Hi there people I'm abit lost but not giving up I'm with my current girlfreind and shes amazing smart beautifull and all that but shes had a few ups and downs with ex's or past loved ones and is insecure like most women these days if thats fair to say.
The Issue is she loves me but she says she doesent know anything no more " I dont know my feelings" she miss's her true love but they never went out together they talkedfor two years and she said they never argued.
It's prety sad because they talked for two years and then something happened, basicly he never loved her like she did, he wasent her true love and they stopped tlaking and when she contacted him again awhile later he forgot who she was and it has skared her emotinally if thats fair to say, she crys if i mention him or we talk about him and i odnt know what to do because it porbley will get in the way of me and her but i understand that she mises her true love but its awkward for me to try and help her since we cant talk about it or she will cry and be upset and then she probley feels bad cause she mises someone when with me.
any thoughts on what I should be doing or if anyone else has had simialr issues with this i think i might remind her of him =/
yeah it does she doesent wanan talk to anyone atm tbh she said.
and with her other exs she didnt miss him now does.
wait a minute. she's your g/f but she's going off the deep end about how this guy who doesn't even f'ing remember her, claiming he's her true love and she's this upset about him? ok, sit her ass down and tell her to figure it out. you or him. and if she can't decide in, oh, say, 5 seconds, you'll save yourself some time breaking up with her now rather then letting her drive you insane for the next however long it is before you finally do break up. i mean, seriously, what the hell? my advice, move on. what the hell is she doing with you if this guy is her prince charming? and what do you do when the next 'true love' comes along?
oh, and for the record, really, we're insecure? you're the one so desperate for love that you put up with this kind of crap. find someone who wants YOU not some imaginary Romeo.
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
Sounds to me that she does not know who she actually loves.
I would suggest to leave her alone for a while, let her figure things out herself. You're always there being with her, right? Somehow I feel she takes you for granted. Let her cool down to think about it. When you're away too, who will she miss most? The guy who she claimed to be true love but forgot about her totally, or the guy who was always there for her. Let her take time to think about it and make her choice.
yes let her go go go ....and do your own thing......
No i get what your comming from lol the thing is she is into me trust me shes tell me all the time and well lol she always loves seeing me and being with me we have our goodtimes its just when we argue it would be soemthing small shes a jealous type abit possesive But i dont let her run wild with it or control me if im talking to other girls she will be like flirting with em? and say im ignoring her soemtimes if she leaves me msgs somewhere. the only reason why i think shes brining it up is cause well her and this guy never agrued she the tlakitive type lol has a "Bitch in her" I doubt she even knows why he her true love i htink its cause they tlaked for so long thats it. Point is i know she wants me but shes just depressed abit i guess atm and soemthing is reminder her of her so called tru love.
lol enjoy your night with the drinking xD
I dont get how u cna forget someone if they spoke for two years dont make sense lol
Just be there for her whenever she needs you.. Hold her and hug whenever she cries and explain her the truth. good luck
To me it sounds like she has many issues. What it sounds like is she doesnt know waht she wants but she does know it isnt you. Sorry to bring you down, but when her true love is someone who hasnt spoken to her in 2 years, she is trying to get you to leave her so she doesnt have to dump you,
You said there are more good things in the relationship than bad. Well saying her true love isnt you, think that qualifies as REALLY BAD!!
Save yourself some headaches and just walk.
Move on.
I thought some guy was the love of my life but in the same way as you describe, he didn't feel the same towards me.
I knew that and just had to get over it. You can't force somebody to love you, no matter how bad you want it.
If she can't understand this then she is not emotionally ready to be with you long term.
Leave her to sort her own head out as she is obviously in a bad place with this situation.
Im not sure if it was but yeah im sure it was an online thing =/ shes had a few like that i asked why not have someone closer if they didnt work.
I was just asking, because you kept saying she talked to him for two years, and he doesn't remember her. Maybe he was someone who had a lot of things going all at once. It sounds lie she's not over him, and you need to find someone else.
its kinda sad cause i really care for her maybe your right just feel like it was me that did soemthing cause she didnt miss him when with her ex's =/
How am I suppose to compete with this basicly ill try wrod what she said about him thats why she called him her true love =/
"We never argued, i was never insecure with him Never asked about his past or girls he spoke too. Everything was perfect. We didnt feel upset once apart from when he ended things"
No thats wa smy ex we eneded things this is my current girlfreind
And whenever ia sk her why doesent she tlak about it with her freinds shes gives me soemthing like this
"shut up
Stop saying stuff you dont know.
They wont understand.
There's no point talking about it cos there's nothing no one can do.
It will just make me even more upset talking about it"
Now shes saying she doesent love him or anyone else Just misses him=/ been a year since theyspoke and what they had was "Perfect_
I would seriously just walk away. This isn't worth your time or effort as far as I can see.
So your girlfriend is comparing your real relationship to an idealized fantasy relationship that she thought she had with someone else. Of course they never fought, what she was perceiving as perfect was a guy not figuring it was worth arguing with her because he didn't want anything real with her.
I'm calling "nuttier than squirrel shit" on this one and saying the earlier you can get out of this the better. I mean I know you care about this girl but in my experience when people say they can't love you fully for whatever reason you should believe them.
It hurts to end things but the earlier you end it the sooner you can move on and find someone who's ready to love you fully for the person you are.
Now she said she feels like I dont love her x.x but shes aid that i know u love me x.x