I met my partner from an online dating site. We both work unsociable hours and were both single for a while. I think it's great because you get to know someone as a person first. Go to proper sites, not seedy ones, be honest and enjoy it.
I haven't felt there is a stigma against it from people I've told.
It can work, but both parties have to understand each other, and be willing to go at each others pace.
i didn't try to i'm thinking that the internet is my free world some where not related to my daily life meeting friends ok but for sex !!! or serious stuff naaa!!
now a days the younger people meet on line but the go through a site that is set up for that kind of activity not lush
Well, hello, one and all. I thought I might as well chime in on this for my very first post. I met my late wife in a chat room in 1999, she lived just an hour away from me. We talked for six hours that first night, and got married eight days later.
BTW, as background information, I suffer from anxiety attacks that flare up in social situations like clubs (sigh). We had almost six years together, years I wouldn't trade for anything. I'm still trying to meet someone new, though, six years after losing her so, that just out and out sucks.
Anyhow, that's the short version and I'm glad I found this little corner of the Internet.
I met my lover on the internet. Never looked back.
Both of my brothers married women they met online. One was twice divorced and the other widowed at the time they met their current spouse. I do think it can work, and actually isn't any scarier than meeting someone new in the traditional ways.
As someone who uses online dating in the u.k. I can honestly say that it is a good way to meet new people. Nowadays, with busy lives and a distinct lack of places to meet (have to admit that I'm over 40) it is a lot easier to develop new friendships and relationships online than through traditional means.
There are a lot of pitfalls though. Online dating relies on honesty and many people are less than honest. I myself have been 'approached' by attractive ladies (if the photo is genuine) who have expressed interest in meeting me, but the grammar and tone of their messages, and their insistance on conversing by email has alarm bells ringing straight away. It's usually eastern european women looking for a way out of an improverished life in their own country. And there are many 'players' who use the sites for sex rather than developing a relationship. Once they've had it they move on, leaving a trail of devastation. It is an emotional minefield and many people on the site get so many knockbacks and bad experiences that they end up feeling worthless. And believe me I've been through it all.
So why am I still using them? Well it's like the lottery (don't know if there is a national lottery in your country but there is in the u.k.). You know that the chances of winning are so slim its very unlikely to happen. But you keep doing it because there is always the chance that you may win. I feel constantly annoyed about the fact that the sites make a fortune out of lonely people, many of whom are also in financial difficulty, having come through messy divorces and struggling to make ends meet alone, but without it I would not have had some of the most wonderful moments in my life and made friendships that have become important to me.
Am trying the sites, but no luck. Probably because I am an unattractive person, in the fact that I can't get out and do things other people can. This is because I am on oxygen 24/7. That doesn't mean that I can't function or have lost my marbles. It just means I can't leave home very often
There are pros and cons to any type of dating but internet dating may have a few more cons since you can't really read the person, only what they type. I have been doing internet dating on and off for a while now with almost no success. I have made a great friend because of it but no more. It probly works better in more populated areas as there are more singles looking, but in rural country the numbers are few and far between as everyone already has someone, at least that's more my problem. Long distance relationships are hard to make work so I tend to look close to home and ther really is no one in my area looking for me. I prefer the quiet peaceful atmosphere of the country whereas most people my age like the city life, that is another issue that makes it hard to find that special someone. I'm not against internet dating but I don't think it will work for me.
Now if you excuse me I am going to quietly sulk in the corner.VCebhfDS9sFx1LTi
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We are both married but started online dating because we had certain sexual desires. The online experience continued for quite a while and got to know each other really well. Later on we had some truly great phone sex experiences until we finally decided to meet in a cosy, quite restaurant. Well, we could barely keep our hands off each other during the first meeting! Of course that was followed by most intimate, exciting sexual encounters in hotel rooms and other places. We still meet whenever we can for a couple of hours of great sex!
I think the internet is a great place to meet people. I'm quite newly single and have had a couple of dates set up via the net - so far so good, Lush is a whole new world though - changes the order in which you get to know someone
I went through a phase of meeting women through an internet dating site. I ended up dating one for just a few months. I also tried AdultFriendFinder twice. The first time we ended up having 2 pretty decent hook ups and that was the end of it. So I tried it again. The second one turned out to be a pro that wanted to charge me money. I didn't use that site again. Now I've gone back to the old fashioned meet someone through friends, social and business functions.
i am currently with a wonderful guy for 2 years and i met him on craigslist from when i posted a personal add so i say give it a try
My husband and I met online eight years before we met in person. We have been married for four years. Is our marriage perfect? Hell no, but it's not a nightmare either. We were friends for eight years never with the intention of being together, we were just friends...like modern day pen pals.
It is the modern day singles ad. It doesn't hold the same stigma as it once did.
Sex is not the answer. Sex is the question. "Yes" is the answer. ~Swami X
, maybe its not good idea for real friendship
You have to be really careful but it does work out. I did the onlline dating scene and never had a scary experiance but had a few bad dates. However, I have also made some great friends that I wouldn't have otherwise made....and met my husband.
