If I was you, I'd approach it as a threesome. It'd be more fun for you then telling him to go off and spend the night with her. That way you get to watch his pleasure, get some yourself and your friend will get her fantasy. With you there, kissing and touching him while he fucks her, it will obvious it is an experience to share together.
" I don't know the question, but sex is definitely the answer"
Woody Allen
From what you say .. assuming he would be fine with it since thats not stated .. its sounds like a win situation all round to me .. damn lucky him!!
I'd run from this - unless you don't care about losing your husband and/or friend.
Give it to him once, he'll probably want it again.
It's that simple.
Take from that what you will.
My advice would be to make it a 3 some also. Just think how turned on you would be being a part of it.
sleep with her by yourself and see if she is worthy and go from there.......but be careful, this could backfire very easily. good luck
If there's no jealousy issues than it's really up to you. But MadMartigan has a good point - might not end up being only one time. Could you live with him switching between you two - or even finding someone else on the side that you don't know?
Having been in an open relationship, there's a lot of trust issues that go with that. Tread carefully as you may end up in a place you never dreamed of and sometimes that place isn't very nice.
I think you need to ask yourself a lot of questions. For instance
Have you and your husband ever discussed bringing in a third person as either a fantasy or as a real possibility?
Has he ever brought up being interested in another woman in any context? If he did how did you respond.
The others are right that this might open up a new dimension in your relationship. Could you be happy with that? What if you want to do again but he doesn't?
This, to me, is an idea that needs to develop, not just dropped as an idea out of the blue. Could open up something you did not expect.
seriously heavy stuff, not just a whim one off, but with long term repercussions.
a damned if he does damed if he does not situation.
think and comeup with your answer, not what we on here will say - for whatever motive!
I'd say let them do it if you're ok with it but don't leave them alone you can watch them or even take part in the action. Trust is a big thing in a relationship and it should be no problem if you can seperate what's love and what is simply having sex
I lost my virginity in such a situation I knew a friend who is 35 and his wife is 33. They live in a very open relationship in that they allow each other to have sex with others as long as they tell them about it. To cut this story short he talked to her about my situation and she was fine with having sex with me and it ended up well for all of us. Of course I agreed to let him watch us and we still see each other
Tough one. need to make sure that this won't get weird. Maybe getting wiht her first (with hubby watching) might open this up a bit. Then invite him in as you feel more into it.
Always looking to have fun. Never a challenge too big or a woman too damn sexy for me to try!