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What are people's opinions here on losing your virginity to an escort? (and has anyone done it?)

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I think a sex worker is a better option for people who may want to experience their first time without fear. The reality of an organic sexual experience is that it can go badly. At least with a sex worker you know what to expect and she/he is a pro, they would make you feel comfortable and able which is what a first time should be like. There is no shame in paying for it, sex rehabilitation is a valid form of therapy. We need to step away from the prudish idea that paying for sex is embarrassing. It’s so common and should do nothing but boost your self esteem.
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From what I've read, it used to be quite common in western culture and others for young men to lose their virginity to professional women at bordellos. I don't see anything wrong with you doing it.


In Spanish speaking cultures we call your first time with a prostitute your first communion.
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Aspergers is still a bit of a bummer in Western Societies, who are basically excellent at things sexy people are less good at but struggle with the things sexy people excel at. They are discriminated against as a result, not legally but in practical terms.

I cannot conceive of a worse way to meet women than getting drunk at the pub and having one hundred decibel noise blaring out in a disco, but that is what UK society suggested growing up. I did rather better leading women on a ski slope with a smart jacket on....it guaranteed one common interest and as I was good at it, confident in resort, it made me relaxed and attractive for some reason or other.

I personally do not see why bartering sex is honourable but paying cash is disgraceful. We buy food to eat in cash, we do not fill shelves at Tesco for five hours in exchange for a weeks food, after all. So you should have no issues with societal hang ups, for that is what they are. After all, if you give an escort two hundred, she gets to choose what to spend it on. You buy her supper, she puts out for a romantic meal. Less empowering....

Go for it, but remember that if you do date normal woman afterwards, do not expect them to be as professional without practice!


Yep you're entirely right....added to that I live in Brighton with its 'party' culture and you can just imagine. Sometimes I think a lot of dating advice out there on the Net is too USA-centric and isn't well suited to more reserved cultures. They make it sound like striking up a conversation with anyone at the bus stop or laundrette is easy as anything, lol.
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Which is why I recommended finding an online community dedicated to it. They'll know the local law, how to work with/around that law, and which women are "safe" in the area. It is technically illegal to buy sex up here, too, but the good independent escorts who work out of a private location and don't explicitly advertise sexual services (you have to be a bit cagey with language up here) are often ignored or even helped by the cops, who prefer to focus on trafficked women and street girls.


AFAIK, paying for sex in legal here in the UK, what isn't legal is pimping, soliciting in public, running a brothel etc.
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For a huge portion of the human race striking up a conversation is as easy as anything. It becomes harder when people go into it with the goal of ending up in bed with someone. Saying hello, acknowledging someone's existence isn't rocket science, it isn't a Nobel acceptance speech...it's only as difficult as you make it, with impossible expectations. Professionals remove the pressure from most situations and certainly an escort would remove a lot of pressure from a sexual encounter. Consider that it is the worods oldest profession.
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In Spanish speaking cultures we call your first time with a prostitute your first communion.


Snatch, wine & crackers.

That could be a good Lush story title.
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LMFAO
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A lot of women would be surprised how many men lost their virginity to a hooker. I did. As ca young kid, who did not know what to expect and what to do, a hooker was good for a first time.
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I agree with Ls63563. Escorts can be lovely people. Some advertise what they call Girl Friend Experience. In my experience they are very likely to understand that people have difficulties. I would also say go for it. If you find the right one she can really look after you. I wish you all the best.
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1977 - I was 14 - in a massage parlor in Jakarta, my father's girlfriend picked the girl and my Dad paid. Boy, I was "Superman" when I returned into my boarding school, back home in Europe. And, before anyone asks, the massage was about 20 minutes, the shower 5, and the final act - I assume - 35 to 40 seconds. Too short to take any harm or mental damage. It happend more than 40 years ago and I never needed any therapy, at least not from doctor or therapist.
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How many men have done this? Many. Guys in the military act like they're sexual studs. Once they get to go overseas, they go off alone and pay for it. They go alone because they know that they won't last more than a few seconds. Let the hooker/escort laugh, but no one else. Then once back on base/ship, they act macho. Just use protection. Some of these guys trade virginity for the clap!
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Good idea. A good escort will be professional and give guidance for maximum fulfilment. The experience will be very valuable for when you find that right person for you .
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I have been a virgin for 25 years. And my first sex also happened with an escort. I thought I wasn't pretty enough, that I wasn't charismatic and that's why I didn't have relationships with girls. When my friend at university found out, he called an escort for my birthday. I was confused, and my dick just wouldn't erect. But that's why she's a professional, she figured it out. Then I called a lot of women from https://aurumgirls.co.uk, and I became more liberated, which allowed me to get a girlfriend. So get rid of the depression and sadness and fix this situation finally.
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loosing your virginity is too much wrapped up in some monumental moment to remember forever lol
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It's been almost 3 years, any update?
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Why don't you try online dating first?
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Really, so much time has passed. Has your life changed somehow?
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I did . I was in the military, a late bloomer . I had never really had an interest in women . 3 of us got together and got a prostitute. I lost my virginity that night .
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Really, so much time has passed. Has your life changed somehow?

Basically, I was stalling over it up until COVID happened. Now that I have a job again, I'm probably gonna go for it in the next few months somehow. Have to admit it's an intimidating idea.

Honestly, dating and relationships seem as distant and incomprehensible to me as hardcore quantum physics. It's been years since I had a proper crush on a girl, to the point where I've started to suspect I'm aromantic.

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I know quite a few escorts and it is not unusual for either the mother or father of the guy to arrange for their sons first experience with a professional woman. Usually the guy is in his late teens and understands the situation. The women I know treat this as an honour and ensures the guy is not embarrassed or humiliated.He is encouraged to relax and take his time and understand what is about to happen. Their aim is to get him to enjoy his experience and often has a second experience if he cums too quickly the first time. I would suggest that you make contact and discuss this with the woman and explain your situation. I am sure she will accomodate you thoughtfully and ensure that you are satisfied with what happened. This will prevent any misunderstandings that may otherwise occur.

You will then have the confidence to entertain other women in the same way and enjoy the pleasure that having sex can be.

Go for it and I hope you enjoy it. You will walk tall and proud afterwards without doubt.

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I lost my virginity on the back seat of an escort. It was very fast, as was the car.😊