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How big a gap in years would you consider ok for a sexual partner?
Rookie Scribe
This somewhat depends upon just how old you are. When I was 26, I loved an eighteen-year old, and although we had a strong connection, the age difference proved to be too much. Now I'm much, much older, and my sweetheart is fourteen years younger than me, and it hasn't been and won't be a problem for us.
For an interesting take on this issue, check out a new film called Liberal Arts. Josh Radnor is 35, and he meets, and has a strong connection with, a 19-year old Elizabeth Olsen. As their characters are drawn on the screen, they are almost perfect for each other, if not for the age difference. In some ways, she is more mature than he is, and in the end, she helps him grow up. And no, nothing creepy happens between them.
For an interesting take on this issue, check out a new film called Liberal Arts. Josh Radnor is 35, and he meets, and has a strong connection with, a 19-year old Elizabeth Olsen. As their characters are drawn on the screen, they are almost perfect for each other, if not for the age difference. In some ways, she is more mature than he is, and in the end, she helps him grow up. And no, nothing creepy happens between them.
Active Ink Slinger
This is a hard question to answer. I was going to say maybe 20 years. My current lover is quite a bit younger than I and I wonder about that age gap. Oh, its fine for now, at least he has the energy to keep up...but will he have the energy to take care of me when I am old, decrepit, and feeble minded? So if its just a lover, then hey, the gap doesn't matter. But for a lifelong love partner, I think the gap should be far less, maybe 5-10 years.
Well, my wife is 9 years older than me, so that's my starting point. She comes from a very different culture (she's an immigrant to Canada whereas I grew up here) than me, though, so most of our issues come from that culture gap rather than the age gap.
I feel, though I'm not exactly armed with evidence, that once you get out towards 20 or so years older or younger, generation gap issues could start to come in. Popular culture turns over every 10-20 years (sometimes recycling, sometimes going somewhere new) so your points of reference and attitudes change as part of that, making sustaining a relationship more difficult. Heck, my brother is only 8 years younger than me and we don't have all the same cultural touchpoints.
Now, that's not to say that you can't have great SEX with someone much older or younger than you or even some great non-sexual fun, I just wonder how people from two different generations culturally (say a 60s hippie and a 90s grunge fan) could realistically sustain a lasting connection like a marriage or long-term sexual relationship.
So, for me personally it's probably my age +/- 10 years for a serious relationship, but I could go wider for just a hook-up or FWB.
I feel, though I'm not exactly armed with evidence, that once you get out towards 20 or so years older or younger, generation gap issues could start to come in. Popular culture turns over every 10-20 years (sometimes recycling, sometimes going somewhere new) so your points of reference and attitudes change as part of that, making sustaining a relationship more difficult. Heck, my brother is only 8 years younger than me and we don't have all the same cultural touchpoints.
Now, that's not to say that you can't have great SEX with someone much older or younger than you or even some great non-sexual fun, I just wonder how people from two different generations culturally (say a 60s hippie and a 90s grunge fan) could realistically sustain a lasting connection like a marriage or long-term sexual relationship.
So, for me personally it's probably my age +/- 10 years for a serious relationship, but I could go wider for just a hook-up or FWB.
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if its someone i love age isnt an issue
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Got to agree with the majority here, Its only a number. The feelings are what matters. I was lucky enough to have sex with someone 30 years younger than me, and we both loved it. Pleasing your partner comes before worrying about age.
Rookie Scribe
Age is just a number .... ;)
Active Ink Slinger
Chuckles.. They say age is just a number..and it is.. I'm a "mature" gentleman...to say the least, but I like this quote.."How old would you be, if you didn't know how old you were?" I'd suggest younger people get to know the 'person' forget the age.. Just saying..
All are welcome... I don't believe there is any gap too big ;-) I've had sex partners 20 years younger and 40+ years older! I've had two 'boyfriends' each 20 years older than me. I remember one older gentleman who was very good with his hands massaging me, getting all horny and hot from rubbing me all over, sadly, he was no longer able to get it up, but he slid on a strap on, fucked me and got off cumming inside the hollow dildo!
I notice a lot of comments about love... but the question was about a sex partner... don't need to love them LOL
Active Ink Slinger
Age is only in the mind. I have meet many young guns that act like old farts and some older ones that have more energy than me. It's all about chemistry if it has sizzle and pop who cares about age. 
Primus Omnium
Considering I am 64, I think anyone down to and including 18 is fine with me.
Purveyor of Sweetness
just make me laugh and be a good kisser... i am all in...
well... maybe personal hygiene is an issue as well..
well... maybe personal hygiene is an issue as well..
Active Ink Slinger
I agree that age does not matter but that should not mean sex with underage. I think I will approve a sexual partner by remaining within the bounds of morality, law and social norms. And another important aspect is that my partner should be wise enough to feel my desires, physically strong enough to meet my never ending demands, kind enough to ensure that I am satisfied and generous enough to spend sometime cuddling after we're done.
I like the way you make me feel even when I'm nowhere near...
As it comes for sexual partners I don't think I have any preference other than legal and attractive enough for me to get it up, although if I was to go to bed with a woman in her late 40's and 50's she would have to look damn good!
As far as relationship I'd want someone near my own age, plus minus 5 years , simply so we're at the same stage of life together.
As far as relationship I'd want someone near my own age, plus minus 5 years , simply so we're at the same stage of life together.
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To me age doesn't matter it's more what a person can bring