feelings for her.
Only reason I knew about this was when our relationship was strained. He talked about her kids and her often. I left and a few weeks later we met and he explained he wanted a divorce and he was moving on. I put it together and I had not seen him been so infatuated with anyone or anything before. Not even with me. Then he admitted he slept with her. Though when I confronted he claimed he was drunk but then confessed he wanted her even when he was sober.
It is painful process. I had a STD test and thankfully I came back clean but still the emotional turmoil is unjust.
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It doesn't even have to be sex. There is emotional/mental cheating. My ex husband became very close friends with a single mother who was our cleaner. While I was at work for staff meetings, he was spending his free time with her and her kids. I could tell by his body language, tone of voice and face that he had deep feelings for her.
Only reason I knew about this was when our relationship was strained. He talked about her kids and her often. I left and a few weeks later we met and he explained he wanted a divorce and he was moving on. I put it together and I had not seen him been so infatuated with anyone or anything before. Not even with me. Then he admitted he slept with her. Though when I confronted he claimed he was drunk but then confessed he wanted her even when he was sober.
It is painful process. I had a STD test and thankfully I came back clean but still the emotional turmoil is unjust.
Shit, that really sucks.
Cheating is cheating whenever a partner does anything with anyone else beyond what the other partner has agreed to. My wide has sent nudes and cybered with other men, but it's understood that that's OK. To be honest, I wouldn't mind if she slept with someone else, but being that it understood that that's outside of the rules of our relationship, it would be cheating if she did. Those limits depend on the particular relationship.
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The moment when it stops being a fantasy.
Facts.
I know myself and know if my husband was chatting w/ someone in a deep, emotional manner, that would affect me over sexually cheating. I wouldn't put up w/ either. Sometimes sex is sex, a human dildo/flesh light but emotionally cheating where you wanna talk to that other person more, sneak away to text or send nudes, that's the worst.
When you exchange personal numbers/emails, that crossed the line, only if both of you have sexualized each other.
Well aware that a true friendship can bloom online, it happened here thrice for me and we chat/cam but I see them as friends as we are friends--even though it took me a few yrs to acknowledge them as said title.
End the relationship if you aren't getting what you want and have your fun w/ out having to ask for forgiveness or aren't remorseful.
Getting online attention dries up quickly and you come off as a human backpack lol like you need that "life support"
Keep it fun, just don't get caught up in wanting it to be real, cause it won't, unless both aren't attached.
I think most people here hit the nail on the head but let me clarify. Looking is not cheating. Your spouse or significant other doesn't suddenly become blind just because they are now with you. Remember, they saw attractive people every day before they met you and they chose you over them. Take pride in that instead of letting jealousy rear its ugly head in your relationship.
Now that being said, if your partner acts on this attraction behind your back, then yes this is absolutely cheating. If your needs are not currently being met in your relationship, that should be discussed with your partner before looking elsewhere. During this discussion, you may find more things out about your partner that you didn't know before that will either make your relationship flourish or destroy it, but this conversation needs to happen. If you know for a fact that you no longer have feelings for your partner, do the respectful thing and break up with them before moving on to someone else. Yes it will hurt and the conversation is not easy, but it is not fair to anyone involved to string them along.