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friends with benefits, married or not, do you have one?

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Yes I've had a couple of FWB's. it's something that's pretty common place these days and I'd recommend it to anyone. As long as you don't start to get feelings or it will get messy. Amazing fun though xx
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I am married, I do and we did work together but not anymore.
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I am not in the market for a relationship of any kind right now. I have four FWB type friendships right now. Three guys and 1 lady. The lady would like it to be more as she is looking for a father for her 6 year old child, but from the very first night we met I was up front with her. She continues to look for what she wants. In the meantime she has a little fun with me and a few other guys.

Only one of the FWB's is married and that one has been going on for about 3 years. The other 2 guys are more recent things. Neither of them are married but don't want relationships either.
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Quote by BelleduJour
I've never had one but have had offers over the years, even when I was in a very long and unhappy marriage. I never took anyone up on their offer or let things go any further than just talking about it. Perhaps I thought I couldn't handle it emotionally? I think I would consider it more seriously these days (at least in between relationships) and maybe even take the plunge provided there were indeed some 'rules' - I think the rules would be kinda important.


Rules are very important... Though if the other person breaks the rules, then they end up getting hurt or left feeling used...
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i have a friends with benefits but it sucks when someone catches feelings or if they break the rules and they stars wanting to actually be in your life
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Unfortunately, i'm stuck with a crush on a beautiful spanish girl that i work with. Last had a friend with benefits a couple of months ago, sadly, that was also my best friends girlfriend. obviously that didn't end well!
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She did have a bf the first time we got it on.
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Quiet a few FWB. Some married some not ;)
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Yes, I had several in college; and have more recently, on a couple occasions.
It's never been an affair, as such, more like spur of the moment no-strings sex between two bored married people looking to reclaim some of the spontaneous passion we once had in our lives
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yes I have several FWBs and it all works well when timing right,
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Well, I am very happily married, my husband and I live the "Hotwife" lifestlye, so I do have a cadre of FWBs, all with his full knowledge and approval.
We frequently have them to our home for dinner, then I go out and play with them.
Wonderful way to go!
"When its too kinky for everybody else, its just gettin' good for me."
(Kinky Freedman)
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I had one. I told her about my situation and that I was not going to leave home because of not getting any and we could help each other since she wasn't either. She said fine sex only but that lasted 6 months before she wanted more than I could give. It was a great 6 months. Younger woman. Ah teaching her a few things was sure fun. She was 12 years younger in case the admins are worried.
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I don't think I would be able to keep feelings out of friends with benefits. It might change but I think I'm more of the relationship type.
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Do you include the ones here on lush? If your giving of your mind freely would that not be as equal as if you gave your body?
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Never had one
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the ONLY friend I ever asked about it (we'd gotten close to sex a couple of times but each of us had backed out at different times) suddenly went ALL stupid and wanted to know if I was asking her to MARRY ME?! I asked if she'd lost her mind (we've both been divorced before and are GUN SHY to say the least) and then explained that I was asking about getting together once in a while for mutual satisfaction and hadn't said ANYTHING that remotely SOUNDED like a proposal of marriage!
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Quote by Quietguy3
I don't think I would be able to keep feelings out of friends with benefits. It might change but I think I'm more of the relationship type.

I'm the same, I'd end up either becoming attached or losing the frienship.
Although for just sex I have no problem about having sex with strangers.
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my last lover was my best friend first

I loved him and found him desirable for he was my friend

I don't think I could sleep with someone I liked so much and not have feelings

I so agree with DPW....

but to me after the loss of my friend and lover

I would vote to keep the friend every time
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No friend with benefits here.
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Nearly all our friends are with benefits.
Being in the lifestyle and surrounding ourselves with similar people, it's bound to happen!
But that doesn't mean we will be doing things behind our spouses backs!
It's actually a turn on knowing we share all with our spouses

Kisses!

Steph
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Yes I (we) have had one for a while now and its been great. Hope it continues for long time!!
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Yes I (we) have had one for a while now and its been great. Hope it continues for long time!!


What a slut!!!!

I'm your friend .....

Note: "I'm your friend" means, yes
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Angel, You are so sweet! LOL!

Kisses!

Steph
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Yes i have one or two or a few!!
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Used to have one a few years ago. Wish I had one now
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Married. Don't have any and wife doesn't want any for me or her. I'm starting to think it would help the both of us though.
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Quote by Nikki703
Yes I (we) have had one for a while now and its been great. Hope it continues for long time!!


You've devestated me Nikki! Time to move past my fantasy!!
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Yes. My ex and aren't together anymore (obviously, that's what "ex" stands for) but we decided to still have sex
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No. I don't have a friend with benefits. but, I sure would like one...;) It could never be with my X wife I would rather **Removed by moderator. Too violent.** her then have sex with her.
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A handy friend to have. No expectations, just good sex when you need it.