I think it depends on the girl. Some girls like to get to know someone first, before they truly let him in. Others, after confiding in you, and sharing their secrets with you, just can't see you any other way than as a friend. And they are also uneasy about the fact you know their secrets, so the relationship would be more intimate right from the start.
That being said, I think it is possible to get out of the friend zone. I just haven't ever been able to do it yet.
Well... for me personally... if I have a guy friend and I have chosen to cry on his shoulder, complain about current or ex-boyfriends, ask for advice, and share my darkest (and possibly controversial or embarrassing) secrets... its likely that I am only thinking about the guy as a friend.
For me, if there is a sexual spark (AT ALL) or any potential for something romantic, I will not lay myself out on the line in a way that involves tears, weaknesses and insecurities. Its much more fun to save that as a surprise for later in the relationship... LOL
But seriously... I am sure there is some potential to move out of the friend zone in many circumstances. I would just look at how she is presenting herself to you. If she is using you as a sounding board to talk through her issues or discuss her ex-boyfriend ad nauseum, or if she is using you as a companion to go out to the bars or the clubs when she can't find anyone else, then I would just err on the side of caution and start sleeping with all her friends immediately...
the problem here is losing a great friendship. As soon as feelings and sex come into things everything becomes murky. And is your friendship strong enough to recover if hooking up doesn't work out? I've never had a good experience with this and lost good friends because of it. I can understand her trepidation.
I've hooked up with several fem friends and only remained friends after the sex, with two of them. It takes the right kind of communication to mutually acknowledge: "Hmm, maybe we shouldn't do that again." without hurting one's feelings.
As a result, although I have a few female friends who I might occasionally admire as a possible fun sex partner, I stifle those desires whenever possible.
And I have a small handful of female friends now, who were sex partners before we truly became friends. The sex didn't work out, for whatever reason(s)...but we liked one another and escalated the friendship aspects while putting the physical aspects in the figurative closet.
Sometimes, the Friend Zone is exactly what is needed...and it's not a bad thing. The bad thing is letting your emotions fester into hurt, or grow into an unhealthy obsession with what you cannot hope to have or enjoy (for the first time or 'again').
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.
Is there really any way out of the friend zone? If she looks at you as a friend, anything you do, say or give to her will be taken in a friendly way. Flowers? You're such a great friend! Cards for birthday, christmas and easter? Brilliant friend! Tell her how you feel? Abyss...
I really am interested to find out if anyone has escaped the friend zone. For me, I feel like the girl I love won't take me seriously enough, because even I consider her in a much higher league than my own, which has developed into an unhealthy self-consciousness where I cannot help but think people are thinking the worst about me.
Maybe you don't care. I'm just here to find out if anyone has ditched the "friend" label and become much more than that.
It will be one of the biggest regrets of my life if I pass up this girl. I have a bad case of oneism, but she is smart, funny, friendly, laid-back and most of all, beautiful.
Wow, I gush a lot.
Any advice? The worst part is, she isn't happy with her current boyfriend, and I can't help but feel she deserves better...
I've noticed that the nice guy approach doesn't work for shit. As long as you have that balance then you're okay. Sometimes you have to play cat and mouse for a bit before reeling her in.
It is nice to get the perspective from another female. this will really help my next escapade.
I've had some good female friends that have helped me with the girl I've wanted to get. I've never been after either of these girls for the simple fact that they are married. But they sure have helped out a lot with whatever girl I have my eyes set on.
I saw "A single man" the other day and one quote from that movie seems rather fitting:
"Lovers are like buses, you just have to wait a little while and another comes along."
Stop weighing yourself down and move along. As WMM points out there might already be someone pining for you right now. And if not then it will happen at some point. C'est la vie.
Insert typical super smart ass comment courtesy of thepainter here.