Mature Wife Modesty

25 Nov 2016

I have found the longer my wife and I are married the more modest she is getting. I am not sure why.
He body looks good and I express this all the time in a honest genuine way, she still looks hot to me.
We have been together for over thirty years and this was not and issue when we were both younger, I am six years older than her.
I am in not bad shape for my age and thought as she got older she would be less modest, time would seem to do this I thought.

But the opposite seems to be the case. I have read in the forums some women are like my wife.
I can not ever recalling saying anything negative to her about anything about her body, I still ravage her in bed.
Why do some women become more self conscious around a mate she has been in bed with for so many years?

We made babies together I have taken care of her when sick, complement her with loving statements, nothing works.
Like some women when she looks in the mirror she sees mostly only her flaws, I see a hoot women.
Do other couple who have been married all this time find modest becomes worse, if so why?

To be honest it gets frustrating when you want to relax naked next to your lover and she can not relax.
This was not always the case, that is what is puzzling, why it my wife less comfortable with me or mature women in general?

Old in chronological age. But young at heart and desire.

26 Nov 2016

Two things:

1. Women's bodies and their perceptions of their bodies change. A lot. Well, people in general. But I digress. Aging takes a toll on the psyche and self-esteem. You may think she's perfect, but she may be thinking about that extra wrinkle that wasn't there a year ago. Factor in giving birth and the toll it takes on the body, and all types of external messages she may be receiving. Self-consciousness is a bitch. Be sensitive to that.

2. I'm sure you're gonna get lots of helpful (and perhaps not so helpful) insight in the replies to come. However, none of it will compare to actually talking to your wife about how she's feeling.

░P░U░S░S░Y░ ░I░N░ ░B░I░O░

27 Nov 2016

I do appreciate the insight and I do understand she sees her flaws the wrinkles etc. That is why I always complement her and try to make her feel sexy.
Most times it is not ever when we are nude or making love, just in general when talking.
It is frustrating when I can not express her beauty where she understands it herself.

Quote by Dani
Two things:

1. Women's bodies and their perceptions of their bodies change. A lot. Well, people in general. But I digress. Aging takes a toll on the psyche and self-esteem. You may think she's perfect, but she may be thinking about that extra wrinkle that wasn't there a year ago. Factor in giving birth and the toll it takes on the body, and all types of external messages she may be receiving. Self-consciousness is a bitch. Be sensitive to that.

2. I'm sure you're gonna get lots of helpful (and perhaps not so helpful) insight in the replies to come. However, none of it will compare to actually talking to your wife about how she's feeling.

Old in chronological age. But young at heart and desire.

27 Nov 2016

Mine has always been quite modest. Dresses nicely when we're out but never especially sexy. Even her swimsuits are as modest as they come these days. I kind of like it as long as it comes off around me (which it does). Makes her my secret or something like that.

30 Nov 2016

I have a similar problem in my marriage. My wife is self conscious of her body, which is quite in great shape. She's 59, very petite, and is sexy. But in her attitude she is so straitlaced she makes Mother Teresa look look a pole dancer. We no longer have sex, haven't in years. She seems to have completely lost all interest in sex. She doesn't seem to have a yen for anyone else either, so infidelity isn't an issue. I'm at a complete loss. She never did have a sex drive that came close to mine. The kids are grown and gone so it's like "Alright, done with all that nastiness. Anyone for a snack?" I have had to content myself with viewing porn and masturbating for release. Not how I intended to end up! If you get an answer, pass it along. Until then, you are not alone, my friend.

3 Dec 2016

@Taggerdoo sorry to hear about your situation, I know how frustrating it can be. My wife and I still have sex, but there is less or little passion on her part. She enjoys me pleasuring her and claims it is quite satisfying. In return she does not do anything to improve our sex together.

Everything new I have to suggest. She was not always this way, some years back she was into sex and love making. Now that the kids are grown and gone, we have time to do what we want. She just never seems to do anything more than our normal pattern of oral and then intercourse missionary. It took me 20 years to get her to spoon with me or try doggie.

I read all the time on ways to improve how I satisfy her and try the new things, most times she likes them. But she is regressing in her oral desire or skills, she just does not seems to be into sex. It is now down to Sunday's at noon we shower and she puts on lotion and other creams for her skin. Then come to bed and lays there with her legs locked together while I warm her up. Sometimes she may start to fondle my cock but not often. If I did not push for some variety it would be the same thing over and over again.

I am loosing interest, I try in everyway to make her feel beautiful, sexy and try to show her that in and out of bed. I can not recall the last time she snuggled up next to me in bed at night. It seems to be a one way effort that I am beginning to feel it is not longer worth the effort. I just do not understand how I can put some much effort into her feeling good about herself and she does not seem to want to reciprocate. For the record I am still in good shape and well groomed. Other women want me.

Quote by Taggerdoo
I have a similar problem in my marriage. My wife is self conscious of her body, which is quite in great shape. She's 59, very petite, and is sexy. But in her attitude she is so straitlaced she makes Mother Teresa look look a pole dancer. We no longer have sex, haven't in years. She seems to have completely lost all interest in sex. She doesn't seem to have a yen for anyone else either, so infidelity isn't an issue. I'm at a complete loss. She never did have a sex drive that came close to mine. The kids are grown and gone so it's like "Alright, done with all that nastiness. Anyone for a snack?" I have had to content myself with viewing porn and masturbating for release. Not how I intended to end up! If you get an answer, pass it along. Until then, you are not alone, my friend.

Old in chronological age. But young at heart and desire.

3 Dec 2016

Wow, your posts really speak to me - something I feared could happen all through married life. I have spent over 40 years telling my wife how wonderful she looks - constantly. She is very vain, and suspicious of my compliments, but she actually is still quite "hot to trot". She's age 62, 5'2", 113 pounds, a red head, and she did enjoy sex before I met her in college. For years she carried guilt from those early escapades, and that seemed to limit what she was interested in doing in bed, but I continued to pursue her AND ALWAYS MADE SURE SHE ORGASMED INSTEAD OF ME. Her previous partners had been typical teens - getting out of control and spewing all before she could say ho hum. Of course, children are long gone, and sex today is better than it was 20 years ago. She is much quicker to cum than she used to be (warmups could take the better part of an hour before she would cum), and she can even orgasm just warming me up and then hopping on "cowgirl" and riding to ecstasy. And, she can also be multi-orgasmic - anywhere from 2 to 15 times as I have learned how to manage her triggers. I occasionally bring her flowers for no reason, we kiss frequently, I take her shopping for clothes, Christmas often sports something wonderful (she is a sucker for nice jewelry), and I recently bought her a car because her arthritis complains when she drives the little Cobalt that has standard transmission - hard on her. Is it all wonderful? Of course, not! But it is pretty good. And we've cultivated mutual interests in later years so that we wouldn't grow apart. I don't think this helps anyone reading it, but showering attention on your wife in as many ways as you can can't hurt. Best...

3 Dec 2016

Wow, your posts really speak to me - something I feared could happen all through married life. I have spent over 40 years telling my wife how wonderful she looks - constantly. She is very vain, and suspicious of my compliments, but she actually is still quite "hot to trot". She's age 62, 5'2", 113 pounds, a red head, and she did enjoy sex before I met her in college. For years she carried guilt from those early escapades, and that seemed to limit what she was interested in doing in bed, but I continued to pursue her AND ALWAYS MADE SURE SHE ORGASMED INSTEAD OF ME. Her previous partners had been typical teens - getting out of control and spewing all before she could say ho hum. Of course, children are long gone, and sex today is better than it was 20 years ago. She is much quicker to cum than she used to be (warmups could take the better part of an hour before she would cum), and she can even orgasm just warming me up and then hopping on "cowgirl" and riding to ecstasy. And, she can also be multi-orgasmic - anywhere from 2 to 15 times as I have learned how to manage her triggers. I occasionally bring her flowers for no reason, we kiss frequently, I take her shopping for clothes, Christmas often sports something wonderful (she is a sucker for nice jewelry), and I recently bought her a car because her arthritis complains when she drives the little Cobalt that has standard transmission - hard on her. Is it all wonderful? Of course, not! But it is pretty good. And we've cultivated mutual interests in later years so that we wouldn't grow apart. I don't think this helps anyone reading it, but showering attention on your wife in as many ways as you can can't hurt. Best...

5 Dec 2016

For me if my wife does not orgasm the love making is not complete, it is my priority, I work on improving them all the time.
Read about some new idea of oral trick and often she may ask about it later, like what was that was that I do that time it felt great.
I can not recall a time ever when we make love that my wife has not had a orgasm, sometimes several, once during a medication change was last I recall.
.
Happy to see your wife has kept an adult attitude about sex and lovemaking, sadly I think mine maybe gone for good.
My concern is other options are available both females and males. I am being tempted by both.

Quote by drillsarge2
I continued to pursue her AND ALWAYS MADE SURE SHE ORGASMED INSTEAD OF ME.

Old in chronological age. But young at heart and desire.

26 Dec 2016

I have noticed the same issue