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I'm not looking for a dictionary definition, I'm looking for what it means to you. People talk about wanting more than sex; wanting real intimacy. What does that mean for you?
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How do you define intimacy?
I think that intimacy would not be just respect, sex and friendship, but a mutual trust that is something almost impossible to have in a relationship.Who have this trust in which you can say whatever is bothering without really hurting the other?
A very good question. I myself find a big difference between sex and intimacy. To my mind intimacy is that feeling of trust, closeness, warmth, desire, love, lust that has to be built up between partners in order for them to enjoy really satisfying sex. It is all those small gestures and endearing words two people say to each other to show their partner they love them, want them, need them...It is like an island where they resort to in order to escape all the world that surrounds them and dive into this unique world of inimacy that makes all the difference in the world ...
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An openness in communication in the relationship that is a meshing of thoughts, feelings, emotions of the heart and soul ... SEX is can be a part of intimacy, but certainly NOT the defining component.
For me it means of warmth, of being comfortable with someone, knowing you can say something that may be just of plain nonsense yet carries of that undertone meaning of something in a share of feelings. A slight touch of hands, a smile .... a shared looked across a room filled with people, that look of share means so much that there are no words needed to explain its meaning. Its not about what you can do for each other or even the words but what you feel inside when all said and done at the end of a long day, both too tired to even think let alone partake in sexual play .... its that falling asleep in each others arms, shared warmth, shared sighs of " luv you " before drifting off to sleep. Prolly not what most would view as intimacy but is my view, my take .... my way.
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Letting all your guards down around that person, knowing you can do and say what you need to without judgement.
And being able to play fart tag with them. LMAO
And being able to play fart tag with them. LMAO
I think that intimacy to me is reaching into that level that is not shared with others, sometimes only for a select few, closest friends who understand and are postitive, or possibly no one else. It is that feeling of being willing and comfortable-like you can talk about anything. Silence is not akward either and the place of "just being" is sufficent together as well as intimate in and of itself. When you are on that deeper level of being able to discuss your true and deepest feelings and share that part of yourself without retaliation or riddicule. Such a comradeship as to reach into those inner most private thoughts, dreams, fears, fantasies, and feelings and feel safe or willing to do so.
I think it's that special closeness that draws you to each other because it is where you each want to be. It isn't always sexual it can be quiet , a word a kiss or hug even a silly smooch. As Sofie said maybe just falling asleep in each others arms . To me that is certainly intimate. You talk and are genuine when you ask how you are or how was your day because the mundane of their lives is important to you. I find leaving notes or messages when you think of someone is another sign of intimacy or that you are inclined to be so with that person. So in the end reflecting upon what I wrote and that of the others.... It's the little things that add up between you.
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I think it's that special closeness that draws you to each other because it is where you each want to be. It isn't always sexual it can be quiet , a word a kiss or hug even a silly smooch. As Sofie said maybe just falling asleep in each others arms . To me that is certainly intimate. You talk and are genuine when you ask how you are or how was your day because the mundane of their lives is important to you. I find leaving notes or messages when you think of someone is another sign of intimacy or that you are inclined to be so with that person. So in the end reflecting upon what I wrote and that of the others.... It's the little things that add up between you.
"Exactly "
FOR me it is a Emotional Intimate relationship potent feelings of attachment, an Authentic and Enduring bond, a Sense of Mutual Commitment, the Profound feeling of Mutual Caring, feeling Proud of a mate's accomplishment, and the Satisfaction that Comes from Sharing Goals and Perspective,TRUST,Secure feelings..
To me intimacy is that level of profound relationship where your mutual trust is blind and where you let off all hurdles and hesitations in personal love and affiliation. I think that here we must also understand that intimacy has nothing to do with what we can do for each other and at the same time we draw and exhibit instant willing response to each other.... Intimacy, however has so many pertinences such as intimacy between lovers, parents and children, teacher and students etc....
Having said that I now come over second part of your question...."What does that mean for you?" Well, I value intimacy till the time blind faith exists
Having said that I now come over second part of your question...."What does that mean for you?" Well, I value intimacy till the time blind faith exists