Since my time here on Lush I have gotten the chance to talk with a lot of people. I have lately encounter people telling me that I am rude for not wanting to waste time talking to them and if I am not open to talking to people I should not be a member of this site. These people that I refuse to talk to are the ones that I know nothing about. Is it so wrong of me that if someone has not taken the time to put up an avatar picture or any picture at all or if a person has put no information about themselves, that I don't talk to them? Should I talk to every random person who pops up and give them a chance? I don't think I am being rude. I was wanting to know what others opinions were on this subject.
Hey, this is quite a difficult question. Both sides of the argument could be very right depending on the circumstances. I recently joined Lush and didnt have any pictures up, although I did create a bio. i quickly added pictures as i noticed thats what most others had up also and after a guy who started chatting with me requested. However, I felt bad that i was constantly rejected when I wanted to chat with someone. When I finally did post pictures up, I still kept being rejected. I noticed many girls stated in their profile, that they don't like being randomly IMed by guys especially and thought i wasnt very liked b/c of the content of my pictures. But thats what lush is all about! I thought these girls were probably thinking I just wanted to talk about fucking them. But even if I was, so be it! we are in a "sex community". But I didnt just want to talk about naughty things. I want to get to know people and share experiences and learn form the other. If they had only given me a chance, maybe we'd be good lush friends. So I do think you should give people who chat with you a small opporunity.
No, and don't let random people guilt you into making you think you owe them anything. Would you talk to every guy that approached you in a bar or on the street? No. So why should it be different online. There are manipulative people out there that are probably trying to take advantage of the situation and are playing the "you're stuck up" card just because you don't drop your life to have a random online conversation and entertain them. This is a writing site first and foremost, it's not Adultfriendfinder or Match.com, nor is it a freebie webgirls site where you're supposed to roll over and drool when a red/white avatar with an empty profile contacts you for a chat, cyber session, pic-trade or webcam offer. You're a writer and that's why you're on this site. If you feel sufficiently intrigued to chat with someone, it should be a mutual decision, not one person guilting the other into it.
I don't chat with many people and make that clear on my profile. I'm also set to 'away' or invisible quite a lot as well. I know some people might think I'm a bit stand-offish or an ice-princess and a few people have mentioned I'm intimidating (?) which is strange because I'm actually very friendly and despite my current uber-bitch avatar, quite the fun girl. But, just like in bars, my guard goes up in social environments sometimes. I don't owe anyone anything, nor do they owe me. Making your intentions clear in your profile seems to work for me most of the time. At least then you have an 'out' when you reject an online chat. Everyone comes to Lush for different reasons, and everyone needs to respect that reality... if they can't respect that, then why should you respect their attempts to chat you up?
Good luck girl... the most important thing to remember is to do what you want. It's your "Lush life" and solely yours to control as you desire...
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What an awful, snobbish thing to do. Didn't your mother teach you to be polite and not ignore others?
But if people have such highly inflated opinions of themselves that they think they are worth anyone and everyone's time then it just confirms they are definitely not worth the trouble. There is likely only one thing on their mind anyway.
ok, my opinion? no, you are NOT wrong, everything Doll said? take it to heart. btw, i tend to block everyone, and appear offline most of the time as well - my first 3 weeks here were spent being bombarded with chat requests and IMs and many of them were pushy and rude if i wasn't able to respond imediately ( you try it when 7 different people are tying to chat at you at once!) and, of course, a percentage were simply after cyber...
so, as Doll said, this is, primarlily, a writing site - sure, it's fun to socialize, and many of us do, but there are no rules that say you have to be one way or the other here - if you want, you can ignore everyone, and simply write, or, do what many of us do, get close to a small handful of people and do most of your socializing with them, post in forums from time to time, it's YOUR time and you don't have to answer to anyone - and if they think that's snobbish, well, probably better off not taking the time to befriend them - really, it's like real life, some people you click with, and others, you might wave and say hi, but that's about it. no one has the right to tell you that you should be friendly to everyone, because, really, there's like 50,000 people here!
ps - be my BFF or i will throw myself off a virtual cliff *giggles*
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Nothing wrong with not wanting to chat with everyone who seeks conversation. Just because this site allows for chatting doesn't mean everyone wants to talk to everybody else.
there's always some sad little lonely person, who probably needs to get out more, waiting in the wings ready to tell you why not talking, cybering, displaying hundreds of X-rated pictures of yourself etc etc means you shouldn't be a member here.
Either ignore them or send them on their way as you would do if people behaved in such a ridiculous way in real life. Don't stop for even a second and let it bother you, it's just pathetic people behaving in a pathetic manner.
But if you don't talk to them how on earth will you discover their open-minded world views and libertarian approach to life.
You should name and shame these idiots - they chase good people away from this site
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No, you;re definately not wrong. I dont talk to everyone who tries to talk to me, especially if they have no avatar or some ridiculous name like 'my-cock-is-20-inches-long-and-10-round', and if they start the conversation with 'alright babe?' (if i dont already know them) or 'wanna cyber/cam', theyre gone straight away. Its all there on my profile that i dont want to cyber and if they cant be bothered to read that first then im not gonna other with them.
Since having all that up on my profile i have noticed the amount of guys wanting to cam have gone down so its a good idea to put that up if you havent already
This makes me laugh that there are supposedly "grown men" (per site rules) throwing temper tantrums because you won't talk to them? Please excuse me as I walk away from the high school BS!
Listen to what all the others have posted here, ignore the snot nosed brats who try to push you into a conversation. If they are starting a relationship like this, chances are you won't be friends for long.
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I don´t think you are doing anything wrong when you turn down to talk to some of the people. For my own i think a person have to "earn" the respect and so on to get talked to.
But that´s just my opinion
Why are you worried about what anyone else thinks especially a bunch of horny guys on a sex story site!!! Priorities hon - fuck um - do your own thing and those who don't like it can kiss your ass!
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Ermmm totally agree with most everyone here. I have a no chatting thing on my profile because I got sick of guys trying to cyber with me. Even when they professed to not wanting to cyber they then would begin to try do it while chatting. Buy a girl a drink first(rolls eyes)I loathe cybering as a result. I got to a point where I decided to not chat with anyone. If people really want to get hold of me they can sent a text line or a PM.I can then decide if I want to respond. I've even started to now be more selective with my friend list as I don't want to just randomly add people. You don't have to communicate with anyone if you don't want to.
I also loathe it when people tell me they are going to delete me if I don't chat with them. I'll then delete them myself. I think it's a form of emotional blackmail.
Quote by Loislane I also loathe it when people tell me they are going to delete me if I don't chat with them. I'll then delete them myself. I think it's a form of emotional blackmail.
There's a guy on my list (no names mentioned) who i never talk to and all his status is ever about is how he hates all the 'bitches' and 'sluts' on here that never talk to him...... funny how they're not sluts before they reject him ey?
Quote by Loislane I also loathe it when people tell me they are going to delete me if I don't chat with them. I'll then delete them myself. I think it's a form of emotional blackmail.
There's a guy on my list (no names mentioned) who i never talk to and all his status is ever about is how he hates all the 'bitches' and 'sluts' on here that never talk to him...... funny how they're not sluts before they reject him ey?
My status is permanently set to away, I simply do not have the time to be able to chat to people.
I even told someone via pm I wasn't interested / didn't have the time to chat, so they sent me half a dozen pm's trying to start a conversation that way instead
Quote by nicola I even told someone via pm I wasn't interested / didn't have the time to chat, so they sent me half a dozen pm's trying to start a conversation that way instead
I always admired how you don't drop names.
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I have gotten tired of guys on here promising to only chat to me and then they start up questions of positions and favorite things and my fantasies..ughhhhhhh
for the past 5 months I have been in a committed real relationship not a online relationship and I wont cheat on my man or cyber for a cheap thrill...
if I tell the guys this they think I am stupid or silly to not want to cyber with them...I know I have hundreds of men on my list but I do not talk to even a smidgen of them.... I just dont like being mean and denying them maybe it is the mother in me that feels sorry for them....
They need to get the hint to just leave me alone I only talk to true friends on here and it is only about ourselves and our children or our divorces.
as I am writing this forum I have been hit for chat 4 times and about 4 times poked by an annoying guy.. that ignoring him hasnt given a hint yet that I am not interested in chat.....and I thought I was hard headed geesh......
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I think you have the right to talk to whomever you want. There's no rule somewhere that says you HAVE to talk to everyone. So don't worry too much about what others have to say.
Feel free to chat with anyone you feel comfortable to chat with and don't take it too hard from them that you don't want to chat with. That in it's self tells you how immature some are here. Just have fun with who you want to have fun and tell the others to go take a long walk on a short peir. ;)
choosing someone to talk is not bad but sometimes if you regret to talk to someone you doesn't feel to talk too better tell her/his straight and why you don't want to talk to that person by giving the fact not just ignoring them.
Quote by dan17 choosing someone to talk is not bad but sometimes if you regret to talk to someone you doesn't feel to talk too better tell her/his straight and why you don't want to talk to that person by giving the fact not just ignoring them.
I am not one hundred percent that I understood what you said here.
no, you are definately not wrong. It's the people who have empty profiles, no stories and no pics or comments on their profile that do my head in.
They clearly haven't made any effort whatsoever because all they want to do on this site is cuber with strangers... so I ignore them because that's not why I'M on this site, so they need to find someone else.
And I just want to cyber drop kick the losers that want to chat just so that they can say, Hi, I'm really horny, what are you wearing?? ..... err, HELLOOO, I'm a real person, and you don't even want to know my name first?? Now that's just plain bad manners.
I mean, no small talk or friend add or nothin'... In my opinion it's these people that are too lazy for foreplay before sex... you get out what you put in. do ya get me? xxx
Coming from a guy, no you are not wrong, ignore whoever you like. If I was a woman on this site I would be going mental lol. That's why I never randomly IM people on this site ever, just rude I think.
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not a online relationship and I wont cheat on my man or cyber for a cheap thrill... 
better tell her/his straight and why you don't want to talk to that person by giving the fact not just ignoring them.
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