Sam, first of all, welcome to Lush! I've found this to be a friendly, supportive, and lusty community, largely populated by decent people. Now, being a woman, you'll doubtless attract more jerks than I have, but I hope your experience here is positive overall.
On to your issue...
I'm sorry you've had bad luck with lovers. For myself, I love giving oral, but I know there are plenty of men who somehow don't think it's "manly" or something.
If you're going to put your mouth on him, it's only reasonable that he put his on you, or find some other way to satisfy you that you find an acceptable substitute. If you don't think anything is an adequate replacement for licking your clit, he needs to know that up front.
There are men out there who love giving oral (all of my circle of friends where the subject has come up, for sure); I hope you find several!
I think I enjoy oral sex and foreplay more than the act sex itself. Don't get me wrong, I love and enjoy sex but oral sex gives me so much more satisfaction. Because I can really let go and feel free, this is why it frustrates me so much. Because it's something I enjoy a lot. My past boyfriend's didn't really enjoy it I assume. So now I'm picky when it comes to dating and the guys I have a relationship with. It's not something I could go without. Think it would drive me crazy if I couldn't get oral sex from my next boyfriend. Here's to hoping I meet the right guy.
I've always worked by the rule that everybody cums. She's giving me pleasure, she deserves pleasure. Over the years, my wife says I give her the best oral she's had. Her being bi and I've know her to lick a lot of women. I take that as the utmost compliment. I would imaging a woman would lick better than a guy simply because she knows how she wants it to feel. But it's not just with licking her clit. It's also during our intercourse. I've made her orgasm on my cock over and over. But mainly because I pay attention to what she moans and squeals to. And I've always told her to tell me when I'm not doing something right when I'm doing it wrong. I'll adjust! Don't wait, get what you like now, baby!