I don't think one person here can justify a belief in "love at first sight"; it's just impossible, in my view. Even after one meeting, it's highly unlikely that you could be much more than infatuated with someone.
Lots of people talk about "lust at first sight" but I'm not really interested in that. There will always be people who we see and instantly go, "DAYUM!". C'est la vie.
However, I don't think it's so unlikely that you could make a real connection with someone almost instantly. It's not love but sometimes there's an undeniable spark between two people that makes you sit up and take notice and think, "There might be something to this."
The first night I met my now girlfriend, I was dumbfounded by the girl. The conversation was so fluid, so natural. The more I found out about her, the more I began to think that there was something really special about this girl. I didn't think I was falling in love with her or anything silly like that, only that there was some reason why we had been brought together to meet like that. After that first meeting, I thought about her a lot.
As unlikely as it sounds, I knew from the first time I met her that our relationship would not be a trivial one. I didn't know if that meant we would be together or become great friends (or great enemies) but I knew there was something between us.
I would like to invite the members of Lush to share their experiences of making an unmistakeable connection with someone the first time you met them, or even laid eyes on them. When was the last time someone really made an instant impression on your life that you knew would last a long time?
I don't disagree with you. I don't much care for the phrase 'love at first sight.' While cliche's have their place, it's over-used, and, quite frankly, inacurate. I understand the meaning behind it, however. There are people that one meets, and there's that instant connection. It isn't explainable, but, when the chemistry is there, it's there.
Six years ago, give or take, I was introduced to someone. I had heard little enough of him, but, from what I had heard, I was fully prepared to dislike. Never before, never since, have I had that sort of instantaneous jolt. The ease in which we were able to speak to one another was amazing. Have you ever been had someone you could seemingly have a conversation with, without saying a word? That's the sort of connection I share with this man. I couldn't tell you what my feelings for him are. I consider him my 'more than.' He's more than a friend. Definitely more than a casual partner. I couldn't explain my relationship with him if my life depended on it, though. We each live a complicated life. In another lifetime, we would be the subject of both romance novels and fantastic amature porn. In this life, at least, in the present..we're just...more.
I don't believe in "love in first sight."
I think love, like all things in life needs to worked toward. And how are we supposed to know what love is? I don't mean to sound like a Debbie downer, but I honestly don't know what love is. And if we don't know, how can we fall in love then?
Also, many don't seem to know the difference between love and lust...
I agree if you meet someone, and there is chemistry; that relationship is definitely work working on! But love at first sight seems like an overused cliche meant to boost up peoples' spirit.
I think "Lust" at first sight is more feasible than "Love".
I agree Clum. "Love at first sight" is for the movies.
I´d go a little further and say that this "fluidity" can happen even if its not a sexual. I ahve had many friendships that started like this.
I dont knw when 1 nods for 'luv at 1st sight' is saying thr truth or just quoting the phrase bt mine is the true case of the same.
I was 16 (i knw wat r u thinking, it wasnt Infatuation) n met dis guy who was just 17. we met at a gathering n went our ways. we did talk bt only casual. But after dat day i was never the same gal i used to be. He was always wandering in my mind........
After 2-3 days of dis meeting he called me n said he cant think nething else but me. I was shocked 2 knw dis dat hw can he too hv d same feelings as mine. we both live in diff cities so i didnt meet him for 7 long yrs. Talking on phone was rare too. I knw dat long dist relationship hardly works but it wasnt a hurdle for us coz We really Loved each other. In the meanwhile a lot of guys proposed to me bt i refused as I nevr felt for the other boys as i felt for HIM. 3yrs back he came to my city n we dated like a real couple since den. and surprisingly v were so compatible with each other dat no 1 could imagine dat We had met only Once.
I m getting married to him most probably in April dis year n Our Love is evergrowing . I really Thank God for dat brief meeting we had 10 yrs ago.
P.S. Even when something sounds 'impossible', there can be an 'exception '.
I think everyone seems to be describing love at first sight but wants to call it a different name - spark, chemistry; whatever it is, it's there - no denying it and whenever I've followed my instincts during such times the relationship has always been memorable.
I'm not sure I believe in love at first sight. It takes time to develop that level of emotion, in my opinion. I do believe that you can have an instant connection as you described with your girlfriend, Clum, and sometimes, that connection leads to love.
As for my own story, I met my husband in the 11th grade and have been with him ever since, so I don't have any interesting stories about eyes meeting over a crowded room or anything.
I believe in boner at first sight. But love? naaaah
I met an ex at a bar and I've always said I would never pick a guy up at a bar.
He and his buddy saved me and my friend from some werid guy that wouldn't leave us alone. I was instantly attracted to him and we talked all night and hit it off. He took my number but I never thought I would hear from him again.
A day later he called me we talked for nearly two hours and then decided to meet up but neither of us was in the best place in our lives to date or start a realtionship. When we went out we continued to find out that we had a lot in common and the attraction between us continued to grow and grow that we found that we just had to be together.
Before I met him I always said that I'm not one of those girls that goes crazty over a guy and falls easily. But with him I didn't even know how hard and fast I was falling, we used to always try and call each other's bluff and see who would back down first. We slowly talked about relocating, marriage and then kids. For the first time in my life I was willing to leave London for life in Swindon, I was willing to talk about marriage and wanted kids with him.
But as I said we wasn't in the right place for our relationship to work and broke up a few months into the relationship.
Was it love at first sight? No. But I did know that when I me thim that first night in the bar and on the unofficial first date he was someone truly special.
It's just a shame it was the right person but wrong time.
I do believe.
I am hopeful.
yeah, I hope so.
I met my best friend here at Lush. I knew from our first conversation that she was quite special and someone I hoped to have in my life. I've never been with anyone as wonderful as her, and I'm very lucky to have stumbled across her. Some people have a way of touching your soul that no one else can do. It may not be "love at first sight", but for me, it was definitely an attraction and a spark that I didn't want to let go. Sometimes you just meet someone that makes such good harmony. It's rare, but it's so delighful, if you are fortunate enough to find it.
Nowadays, love at first sight is especially impossible since most people are too busy texting. Wonder how many chance encounters have been squandered to updating one's status?
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