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the_joker
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ive found guys in the chat rooms are a bit to forward. this being the way it is and there being nothing i can do, ive come here to rant. im not talking about all guys on here just about 75% of them, 50% of them hit up every female in the room which drives me nuts and i hold my self back eery time i see it, the other 50% of them dont even say hey, hi, hello or any thing before saying "wanna private". for that reason, when the other 25% of the guys try and talk to women they are (for the most part) blowin off with the 75% of the the guys. some of the guys here just want to talk most the time. say what you will i dont really care just dont fucking spam my inbox because you got butt hurt
ManInNewHampshire
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Being an ass hole is not gender specific. Granted a lot of guy are to weak to be a real man. But if a woman responds by spamming or just being a shit head is showing that she too is an ass hole.
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Quote by soilderguy
ive found guys in the chat rooms are a bit to forward. this being the way it is and there being nothing i can do, ive come here to rant. im not talking about all guys on here just about 75% of them, 50% of them hit up every female in the room which drives me nuts and i hold my self back eery time i see it, the other 50% of them dont even say hey, hi, hello or any thing before saying "wanna private". for that reason, when the other 25% of the guys try and talk to women they are (for the most part) blowin off with the 75% of the the guys. some of the guys here just want to talk most the time. say what you will i dont really care just dont fucking spam my inbox because you got butt hurt and your feeling got hurt


Are you ranting about the guys hitting on the lasses, or the guys hitting on the lasses and giving you a bad reputation because you're a guy too, or the lasses telling you off privately because the asshole guys got you a rep because you're a guy too, or that the asshole guys hit on the lasses and not you, or that you don't care what your rep is, you just don't like tinned meat filling up your in-box? Or, all of the above, or none of the above? Or, some of the above, or some of the above with some added extras?

I am refraining from mentioning the connection between your username and assholes (soilderguy), as it may be a simple spelling mistake. If it is, I would recommend using the Contact Us link from the drop-down box on your navigation panel under "Help", as Admin can change that.

As far as your rant goes, I hope it helped you. I always feel better after a rant. And I always feel better after singing along to this song, too:







Quote by ManinNewHampshire
Being an ass hole is not gender specific. But if a woman responds by spamming or just being a shit head is showing that she too is an ass hole.


I agree.

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TromeoQue
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So, you're talking about guys who assume because you're in a sex-chat room, you want to chat about sex?
Katje
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Quote by TromeoQue
So, you're talking about guys who assume because you're in a sex-chat room, you want to chat about sex?


You know, not everyone that's on here wants to only talk about sex all the time. I go into the chatrooms to talk about all kinds of things, and rarely is it sexual! A couple of the rooms that I frequent (including my own, when I open it) are areas where open sex is discouraged. It's just nice to be around fellow pervs, and lovers of erotica.
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mowerman05
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Quote by little_kitty


You know, not everyone that's on here wants to only talk about sex all the time. I go into the chatrooms to talk about all kinds of things, and rarely is it sexual! A couple of the rooms that I frequent (including my own, when I open it) are areas where open sex is discouraged. It's just nice to be around fellow pervs, and lovers of erotica.


Exactly,

I for one, go for the chats also, and if there happened to be any sex chat, it would be done outside the chatroom, I'm not one that needs to show off in a chatroom like i see happen lots of times, like they need the attention of others.
TromeoQue
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My point is a guy shouldn't feel afraid to talk to someone because they might get kicked out of a sex-chat room for chatting about sex. I'm not forceful or anything, but I've gotten threatened a few times because I had the bad luck to try to talk to someone who doesn't want to be talked to. It's a CHAT room, not a STAND IN THE CORNER HOPING SOMEBODY TALKS TO YOU room. I come to these places to get away from that bullshit.
Guest
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I don't mind being asked anything - even if the question is inappropriate (and for me, that means private like: where do you work, what's the name of the town you live in)

The irritating thing is when I'm asked "what to private" and I say "no" - and he asks again . . . and again. . . and then prods the topic. "Why not - why don't you want to?"

The repetitive questions get annoying. . . same thing goes for the inappropriate question. If I say 'no' or 'I don't talk about that' - I won't talk about it no matter how many times I'm asked.
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Folks, this IS a sex site, SOOO... there WILL BE a lot of that. I don't start conversations with anyone here; if some gal wants to talk to me let her make the first move. It eliminates a LOT of needless hassle for everyone.
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Quote by Wardog
Folks, this IS a sex site, SOOO... there WILL BE a lot of that. I don't start conversations with anyone here; if some gal wants to talk to me let her make the first move. It eliminates a LOT of needless hassle for everyone.


yep, that is the way to do it. Agree totally.


and wouldnt this be more appropriate in "The Rage Cage"?
syzygy
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Mere assholitry vs. being genuinely attracted to someone is a fine line, but I'd suggest it's no different here than it is in real life. You meet a girl, you can't just say "Let's fuck." She'll slap you, and you deserve to be slapped. You have to get to know her, be charming, put a little effort into it. Listen to her. Respond to her. At least read her profile. Same in real life as it is here. IMHO.
lafayettemister
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Newsflash: There are lots of lonely people out there.

I don't think it makes anyone an asshole to go into a chat room on a sex stories site and assume that there will be some other lonely people there looking for similar things. I'd assume people that go onto sites about basket weaving would assume others would be interested in talking about many things, including basket weaving.

Where being an asshole comes into play is when a guy initiates sex talk and his target declines. He should move on and not be offended that the girl didn't want to play with him. And not get all butthurt about it. Plenty other fish in the sea of Lush. But, seeking sexual gratification on a site centered around sex, that alone doesn't make anyone an asshole. IMO



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ok am new here..so this is just my opinion

but i might have to disagree with wardog...

this is not PER say JUST a sex site

i mean there are other places where there is no writing involved

just dick pics and rooms to roam

so to me if you are only looking to cum

may i suggest those

but i thinking being an asshole has no gender

some women on here are just as aggressive as men

yes you can ask me about sex or ask...me

but when i say no thank you

i expect you to obey
Guest
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Ok then what "per se" is it? Bottomline, some people are more visual in nature while others are auditory and still others prefer using their imagination to "envision" in their minds which is helped along by what they read. End of the day it still gets them to the same place.
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it is just my opinion war dog nothing else sugar

I don't believe every person on here is on to have sex...period

talk about sex..yes

actual fucking...no
Lilkate
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I agree, not every conversation has to be about sex for everyone to enjoy it. As a matter of fact I meet the most wonderful girl here and I became absolutely mad about her even though our conversations never became sexual till later. I admit, it use to bother me to no end that men and women would start the conversation with “do you want to private” or something like that and I use to take it very personally, but I finally came to realize that “this is the internet” and not everyone is who he/she claimed to be and not every behavior is meant to solicit the same reaction. Now I don’t mind it if someone approach me in a way that I don’t deem appreciate to my taste, I am certain that there are some people who like the direct approach, I just don’t respond in the way that he/she would like for me to respond. You just need to worry about what you can control and manage the rest. me 2
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Quote by Lilkate
I agree, not every conversation has to be about sex for everyone to enjoy it. As a matter of fact I meet the most wonderful girl here and I became absolutely mad about her even though our conversations never became sexual till later. I admit, it use to bother me to no end that men and women would start the conversation with “do you want to private” or something like that and I use to take it very personally, but I finally came to realize that “this is the internet” and not everyone is who he/she claimed to be and not every behavior is meant to solicit the same reaction. Now I don’t mind it if someone approach me in a way that I don’t deem appreciate to my taste, I am certain that there are some people who like the direct approach, I just don’t respond in the way that he/she would like for me to respond. You just need to worry about what you can control and manage the rest. me 2

sup, dude?
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I don't do the chat rooms for a variety of reasons and one of them is the incessant demand to go private. I think people should do what they want to do. But for me the aggressive types are a big turn off in life and online.
headhunter13
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For me I feel before you get to that point you should actually spend some time talking with them, find out what they like. Why would you want to jump into a sexual conversation without knowing anything about the other person.
OlderGent114
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This is a very complex issue......companionship, and the need for it, sometimes makes people a little aggresive, but sometimes that just because of the need to be heard. I agree with everyone that this issue is not just with the male side of the equation. I have found rudeness in both ther men and the women. Soooooo many times you say hi and your window isnt even opened its just closed out of hand. How hard is it to say.....sorry i am busy.....sorry i have read your profile and i am not ineterested......sorry on my way out....any of those. If i get asked or poked(which i am not fond of) i go and read their profile to see if its someone i may be interested in. Thats just respectful. I am sorry....i debated with myself for even offering my 2 cents worth. Is it too much to bring a little respect for that others persons feelings. I should clarify that this is both for in the chatrooms(although i dont go there often) as well as when you are signed in. It is such a breath of fresh air when you meet a friendly person in here. One who will give you the time of day.
OlderGent114
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Sorry for that long rant.
Guest
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If this has anything to do with Chat Rooms...it's the old adage. Fools play in the land of Lala. Common sense and pure logic rules. That is if you have some quotient of intelligence. One is dealing with an element that has problems tying shoestrings without the assistance of a map. Men and women where I come from, don't say anything in a chat room that they wouldn't in front of their mother. The ironic thing of it is...no one will block. Many find simple minded men amusing. However, it shows just how far men have walked backwards through the years. Respect is 'no' word.
pricklypear
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check it out...i managed to find 1 of the ass holes!

GunGirlJess
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Uh yeah...have to agree. Nothing is more cringe-inducing to me than someone sending me a message, "PUSSY PIC!" Hello, who are you and why would I do that? I've been tempted to send them photos of cats.