hello lushies.
in an attempt to be more inclusive with those who don't identify as Male or Female, we have included a pull-down list of gender options on your Personal Details page. please take a look and feel free to give me feedback on your thoughts. it's a bit of work in progress, but i like to think that it's a step in the right direction for all our non CIS members to feel like they are welcome to be themselves here.
and please, if you have any comments to post here, in this thread, please realize that for a lot of people it's a sensitive subject and be respectful. thanks.
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I think this is a great step towards inclusivity. I can't say for definite that it represents everyone absolutely, but in the place of fill the blank, the drop-down menu seems extensive.
As with many well-intentioned listings of gender identities and expressions, this is trying to capture an essentially infinite number of descriptors into a relatively small number of terms. The terms have to express the cross product of assigned sex at birth, self identification of gender, variability of sex/gender identities over time, who you like to be with emotionally, sexually, physically, how intense your libido is (and variations of that over time), etc. although some of these are categorical variables (generally only 2-3 sexual assignments at birth), many are more nuanced, on a spectrum rather than a finite number of choices.
If part of the reason for this is to allow others to search for kindred spirits then it might enable finding someone else who has a label that attracts you. It could also be used to exclude people in categories you don’t want to explore.
A fill in blank allows more nuanced choices and less easily excluded individuals. And of course you might be delightfully surprised by a person in a category you might not have chosen to search out.
Thank you all for addressing this issue!
I also think that "sex" should not have to be chosen (even if you are able to hide it) and that sex/gender/etc should be fill in the blank.
It has been great to join this site! but I did so upon personal recommendation and would not have considered joining otherwise simply becasue choosing a sex, either male or female, is required.
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I think this is a great forward step for the site and the community.
When I started here I intended to be a genderless account, just a notebook that posted stories.
The site didn't allow me to do that, I had to chose to be a person who happened to write.
I had to choose from limited options, and went through the process to become the account that I have at the moment.
Part of me very nearly didn't want me to complete the account process, because I'd have to be defined as something.
That anything I wrote or posted would be viewed through the prism of gender and sexuality.
Don't get me wrong I'm an out proud queer woman, but I don't want everything I do to be a reflection of that.
As for the use of gender as a lock for places. I've been in chat a long time on a lot of places and having a gender restriction never works.
You either end up with a room that's empty a lot of the time, because there aren't enough people there to make others wander in.
Or you end up with people wearing a disguise to enter the room. Since I fully accept that not all the people I talk to will be what they claim to be, why not remove gender itself as a restriction.
I understand some of my queer kin want rooms for people who are more like them, and that's a perfectly valid request. However do I need to have a listing on my account that says my gender, my orientation and my lifestyle to find others like me?
I'd join with Violet and respectfully ask, could it be considered having the gender, lifestyle, and anything similar as free boxes. That anything can be put in them.
Then if people abuse that feature, those accounts can quite rightly be punished for breaking the rules and for behaving like idiots.
How many people are we keeping from joining us because we make them define what they are, instead of just being people.
I know from an engineering perspective that not all of these things are always possible. Some databases once set to require something, can't have that requirement removed.
It's entirely possible that not all of this something that can be done without an awful lot of work.
I'd just ask, nicely and respectfully can we consider making it possible to have whatever gender, lifestyle, or identity we wish.
Thank you for your time, and for reading this.
Many blessings on you all for the huge amount of work you put into giving us a playground for our pleasures and a place to show our art.
Whatever was posted is always meant in love and respect never to offend.
I'm also highly likely to have posted this from a phone so there may be typos or odd word changes, auto correct can be a pain.
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