I turned to having an affair after my LL wife made it clear that she did not enjoy sex anymore. Our marriage became celibate. I was faced with stark choices: 1. remain celibate (too difficult, and, frankly, I didn’t see why I should) 2. leave my wife and find someone else (not an option; I love my wife and adore our children) 3. pay for sex 4. have an online affair. This last one seemed the “least bad” option. I reasoned with myself that even though paying for sex was just sex, an animal act, and I was not being emotionally unfaithful, I was being financially unfaithful because I was spending our hard earned money on something my wife did not want.
But there was another reason to have an online affair. Certainly my ego would be stroked more by having an affair and that’s what I knew I wanted. I would know that the person was doing it because she found me attractive, rather than just being paid. For some reason this made it feel even better to me.
Even though the risk of emotional attachment by one or both of us would be great, that’s a good thing. I find it erotic, like watching a paperclip pulled into the invisible force field of a strong magnet a few inches away. The thrill and excitement of animal attraction can be intoxicating.