Since my time here on Lush I have gotten the chance to talk with a lot of people. I have lately encounter people telling me that I am rude for not wanting to waste time talking to them and if I am not open to talking to people I should not be a member of this site. These people that I refuse to talk to are the ones that I know nothing about. Is it so wrong of me that if someone has not taken the time to put up an avatar picture or any picture at all or if a person has put no information about themselves, that I don't talk to them? Should I talk to every random person who pops up and give them a chance? I don't think I am being rude. I was wanting to know what others opinions were on this subject.
Hey, this is quite a difficult question. Both sides of the argument could be very right depending on the circumstances. I recently joined Lush and didnt have any pictures up, although I did create a bio. i quickly added pictures as i noticed thats what most others had up also and after a guy who started chatting with me requested. However, I felt bad that i was constantly rejected when I wanted to chat with someone. When I finally did post pictures up, I still kept being rejected. I noticed many girls stated in their profile, that they don't like being randomly IMed by guys especially and thought i wasnt very liked b/c of the content of my pictures. But thats what lush is all about! I thought these girls were probably thinking I just wanted to talk about fucking them. But even if I was, so be it! we are in a "sex community". But I didnt just want to talk about naughty things. I want to get to know people and share experiences and learn form the other. If they had only given me a chance, maybe we'd be good lush friends. So I do think you should give people who chat with you a small opporunity.
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No...you are most definitely not wrong...
What an awful, snobbish thing to do. Didn't your mother teach you to be polite and not ignore others?
But if people have such highly inflated opinions of themselves that they think they are worth anyone and everyone's time then it just confirms they are definitely not worth the trouble. There is likely only one thing on their mind anyway.
ok, my opinion? no, you are NOT wrong, everything Doll said? take it to heart. btw, i tend to block everyone, and appear offline most of the time as well - my first 3 weeks here were spent being bombarded with chat requests and IMs and many of them were pushy and rude if i wasn't able to respond imediately ( you try it when 7 different people are tying to chat at you at once!) and, of course, a percentage were simply after cyber...
so, as Doll said, this is, primarlily, a writing site - sure, it's fun to socialize, and many of us do, but there are no rules that say you have to be one way or the other here - if you want, you can ignore everyone, and simply write, or, do what many of us do, get close to a small handful of people and do most of your socializing with them, post in forums from time to time, it's YOUR time and you don't have to answer to anyone - and if they think that's snobbish, well, probably better off not taking the time to befriend them - really, it's like real life, some people you click with, and others, you might wave and say hi, but that's about it. no one has the right to tell you that you should be friendly to everyone, because, really, there's like 50,000 people here!
ps - be my BFF or i will throw myself off a virtual cliff *giggles*
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
Nothing wrong with not wanting to chat with everyone who seeks conversation. Just because this site allows for chatting doesn't mean everyone wants to talk to everybody else.
there's always some sad little lonely person, who probably needs to get out more, waiting in the wings ready to tell you why not talking, cybering, displaying hundreds of X-rated pictures of yourself etc etc means you shouldn't be a member here.
Either ignore them or send them on their way as you would do if people behaved in such a ridiculous way in real life. Don't stop for even a second and let it bother you, it's just pathetic people behaving in a pathetic manner.
But if you don't talk to them how on earth will you discover their open-minded world views and libertarian approach to life.
You should name and shame these idiots - they chase good people away from this site
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Why not read some stories instead
NEW! Want a quick read for your coffee break? Why not try this... Flash Erotica: Scrubber No, you;re definately not wrong. I dont talk to everyone who tries to talk to me, especially if they have no avatar or some ridiculous name like 'my-cock-is-20-inches-long-and-10-round', and if they start the conversation with 'alright babe?' (if i dont already know them) or 'wanna cyber/cam', theyre gone straight away. Its all there on my profile that i dont want to cyber and if they cant be bothered to read that first then im not gonna other with them.
Since having all that up on my profile i have noticed the amount of guys wanting to cam have gone down so its a good idea to put that up if you havent already
This makes me laugh that there are supposedly "grown men" (per site rules) throwing temper tantrums because you won't talk to them? Please excuse me as I walk away from the high school BS!
Listen to what all the others have posted here, ignore the snot nosed brats who try to push you into a conversation. If they are starting a relationship like this, chances are you won't be friends for long.
I don´t think you are doing anything wrong when you turn down to talk to some of the people. For my own i think a person have to "earn" the respect and so on to get talked to.
But that´s just my opinion
Go with your instincts, they sound pretty accurate.
Ermmm totally agree with most everyone here. I have a no chatting thing on my profile because I got sick of guys trying to cyber with me. Even when they professed to not wanting to cyber they then would begin to try do it while chatting. Buy a girl a drink first(rolls eyes)I loathe cybering as a result. I got to a point where I decided to not chat with anyone. If people really want to get hold of me they can sent a text line or a PM.I can then decide if I want to respond. I've even started to now be more selective with my friend list as I don't want to just randomly add people. You don't have to communicate with anyone if you don't want to.
I also loathe it when people tell me they are going to delete me if I don't chat with them. I'll then delete them myself. I think it's a form of emotional blackmail.
I think you have the right to talk to whomever you want. There's no rule somewhere that says you HAVE to talk to everyone. So don't worry too much about what others have to say.
Feel free to chat with anyone you feel comfortable to chat with and don't take it too hard from them that you don't want to chat with. That in it's self tells you how immature some are here. Just have fun with who you want to have fun and tell the others to go take a long walk on a short peir. ;)
We all are wrong sometimes, don´t worry. What was the question again?
Hello, of course you are not wrong, its your time and you are quite capable of deciding how you spend it...
I was going to offer you a tip, a how to kind of thing...but if i did that whoever reads the post will know the trick and it will become useless.
Not a trick question or a ruse to get your attention...if you would like to know let me know and I will pass on the technique.
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no, you are definately not wrong. It's the people who have empty profiles, no stories and no pics or comments on their profile that do my head in.
They clearly haven't made any effort whatsoever because all they want to do on this site is cuber with strangers... so I ignore them because that's not why I'M on this site, so they need to find someone else.
And I just want to cyber drop kick the losers that want to chat just so that they can say, Hi, I'm really horny, what are you wearing?? ..... err, HELLOOO, I'm a real person, and you don't even want to know my name first?? Now that's just plain bad manners.
I mean, no small talk or friend add or nothin'... In my opinion it's these people that are too lazy for foreplay before sex... you get out what you put in. do ya get me? xxx
Coming from a guy, no you are not wrong, ignore whoever you like. If I was a woman on this site I would be going mental lol. That's why I never randomly IM people on this site ever, just rude I think.
"One half of the world cannot understand the pleasures of the other." ~ Jane Austen
not a online relationship and I wont cheat on my man or cyber for a cheap thrill... 
better tell her/his straight and why you don't want to talk to that person by giving the fact not just ignoring them.
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