I normally come when I masturbate, even when I was in my relationship with my ex I would use masturbation to orgasm during sex.
However I have a fuck buddy and I enjoy it when we have sex and when he touches me. Now here comes the delimma
When I masturbate now it feels nice but I can not get that fantastic climax any more. Not like when I did it when I was with my ex or by myself.
It has been two weeks since I noticed this.
Anyone have any ideas?
I tried using my imagination, watching porn, reading stories on lush, memories of fantastic sex moments. I start to get on the verge of coming but no fireworks. My poor fingers and wrist get tired. So it isn't fun.
There is no problem when it comes to having sex with the fuck buddy however.
Now you are probably thinking about it too much. You get right to that point and in the back of your mind you worry if you will be able to finish or not. Take a break from it for as long as you can stand it and when you are really horny try it again. This time just relax and enjoy it with no expectations of the orgasm. Jut let it happen. Easy for me to say.
I tend to have trouble masturbating, and reaching climax after having actual sex. Though you said you could with your ex, so I'm not sure. For me I get better results with a toy, if I've been having sex. Lately though I can just use my fingers. I'd do what Liz suggested, find a toy. There are lots of them out there!
wow i wanted to help ...but i find mi self just to negative ...to help ....sorry ....good luck...lea.
well I think the more you stress about it the less likely it will happen you need to relax ans make sure you are in the right mood
Maybe try some technique variations.
Try spending time on other body parts ie.. breast, nipples.
Try putting something small in you anus while masturbating or get one of those vibrating foot massagers that you rest your feet on and try masturbating while your feet are massaged.
Try a different place. Go outside on the porch.
Just some ideas.
It's a bit difficult to do, but quit fretting. I recently had the same problem. Turned out it was because I was too hot. I couldn't relax enough and it took forever of stopping and starting to get there. And then when I did, it was just meh. I'm not saying that's your problem, but it could be something to consider. But keeping calm is the first step, otherwise the not coming/getting frustrated thing just becomes a massively vicious circle. Of course, it could be that your fuck buddy is doing such a great job that you just can't come, even if your head wants it, if your body won't, then it's a little futile to even try. Give it a rest for a few days, see what happens.