But back in the mid 80s I was having a long term affair, with my boss. We still get together about once a month. I managed the shoe and asseries department in his family owner department store.
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I've been down this road in every job. You truly can't characterize who you would expect or not expect to be in these situations. Anyone can encounter these opportunities; from those wanting it to those not.
I will say this... for those who think it is possible to navigate the situation unscathed, you are wrong. Regardless what your actions may be (indulge, avoid, pursue, etc), once the topic is broached you can't undo the immediate harm done to the relationship because it is posed.
Things are forever changed from that moment between the two. Even if you think things haven't changed, they have. Either or both will withdraw the trust and comfort they had previously. And that moment is forever part of the relationship's trajectory.
It is human nature to seek out people, regardless of reason. So, the longer you are employed, the greater the chance you'll experience. Many people overlook convenience, proximity and autonomy as setting the stage for opportunities you never imagined possible.
Even complete loaners or unsociable people find some need in building functional relationships with co-workers. And so it begins.
Employment typically creates unintentional intimacy and dependence on others. You can't expect not to have relationships with people you spend nearly half of your waking hours with each week.
Not saying it's for everyone, but to think you can avoid the consequences, even if just a polite "no", of intimacy in the workplace is simply ignoring reality.
That said, people say "yes" for more reasons than they are willing to admit.
Well, my wife and I were technically co-workers when we met but it was a part-time, temporary position with the computer lab in the faculty where we were both students. And I forget if she was still working there when we actually started a full-blown relationship as opposed to being friends. She was actually a doctoral student and might have started doing TA work by the time we took that step forward.
Beyond that, no. I have certainly had eyes for women I have worked with, but I am married, as have been most of the women I've been interested in, and don't really want the complications a workplace affair could bring.
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I did at one summer job with the office manager. During the day I'd stop to chat & joke around which eventually led to lunch. This continued for weeks until one day we were the only ones in the office and when flirting was elevated.
We started kissing then I lifted her up onto her desk & she wrapped her legs, while wearing a miniskirt, around my hips. I undid her blouse to reveal her black lace bra. Carefully drawing circles around her breasts with my fingers, I slipped a hand into the bra to let one breast loose. She offered up the second breast and I massaged both and rubbed her nipples between my fingers. Needing to leave for a meeting, a quick kiss on the lips & I asked about dinner after work.
Instead of dinner, she invited me to her place. We joked around for a bit about what a crazy day it had been then went at it like rabbits.
That was a great summer before my last year in school.
Yes, I was 27, She was 19 and was due to be married 2 weeks later. I think it was her last fling before marriage. We fucked against a store room wall and then on the floor. It was risky and we could have easily got caught, but we both had a great time. It made me realise I wasn’t satisfied with my sex life in my marriage and I cheated many times on my wife leading to divorce. The older I got the more I wanted sex until I finally met a woman that satisfies me in every way. She knows my past but we have total trust in our marriage. Both older and wiser.