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I finally told her about my fantasies.

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I met my fiancée when she was 18 years-old, and it didn't take long for us to move in together and start a family. Now, 18 years later, we have managed to be successful professionally, but our sex life has taken a hit over the past few years. In an attempt to spice things up, she finally agreed to watch porn with me and that's when I discovered that we both liked mfm and wife sharing porn (both videos came randomly on some french porn site). During the year, we developed kinky talk to spice things up and she really took it to the next level. She'll often tease me when she's on business trips by Facetiming me and pretending to wait for a hung lover to join her in the room, or she'll text me messages like, "I want a stranger's big cock so bad!" We both get off on this and it's good for our sexual life. Seeing how all these additions to our love life are improving our sex life I would like to propose new ways to play. So, after researching and talking to some people, the next best thing to real mfm or wife sharing would be chatting and maybe having webcam sessions with other men interested in couples. Is this a good idea or would it be taking it too far? Thanks for giving your opinions.

Now, before I go, I would like to mention that my fiancée is a respectable woman and has never been with another man other than me. I mention this in case people are too judgemental on the way she teases me. I also trust her 1000% and she trust me just as much. We're just at a point in our lives where we need to spice things up and we want to pull away from the routine, which is killing us.
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Firstly, it seems your lady has delicious imagination, and I have no doubt the teasing has a powerful effect on you, and possibly her too. I've had a hot-wife for the last 12 years, so I guess I know what you're asking. My advice is to be 100% sure this is what you both want, since once the beast is out, it can't be put back in the box. Next? Total honesty and transparency between you both. Without this, things can unravel very, very fast.

My lady's modus operandi is to use Adult Dating sites to find a bull. She will chat to them for considerable time (sometimes weeks) to get some idea whether the bull is 1) trustworthy, 2) honest and 3) compatible with what she wishes from from him - which is just sex, and nothing else. She'll make sure he knows that I'm well aware what she does. All going well, we will meet & greet the potential bull at a cafe or similar, and afterwards discuss how we both feel about him, and the vibes we got.

All going well, my lady will arrange to meet him at a hotel, and is the first tryst goes well, she will continue seeing him.

So it's not a process that takes a day or two. You need to be sure the bull is going to be right for what you want, and that all cards are on the table. It may take a little more time than you like, but the old saying 'Look before you leap' kinda works.

Hope this helps ;)
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Sharing fantasies is (I think) very important in a relationship. It definitely builds trust. Whether they actually come true or not, sometimes even just a portion of the fantasy being acted out can be very rewarding and fulfilling. I like to think that I have made some of my lovers' fantasies come true.
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Caution needs to be your watchword. Have you thought of (first) simply being watched while you have sex? By a man, woman, or couple? With , Facetime etc, that is easy.