Hi Im 25 and have a bf and am very happy with him!
But he finds it strange that I can watch lesbian porn and get off to it!! I find 2 women together arousing and would probably sleep with a girl!
Do you think this makes me bi sexual or bi curious?
Opinions welcome!
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This is one of those questions that only you can answer. There's no real definite answer IMHO.
I know what the answer is for me. I have had sexual experiences with other men. One, I just masturbated next to a friend; the other was cyber. During both experiences, we each kept to ourselves, and in the cyber relationship, I never saw him in the flesh. I identify as bicurious because I have never done anything more than mutual masturbation. I would like to try more, yes, but I just haven't yet.
I know what the answer is for me. I have had sexual experiences with other men. One, I just masturbated next to a friend; the other was cyber. During both experiences, we each kept to ourselves, and in the cyber relationship, I never saw him in the flesh. I identify as bicurious because I have never done anything more than mutual masturbation. I would like to try more, yes, but I just haven't yet.
Well hun, if you would sleep with a woman, as you claim you would, I would guess that makes you, at the very least, curious. But ya know what....wtf does it matter? Really. These labels of 'bi-curious' - 'bisexual' - 'straight' - 'sexually twisted' - 'curiously sexually twisted' - are all just LABELS that society as a whole have created to make an 'us and them' culture for EVERYTHING. But ya know what...in your life...for you girl...what does it matter. Who knew? Besides you and the other (or others) who will know? One thing I have a problem with in this gay rights discussion that my country (USA) is having, is why how does anyone know who you slept with last night? I have met people who have introduced themselves as "Hi I'm so-and-so...I'm gay." I've never heard a heterosexual person make that comment. Why? WHO CARES! So, you sleep with who you want, don't take an addy out in the newspaper about it and DON'T live your life looing over your shoulder.qFlgXIPs4tbhmHwz
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Well hun, if you would sleep with a woman, as you claim you would, I would guess that makes you, at the very least, curious. But ya know what....wtf does it matter? Really. These labels of 'bi-curious' - 'bisexual' - 'straight' - 'sexually twisted' - 'curiously sexually twisted' - are all just LABELS that society as a whole have created to make an 'us and them' culture for EVERYTHING. But ya know what...in your life...for you girl...what does it matter. Who knew? Besides you and the other (or others) who will know? One thing I have a problem with in this gay rights discussion that my country (USA) is having, is why how does anyone know who you slept with last night? I have met people who have introduced themselves as "Hi I'm so-and-so...I'm gay." I've never heard a heterosexual person make that comment. Why? WHO CARES! So, you sleep with who you want, don't take an addy out in the newspaper about it and DON'T live your life looing over your shoulder.QjgZKZL8j3bjepYf
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I do have to agree with Kristind; labels aren't strictly necessary. Personally, I go with labels because it helps me to explain my position better. If I identify as a nudist, then I don't really have to explain that I like being nude around others, but not necessarily in a sexy situation and not where it can make people uncomfortable.
It's all in how you choose to identify, honestly. No one really has to label themselves.
It's all in how you choose to identify, honestly. No one really has to label themselves.
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Lush has undoubtedly made me more bi-curious. Haven't taken the step of being with another woman, but one day and most probably in a MFF situation I will do. I think that makes me broad minded as opposed to bi-sexual.
Same as me hun.
Really like some lesbian porn and I think of myself as bi-curious. I think if I generally found women attractive all day, ever day, then I would class myself as bi-sexual. As I don't, but only get turned on when being sexual, I think I'm just bi-curious.
Either way, I don't really care what it all makes me!
Really like some lesbian porn and I think of myself as bi-curious. I think if I generally found women attractive all day, ever day, then I would class myself as bi-sexual. As I don't, but only get turned on when being sexual, I think I'm just bi-curious.
Either way, I don't really care what it all makes me!
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If you get off on the sexual act alone, then more bi-curious.
If you find the women attractive, in the same instinctive way you might find a man attractive, then bi-sexual.
If you find the women attractive, in the same instinctive way you might find a man attractive, then bi-sexual.
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Bi-sexual without doubt - and have been for many years.
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I am probably more bi-sexual than bi curious. I just don't have as much experience as I would like in the area. I find both men and women equally attractive.
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I'm definitely bi-sexual!
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Bisexual and proud of it!
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If you get off on the sexual act alone, then more bi-curious.
If you find the women attractive, in the same instinctive way you might find a man attractive, then bi-sexual.
I've no idea how you arrive at this statement. The clue is surely in the words sexual and curious. Bisexual means you HAVE sex with both sexes. Bicurious means you are CURIOUS about having sex with both sexes. Quote by Lisa1901
Hi Im 25 and have a bf and am very happy with him!
But he finds it strange that I can watch lesbian porn and get off to it!! I find 2 women together arousing and would probably sleep with a girl!
Do you think this makes me bi sexual or bi curious?
Opinions welcome!
I would suspect there are more strict definitions than my opinion but I think you are bi curious - you would not move up to bi sexual until you actually have sex with another woman - and if you like it then you would definitely be bi sexual.
More I think about it - maybe there should be a third term. Something like "bi porn enjoyer" - which would be when you took your bi curiosity and put it into action by getting off to bi or same sex porn. It is a notch above just being curious.
My ex wife had always liked watching lesbian porn with me and we talked about her one day trying it. So one day we did a 3 some with another bi woman and not surprising, she ended up loving it. This started out 19 years ago and it never stoped. She also talked me into trying bi 2 years later and it turns out i enjoy bi sex with a man. Who knows what will happen if you just try it one time. I would think that your bi curious right now but your on your way to bi sexual like me. Just enjoy it, a lot of people are bi.
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The original post is a year old but Ill answer it anyhow. Most everyone who did reply did not answer the question. They stated whether they were Bisexual or BiCurious, not the OP. I think she is BiCurious. She really cant tell if she is Bisexual until she tries being with a woman. Right now she is interested and thinks he may like it but until she knows for sure, its just a guess.
For the record, I am very Bisexual and have been since I was a teen.
For the record, I am very Bisexual and have been since I was a teen.
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I've known I was bi-sexual all my life. If you want to have sex with another girl, I'd say that desire makes you bi-curious. If you do it and love it, you're bi-sexual!
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with being a crossdresser am very bi curious would love to get with a guy then al be bi sexual
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A short story to start. My wife and I had been married for 30 years and she was 52 when she left me for a 35 year old black guy. He had a good job, lots of money, 2 nice cars and a big expensive house. She stayed with him for 29 months before she came back to me because he had got a new younger girlfriend. While with him he totally owned her. He shared her with other black guys and on a few occasions with a few white women. Now before she moved in with him she said she had never had any Bi tendencies at all. She didn't even like to watch lesbian porn. She said they were in Cancun the first time he shared her with a woman and she said she was blown away. She said that they spent the night together and it was one orgasm after another. After that night she said she never resisted another woman and would go out of her way initiate sex with another woman.
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If you wish to categorise yourself then I would place you in the "Bi-Curious" category at this stage. You won't actually know for sure if you are bi-sexual until you have had sex with another girl. Being turned on by watching lesbian sex films is not the same as having sex with another girl. I was unsure of my status right from when I was a teenager. It was only when I decided to find out for sure and had sex with another girl that I knew I was bi-sexual.
Sex with another girl IMO is totally different to sex with a guy. A girl knows their way around a girl's body and knows how to turn a girl on in ways guys just can't. I guess it's similar for guys with guys - After all, what girl has not been told by a guy which way he likes to be jerked off or given a blow job!!!
Sex with another girl IMO is totally different to sex with a guy. A girl knows their way around a girl's body and knows how to turn a girl on in ways guys just can't. I guess it's similar for guys with guys - After all, what girl has not been told by a guy which way he likes to be jerked off or given a blow job!!!
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Why label yourself, sweetheart? Just enjoy who you are and be who your heart and urges tell you to be.
I identify only as sexual.
I mostly perfer women, by a large margin, but I appreciate the sexuality of a man and have once been taken anally by a man, while my then gf lay under me. I enjoyed the experience but could take it or leave it in the future. I do, however, find transgender women extremely erotic and arousing.
I identify only as sexual.
I mostly perfer women, by a large margin, but I appreciate the sexuality of a man and have once been taken anally by a man, while my then gf lay under me. I enjoyed the experience but could take it or leave it in the future. I do, however, find transgender women extremely erotic and arousing.
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