I go to college, and there's a girl I really love. Not just like, literally love. I never want to be with anyone else, I feel one thousand times happier when I'm around her, and I feel like I don't want to spend the rest of my life with anyone else.
But there are three problems.
Firstly, she already has a boyfriend, and they've been going out for quite a long time.
Secondly, I don't know if she feels the same way, but probably not.
Lastly, I don't want to tell her because it might ruin our friendship.
The case of unrequited love is the most painful experience I have ever been through in my life. It's so painful not knowing whether there is anything there, but I feel like I couldn't love another girl.
What do I do? I know people will tell me to move on, but it isn't as easy as that.
I started smoking to ease the stress of my life (partly due to this horrible situation). People advise me not to, but I can't find another way through the day.
She has a man already, so don't tell her how you feel. You will more than likely ruin your friendship if you do. Your feelings are your responsibility, not hers. Your happiness is up to you.
Starting smoking, an extremely poor choice. Quit now. You can. There is that old quote about whether you think you can or you can't, your right. It is true.
Sorry if this sounds harsh. Don't mean to be, just realistic. Your life is up to YOU! Make it great.
Nothing good will ever come from obsessing over someone.
I believe there are times you just have to roll the dice in life. Have you ever stood on the western edge of North America on a bluff above Big Sur watching the sun set over the Pacific Ocean. Make it a goal, quit school and buy a motorcycle and go off into life and never look back. That would be my advice.
I was in the same situation back in my university days. She actually knew how I felt and things were rough for awhile but I had to accept the fact that she was with someone else. No choice but to move on. Go do something else. Focus on your studies. Hang out with friends. I ended up playing a lot of pool and got quite good at it. You know what? I got over her. You know what else? 20 years later, she and I are still good friends.
Oh, and stop smoking!
When two people make a whole, what you end up with are two half-people.
5. Take charge of your feelings and regain control of your life.
People who panic or get depressed usually do so because they have lost control- they give up responsibility for how badly they feel. Because it’s easier to let others take charge of your life and blame them for your troubles than to say, “I created these feelings myself.”
~Wayne Dyer
Stop smoking, take up a physical activity or sport and put that stress and energy into something that will be beneficial to you, not destructive, like smoking.
If you're at college, is there a student health center with counselling? If so, go and talk to someone about this, it might help.
Good luck.
Get out of the fantasy world. Face the reality, so to lessen the pain and for you to accept the truth.
Emotion and energy must go somewhere, if you love this girl holding in your feelings will make it worse. Other posts are correct, quit smoking cause it makes kissin awful. If you really care for her why not write a few stories dedicated to her. Life is too short if you love someone then tell them, if they reject you then move on. If you want her heart standing silent does'nt help. Smoking will kill you, telling this girl you love her will not. The pain will not leave till you find out, ask her !
I would definitely recommend telling her. Because if in your role as her friend, you help her see that her current guy isn't good enough for her, and then she later finds out you have those feelings, she is going to question whether you were truly acting in her best interest, or whether you manipulated her into dumping him so you could be with her. Better to put your cards on the table, so there is no second guessing later on.
Listen, been thru this too... all the above is great advice... if the best you can do is be her friend then take it. I know it sucks and sometimes it hurts, but youll get over it (so they say Im still waiting)but would you rather lose her? its your choice.
by telling her how you feel you get a response and it's easier to cope and move on if she tell you there will never be anything between you.
In this world you have to put yourself first to ever get what you want.
Starting smoking as an excuse is just... (no comment)
Okay so anyway, I got over my feelings of this girl. However, she is one of my best friends and there's something wrong.
I feel completely useless- I've tried talking to her about it, but she just pushes me away and says "nothing's wrong". She says herself she randomly cries some nights, I wish I knew why. I can't get her to talk about it, and she's making it seem like the whole world is against her.
Can I help her?
Thanks for the advice.
Tell her how you feel. Fight for her.
If you truly love her more than anything, then I think you need to go for it.
I know you said you don't want to move on, but staying where you are isn't good for health; emotionally or physically.
Your friendship will suffer in time if you continue this way, because it isn't honest.
You're just her friend. She's your friend too, but because you want more, it's going to make you even more miserable the longer you keep it to yourself.
She's a saint with the lips of a sinner.
- r.m. drake
This thread is 4 years old, the OP is probably dead by now.
lmao...i didn't even check
She's a saint with the lips of a sinner.
- r.m. drake