Opening a can...that perhaps can't be..closed
What if this upsets her..I am a one on one woman
Does THIS turn her on..because without her ok..ah...
Is she sexually adventurous?
You already admitted without doing it you would be hurt and angry. ..
Maybe this should stay a lush fantasy...read about it masturbate to it
Perhaps not for reality
Unless of couse she is into it
But as the saying goes..be careful of what you ask for...you might get it
we never talked about it, but she said she wants to try everything once, so I think if I tell her its my fantasy she would be willing to give it a try.
and yes, one part of me would be angry, jealous, humilliated if she fucks another guy, but still at the same time, it turns me on so much.
when I imagine this I always imagine it with a masculine black guy with a huge cock to fuck her really hard and cum inside her, and I have to clean her up, and if they want, clean him up too. I imagine her getting fucked hard, moaning and telling me how bigger he is than me, and he can make her cum many times, and that he will cum so much inside her that he will put a black baby inside her.
thats my ideal fantasy...
First let me say that I think it's only going to be fun for you, if she really gets into it. So talk to her about giving it a try and just see how it works out for both of you. It can work wonderfully for some people and not so well for others.
I long for my boyfriend to tell me that lol
I believe it would be relationship killer. I contend that most girls are looking for marriage proposal from some they are dating or live with.
I can guarantee you that while it's hot as a fantasy, it won't be once you act on it. The act itself may turn you on, but after that, you'll always have nagging doubts. And some men, once they see their woman really enjoying someone else, resent the fact that she liked it so much.
Keep is in your head, is my advice. It's dangerous territory.
I know you said ladies only but some guys do have good advice on this subject:
Several things you can do
first and foremost talk to your GF, and really talk. Tell her about your fantasy, tell her why it turns you on and tell her how you feel about it and see how she feels about it and then you can go from there.
Once you get past the above there are different ways to proceed, without inviting a guy in.
Get her a sex toy, buy it for her and then with you there use it, either you use it on her as you tell her your fantasy, or have her use it on herself as she tells you what she thinks. That can many times quench the thirst for this fantasy and you can play with it for a while see how you feel when she calls out another name, see how you feel when you watch her get pleasure not from you but from the fantasy she is telling you of another man.
You can role play, dress up as a stranger in a bar and pick her up (or any place) and play that role, then afterwards have her tell you all about her date with Bob
If you travel for work, you can have her call you as she is using the toy above and pretend she is with another person so you can hear them have fun on the phone.
Have her go out a date (She is pretending, but makes you feel it is real, she should also make sure she has proof that it was all pretend because you might not be so happy about the date afterwards) then come home and tell you about it ...
Safe things with a guy:
You can have her dance with a stranger, a slow dance and see how you feel
You could probably watch her kiss a guy first and then gauge your reaction do you really want more?
Go to a swing club with her and see if there is a couple you hit it off with, take turns watching each other make out (the other couple might agree to just make out as well, find one that will).
Have her ceybersex or phone sex with another man (no cybersex is not sex, and much easier to forget about)
If you both really want to go all the way:
Friends are not a good idea ;)
my number is ....
In all seriousness find a stranger this can be online or go to another town and pick someone up that seems clean and safe and will practice safe sex (last thing you want is the gift that keeps on giving) the other option is to go to a swing club and there will be couples that are ok with just her getting pleasure.
We play it out with dildos and it is very hot. She says she would never do it for real. She would never fuck another cock. I have seen her hit on by both blacks and whites and I get hard every time. She loves the attention. I feel she would do it and will do it when the time is right. I can't wait.
There are lots of fantasies that are very hard to bring to reality without someone or something getting hurt, like fantasies for instance. Your fantasy may be one of this group too, and it would be a great shame if you pushed your GF to fulfil the fantasy but killed your relationship in the process.
If you're going to see it happen in any capacity then you need her to be on board and the first step towards that is discussion. Not a demand from you, a proper bit of communication about how she feels about all sorts of aspects of what you'd like her to do, followed by you agreeing to not take action if she's not on board.
This is YOUR fantasy, not hers, and if you try to push her into doing this without her full informed consent then all you're going to do is to force her to resent you. By all means role play two different people with her if she's up for that, but if she's not into the concept of being with someone else to please you then I'm afraid that's the end of the line for that fantasy unless you are planning on fucking up what may be the most wonderful relationship to meet a fantasy (which may or may not actually feel as good as your fantasy anyway).
I was in the same boat as the OP so I spoke to my gf. It was something she would never do (sex with another guy) but she did play with the fantasy. When she is working late or at a meeting she will text me a wee fantasy about how the meeting finished ages ago and her and a male college got busy on the desk. Or if we are having sex she will tell me how good I am but drop something in like "not as good as that guy that came round earlier but still good baby" little things like that. It took all the worry out about the whole "will she end up cheating and leaving me" but still added the whole cuckold kink. As long as you both understand there is a line between fantasy and reality then I can be fun. But like many have said before me it can open a can of worms and lead down a path that could ruin things. The key is like with any other kink or fetish, lots of communication, set boundaries and even have safe words for red amber and green. If she tells you she was sleeping with the milk man, calling her a bad girl means she can say more, calling her a naughty girl means she is pushing you so be careful and calling her something else means to change the subject.....things like this will let you two play with the fantasy but still be safe and happy in your relationship.
An update to what is going on with moving my wife in that direction. The last time we were doing the deed, I asked her what she wanted. Her answer made me unload. She said she wanted "more cocks" OMG thats hot.
Any movement in either direction?
