Everybody joins a site for different reasons. Some are similar reasons, but since we are all individuals, so the reasons and details vary. There are trends and certain groups of people/attitudes that increase or decrease at different times for different reasons.For instance, there has been a rise of know-it-all, aggressive, insulting behaviour recently. But there is also a rise in sweet, quieter folk, or those secure enough in themselves not to bother responding to people who need to get out more.
The site is growing every single day. Therefore, trends and groups will change more dramatically, since they are more noticeable.
Hardcock69, your attitude in this thread says to me that perhaps you are struggling to find people to cyber with because of your attitude and/or approach. I might be wrong, but that's what I see. Maybe you are right, and the stories upon which Lush is based have crossed over the boundaries into the forums more than they did at other times. Were you here in the very beginning? Perhaps the past Lush you speak of was never that shape in the beginning. I am more than willing to bet it wasn't. I like to string words together. I use them to explore my own feelings about sex. I do the same on another site to explore my feelings about an illness I have, and my self-esteem, and how others feel about themselves. Some of my sentence groups have sex stuff in them, and others don't. If I write about fairies, am I a writer? Or not, because they aren't real, and I haven't been paid for the story? If I write about depression and how it makes me feel, or try to explain it for those who don't have it, am I a writer, or just a wannabe doctor/psychiatrist? I write my sentences to explore things, or escape from the real world for a bit. And I share them, because a few people like to read them. Sometimes they cry, so they tell me. Sometimes they wank. Sometimes they feel anger, and sometimes they laugh. To affect another's emotions through my word sentences, and even their physical body, is usually unintentional from my point of view. But if somebody identifies with what I have shared, or feels challenged positively, or, best of all, they spent a few minutes feeling happier because of me, then what I shared becomes a joy to me. I don't care if you don't think I am a real writer, just because I am learning what turns of phrase can make a willy hard, or a vagina get all wet. To be honest, I feel very uncomfortable thinking about those things. But I am learning about other people, and they read my sentences, and many people send me messages about how reading my words has been a good experience for them. It isn't just about the sex stories, but how we view the world. or deal with how others treat us. I don't want to cyber with you, because, in all honesty, I find your postings to be mean and aggressive. You do actually scare me a little bit, as well as make me want to flip you the V. I find talking about personal sexual things very difficult, and it's none of your business why that is. I don't want to string words together for you, and only you, to tug your appendages over. I don't know you, and I don't like what I have seen. Maybe others feel that way too. Maybe you need to think about how you approach people. read a story, send the author a message. Try a different time of day. Surf profiles, send a kind message to somebody who put up their pictures. Try being nicer than you have appeared in this thread. I am happy helping other people who string words together do that more coherently, or giving them a giggle. I am happy learning about sex and sexuality through words, whether it is in the forums, or through the stories that I edit, reject, or verify. You come here for different reasons to me, and that's fine. But you don't need to be rude about it, because it makes you look like a big tosser (not in the fun way). My stories contain a range of things, all of which I am learning about by being here. Whether you think my sentences are erotic or not doesn't matter. A few other people think they are, and if they like them, and I continue to enjoy producing them, then I shall always be happier than you. I found a home in Lush, and even when I need to take a break from it (frequently), I am still aware of the value it has for me. The problem when it no longer meets my needs is not Lush, or the other people, really. It's my attitude and state of mind. I have a break, and then I return, refreshed and calm. Perhaps you could try this, whether you keep the same name or not. You can always deactivate your account for a bit. Whatever you choose to do, I think cyber sex might be off the cards for you here, at least for a little while.EDIT: P.S. My Gold membership was gifted to me by a friend. Am I up myself because of that?
, so let them tell it!! I take as much pleasure in writing a story as I am taking in reading one. I follow a few authors and most of my friends are renowned writers, story tellers or narrators
