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ok i just need help here..what do u guys and girls do with the gift ur ex gave u after you'll br

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MarySweets
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I still have a few items from my first lover. A cuddle toy, a book, some notes etc. It's more sentimental value then anything else. I haven't told my fiance though. Though I'm sure he has a few things from his exes.
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XxPrimalGoddessxX
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Keep it. It was a gift. Anything I gave him, he can keep or do whatever.
Ruthie
Empress of the Moon
Gifts are for keeping if you want to keep them, or throwing away or selling if you want, not for giving back when you break up with someone. I don't want any gift I've given back, and would never offer to give a gift back that has been given to me.
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It depends on the break up. U can b heart broken n at the rage of the moment u dump everything out or u brake it off well and u keep sentimental things.

I have keept several items of past ex's like cute teddies, flowers,rings, ect... pictures and such they just go in a photo album as another chapter in my life I survived. If u don't know what to do with the things give him the option to take them back. Simple
blazestcyr
Active Ink Slinger
u keep it..if u love it..however..u dont tell the next 1 sometimes gf/bf's get jealous...why solicit trouble

but AFTER u get married the rules change

till then keep the good items...with the great memories....

but live in present...
Catnip
Internet Sensation
I give back keys, most of the time. Other than that I don't give back things I've gotten, gifts are gifts.

One of my exs gave me back my letters to him. He felt they meant nothing at all anymore and if I wanted them back I could have them or he'd let them burn.
I took it back, I like keeping letters.
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I'd say be creative. a box with a stuffed animals head in it on Halloween works nicely, or chopping up letters to mail back kidnapper type notes where each letter is a different size.

Classy.
Dani
Big-haired Bitch/Personality Hire
I toss old letters. You always come across them at some point for some reason or another, and it's horrible explaining it to a new love, trust me, I've been there. If the gift is too sentimental and my feelings aren't as intense, I give it back. For instance, an ex who was quite well-off/spoiled got me a diamond key necklace saying it was the "key to his heart". The necklace was beautiful and quite expensive, but he had feelings for me that I didn't have for him. He also had a habit of trying to buy my affection when he felt I didn't reciprocate his affection. It gives them a sense of false hope if you keep it (I've also been there). If it was a bad relationship, I also return the gifts. I've never been the vindictive type, so I don't hawk things out of bitterness and I'm not hard up for cash. If we end on mutual/good terms, I keep the gifts. In fact, I'm wearing a bracelet right now from an ex that I'm still friends with.

Memories have a way of attaching themselves to things, and I've just always been an avid believer that if someone is out of your life, they're out of it for a reason. Why keep their shit?

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I have just broken up and really hurting as I feel used.

I was given a watch at Christmas and told she had booked concert tickets for us at start of May.

Never seen the tickets and if they are real she is now taking someone else.

So really considering selling the watch and various clothing she has got for me.

Trying to give time for reflection as it's only a few days but known something not right gorgeous last 6 weeks