Dear all, I think that anyone in a sexless relationship should google asexuality and spend 30 minutes researching the subject. I did this a week or so ago and it has explained much of the last 30+' years. The prognosis is not good and there are few solutions but at least I have a better understanding of why things are the way they are.
Thanks
Sam
I'll have a look at that thanks! Mine is not sexless, but may as well be! Around once a month and I always feel like I'm putting her out and 'making' her!
That's ok. A lot of folks have helped me over the past month or so and I now know so much more about it. I wanted to encourage others who may be in a similar situation to investigate asexuality. It really does explain so much and I really think it should get a lot more exposure.
I think it would be so easy to cheat, divorce and clear off but that's certainly not my style. We live in a hyper sexed world, it's all around you and for people living with an asexual it's increasingly difficult I think to put sex to the back of your mind and lock it away. One might question then why am I here because surely this is one of the most sexual site around. Well the answer for me is simple. Visiting this site allows me to choose when to engage with sex by reading erotica when I want whereas in the real open world it hits you all the time, and increasingly so and it catches you off guard. Whilst this is a little challenging for the sexual partner with dare I say a normal sex drive which I must point out I am , it must be terrible for an asexual.
I guess, although I have no proof what so ever, that asexuals hide in the closet, much like homosexuals did many many years ago. I therefore feel so very saddened by the ordeal asexuals my have living in the world today.
We need to recognise that asexuality in a condition of mind and body that we should understand and support.
Thanks for reading
Sam