I tried the whole "wait until marriage" thing and it turned out to be awful. We were not sexually compatible at all, it eventually ended in divorce.
If you are not a good fit for each other sexually, the relationship is pretty much doomed. For people to say I can take it or leave it are lying to themselves, sex is the differentiation between a relationship and a friendship. If the sex sucks why in the hell would you stay in a relationship with that person?
As others have said, a test drive is a good precursor to see just how good you will be together make sure to take your time while you do so!
I wouldn't buy a car without a test drive first. Marriage is a contract forever so you need to know what you're getting. Besides, if I thought enough of a guy to marry him I wouldn't be able to keep my hands off him past the first few dates.
I think living together and def having sex before marriage helps you make an important life decision. As many have mentioned that you have to be compatible and if you aren't well it ends ugly vs maybe as friends....But in the end it's a personal choice depending on your beliefs..
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I think you can have marriage before sex, but both parties neet to be experienced. It could potentially be hot if you both describe everything you would like to do to the other person...that build up could be great...as long as you have the goods to back it up. BUT I have serious doubts about two virgins marrying. The longer I'm in a serious relationship though, the more I realize that communication is even more important because we all grow and change. If you marry at 25 you're probably going to have different wants/needs sexually 20 years down the road if you're still together. So...I guess I'm saying your initial sexual "compatibility" is important, but it may change, and you have to be ready to evolve with someone and be open with them.
Not ever, its just not a good idea. If you wait until you are married to engage in sex and you find that the two of you or ill equipped or don't enjoy each other, you're more than likely headed for divorce.
As much as I hate to say so, sex is an important factor in any relationship and should be considered as such. And as for me, that's a hell no. I gave it up on the third date, that boy, now my husband, had/has too much body for me to resist.
The one thing that I wish we had done is live together before getting married...but that's another question.
Sex before marriage. It's 2012. Simple as that, lol.
Religious or "church" people actually tend to be among the most educated, mostly college graduates, at least in the region where I live. In fact in the USA, church attenders are mostly in the higher income brackets. Different denominations have totally different outlooks and levels of sexual acceptance. Not far from me are Baptist churches with gay pastors, gay & lesbian deacons/deaconesses. There are different levels of acceptance of all things sexual among the different religions.
If someone thinks it is important to remain a virgin until marriage it is their business and they deserve respect. They obviously have strong will power and discipline.
Furthermore, being bigoted against people who are religious is just that, BIGOTRY!
Bigotry is a sign of ignorance!
Guys, just be cautious on expressing your ideas. I'm a student of law that's why I reprimand someone in this site to stop defaming the religious institutions on the marriage-before-sex issue. The church can do a valid intervention on that but in the end, THE DECISION WILL ALWAYS DEPEND ON AN INDIVIDUAL. So just be wary about your words. You can be charge of committing oral defamation. You're comments here should always be CIVIL AND JUST. Prove it that you are already civilized. I know we are liberal here and free to express our opinion. But not to the extent that YOU ARE ACTUALLY DEPRIVING THE OTHER'S RIGHTS IN THEIR FREEDOM TO BELIEVE. After all, marriage is not just all about sex, but it also complies with harmony and unison..and you can't easily find it with just having sex. Few couples had a great sex however, they still end up of separation.
I'm right up there with "sexy sofie"......
I wouldn't walk into a car dealership and hand over the money for a new car without a test drive. So i wouldn't marry a man that i didn't feel i was compatible with in bed. Marriage isn't all about sex but......It has been proven time and time again that most marriages break up over sex or money.
Yes Naughty_Magician ........your suppose to have sex after the kids come along.......Laughs.
In my opinion, sex before marriage is an individuals/couples opinions however, meaningless sex with no emotional attachment or a attraction can have a big influence on someones outtake on this subject. If someone has sex just to have it and they enjoy doing that good for them. When someone has sex with no attachments, he/she would probably regret it afterwards and wouldn't see any point in sex and waiting till marriage.
I have to agree with most people's assessment of sex BEFORE marriage. Waiting until after is placing an extraordinary importance on either virginity or sexual compatibility and without that compatibility the marriage is going to be an unhappy one. Why risk that for the sake of a currently-odd moral superiority feeling? If you want to feel that "first time" is special, that's fine, make it so, but you don't have to wait for someone else's "official" sanction to do so. Many patriarchal-based religions based this "waiting until married" business on valued virginity and some man's moral superiority that he was the "first". That's really a condescending attitude. Historically, numerous examples of men giving their virgin brides syphillis occured because before marriage the man had already visited prostitutes and then the innocent bride reaped a very shocking and unpleasant disease through no fault of her own.
That said, what is the bottom-line purpose of waiting until you are religiously or civil-ceremony joined in wedlock? Is it moral, religious, social, or other influence? Is it what your families "expect"? Is it because one or both partners think it's right? Ask yourselves these questions before committing to a potential lifetime of sexual incompatibility.
When the love of a woman drew me to seek the profound intimacy of sexual union I demonstrated my love by basing that intimacy on the lifelong commitment of marriage. Was it worth the pain? Yes! Would I change that now if I had the opportunity? No!
True intimacy and belonging are not found in mere sensuality but in profound, livelong commitment to one another. That's so many are seeking, but not finding.
When the love of a woman drew me to seek the profound intimacy of sexual union I demonstrated my love by basing that intimacy on the lifelong commitment of marriage. Was it worth the pain? Yes! Would I change that now if I had the opportunity? No!
True intimacy and belonging are not found in mere sensuality but in profound, lifelong commitment to one another. That's what so many are seeking, but not finding.
Im much more a believer of living with the person before marriage then anything else. It may be stupid or childish even, but what become sparks for the implosion of a relationship are the little everyday things. Clothes on the floor, where you leave your towel, the way you eat when guests arent around, how you carry yourself in your privare moments are all catalists to fights.
if you want to know someone, go through a kilo of salt with them. By the end of the bag, you have experienced a log with that person - if you two are still talking, then the relationship is a good one.
Sex is a consequence of pre-established modus operantis of the relationship. This is usually clear from your first date. If you are in a relationship and are considering marriage while still not sexual, then sex is really not an important factor in the relationship. Wait.
If sex is important to you two, then i believe that living together will provide you with plenty of oportunities to explore each other.
In my view it's silly to wait until marriage in order to have sex, but it's also silly not to use contraceptives and that's a bargain some people make.
But to give it a brief defense, if you know you won't have sex before marriage then your dating goals may be more 'get to know her' then 'get in the sack', which is certainly better in the long run.
You always try on shoes before you buy them, right? You have to make sure they fit and are right for you. Sigh...but shoes do wear out don't they? lol
there is no way that i could marry a guy with out knowing "what hes working with"
nly crazy people or religious nutters could marry before having sex.
To religious nutters! 
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