i think lush is one big dating site in a way apart from the focus is on sex then emotions, rather than the other way around.
I've fallen in lust and love many of my friends on there.
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Do people really fall in love on lush?
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I am very open and honest on this site, there's no real risk of rejection, so if you really want to get to know someone well, this is not a bad place to start
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it might be possible yet I seriously doubt it on this site
Why do you doubt it could happen?
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I think it is possible to get to know someone very well, develop a friendship and then expand it into love. Sure, if it starts with lust, I doubt it develops much further than that. It's like learning to fly a plane without learning how to land it. If you try to build a relationship on that, you better hope you'll be able to glide indefinitely. But if two people start with the basics, with their character, their personality, their values, their hopes and dreams.. just like any solid relationship, I guess. But if you're here to cyber in the first place, and you start with "Do you like big cocks?", then no, I don't suppose you'll find love here.
While I do think A LOT of people on Lush confuse lust and love, I absolutely know it is possible to find love here. It has happened and continues to happen all the time. As many other people have said, why not here? It's just like meeting people anywhere else and most people are more open and honest here than they normally are in the real world, which is certainly the case with me as far as expressing my wants and desires. I also think that when a real relationship between Lushies develops, it is not something that only takes place on Lush. In most cases, it then progresses to the phone and/or meeting. It seems that some people are under the impression that the "love" only exists on Lush chats or something, which is not the case at all.
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it might be possible yet I seriously doubt it on this site
Why do you doubt it could happen?
you doubt?
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I think it is possible to get to know someone very well, develop a friendship and then expand it into love. Sure, if it starts with lust, I doubt it develops much further than that. It's like learning to fly a plane without learning how to land it. If you try to build a relationship on that, you better hope you'll be able to glide indefinitely. But if two people start with the basics, with their character, their personality, their values, their hopes and dreams.. just like any solid relationship, I guess. But if you're here to cyber in the first place, and you start with "Do you like big cocks?", then no, I don't suppose you'll find love here.
While I do think A LOT of people on Lush confuse lust and love, I absolutely know it is possible to find love here. It has happened and continues to happen all the time. As many other people have said, why not here? It's just like meeting people anywhere else and most people are more open and honest here than they normally are in the real world, which is certainly the case with me as far as expressing my wants and desires. I also think that when a real relationship between Lushies develops, it is not something that only takes place on Lush. In most cases, it then progresses to the phone and/or meeting. It seems that some people are under the impression that the "love" only exists on Lush chats or something, which is not the case at all.
You're absolutely right. It's like meeting someone at the grocery store. The relationship doesn't have to take place just in the grocery store. It follows you outside and back home. Otherwise... seriously, a relationship that wouldn't leave the grocery store would put the "gross" into "grocery"...
And I have, myself, taken it to another level, i.e. the phone. I must say it's fantastic.
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I'm sure that people could definitely fall in love on Lush. It's not like their is some rule book on how or when or where people are allowed to fall in love.... it just happens. I would just be weary not to confuse lust with love.... because it happens too often and can only lead to heartache for at least one person in the end. All in all though - love is something that we should celebrate and embrace.... so if you have the opportunity to fall in love, you might as well take it. No matter if it happens here, at a grocery store, or at a bar... it will always be a big leap of faith to follow your heart.
I don't believe you can honestly and truly fall in love with someone ON the internet. I do however believe you can come across someone you could potentially fall in love with, take it outside of the internet (ie. into real life) and fall in love with that person.
I'm kind of of the opinion that people who sit on the internet saying they're 'in love' with someone they've never met...that strikes me as deluding oneself. If you've met the person and spent some time with them....then I believe that's a different matter entirely.
I'm kind of of the opinion that people who sit on the internet saying they're 'in love' with someone they've never met...that strikes me as deluding oneself. If you've met the person and spent some time with them....then I believe that's a different matter entirely.
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It depends on what you consider love to be. The initial build up of an on going chat with someone doesn't usually last too long. Once you peak with a person sexually on lush, the intrigue tends to leave and it's on to the next little fix. In order to accomplish such a feat as love, you'd have to go beyond the sex so that the peak becomes a fix for the knowlege of the person. That is a rarity on a site like this. Still, emotional connections can happen with a perticularly slow sexual build up so I'm not going to say it's not possible, just very unlikely that you'd find your soul mate here.
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I don't believe you can honestly and truly fall in love with someone ON the internet. I do however believe you can come across someone you could potentially fall in love with, take it outside of the internet (ie. into real life) and fall in love with that person.
I'm kind of of the opinion that people who sit on the internet saying they're 'in love' with someone they've never met...that strikes me as deluding oneself. If you've met the person and spent some time with them....then I believe that's a different matter entirely.
I agree that meeting IRL is an important point. It's easy to be infatuated online but after a while it will usually fade out.
Right from the start I told hb74 that I would want to meet IRL and we ended up meeting less than 3 months after we first spoke on lush (despite her being in Asia and me in Europe).
Some lush people were skeptical so that's why we posted the pic of us holding that "we love lushstories" sign.
I know a few other lushies have also met IRL despite sometimes being on the other side of the world. If you're really willing to spend the money and time to be together then it's as 'real' as any other relationship.
Insert typical super smart ass comment courtesy of thepainter here.
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I heard of some people falling in love on lush. Is it true? And are you sure it's not lust?
Need to know ..that "falling in love" anywhere..be it on net or in real... does not mean "getting together" always...
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I agree that meeting IRL is an important point. It's easy to be infatuated online but after a while it will usually fade out.
Right from the start I told hb74 that I would want to meet IRL and we ended up meeting less than 3 months after we first spoke on lush (despite her being in Asia and me in Europe).
Some lush people were skeptical so that's why we posted the pic of us holding that "we love lushstories" sign.
I know a few other lushies have also met IRL despite sometimes being on the other side of the world. If you're really willing to spend the money and time to be together then it's as 'real' as any other relationship.
Agreed, I met my last ex off the internet.... spoke with him for a few months before meeting up despite him only living an hour away. It wasn't 'meant to be' (like most to all 'relationships' are at 18
), but I did feel strongly for him during the 7 or 8 months we had together. The thing that 'gets' me is, as I mentioned above, people who sit there saying they love someone they've never met. This is the internet...it's impossible to truly portray yourself 100% accurately...therefore you can never really fully, and completely, 'know' someone on the internet. How can you be in love with someone that you don't fully know?
Not to mention that some people turn out to be completely different in real life... I've not had any truly bad internet meet ups, but I have had a couple of guys that have been considerably different to how they were online/on the phone etc etc. To say I loved them before meeting them would have been ridiculous... because, despite thinking I did, I clearly didn't really know them.
I'm sure there are some people on here who would find what I just said above offensive (infact I can think of a few people off the top of my head), and I'm sorry for that, but I do believe what I said above.
I doubt you will fall in love the permanent kind on Lush, but when the door is opened you never knew if the Love of Your Life is standing there.
This comes from someone who could be your Mother.
I found the love of my life the last place I would have ever looked.
Good Luck when the time is right.
This comes from someone who could be your Mother.
I found the love of my life the last place I would have ever looked.
Good Luck when the time is right.
it is very possible for people to fall in love on here because i have experienced it... The Demon King and i met on here April 22 when i was known as submissivewhore19... And we have been together happily ever since even though we both thought it would just be sex. But i love him so much and wouldnt trade him for anything
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I think it all depends on how you define love. If you are talking about the never-ending "I want to spend the rest of my life with only you" kind of love, then no, I don't think that can happen on lush alone. There's a physical aspect to that type of love which just can not be satisfied online no matter how great the cyber is. There is no cyber equivelant to me having my arms around her, feeling her touch against my skin. Doesn't even have to be sexual, it's an intimacy that can't happen online.
But, if we are talking about love as an emotion where the other person's happiness, or general emotional state affects your own, then yes, I do believe it is possible to love a person you met on lush. In some ways, it may actually be even easier to reach that point online than in real life, because the physical doesn't get in the way. Words are really all you have, so you take the time to get to know each other for who you truly are deep down inside. And when you truly know the other person, you share his or her hopes and dreams. Your heart fills with joy for every opportunity they get, and truly hurts when things don't go their way.
But, if we are talking about love as an emotion where the other person's happiness, or general emotional state affects your own, then yes, I do believe it is possible to love a person you met on lush. In some ways, it may actually be even easier to reach that point online than in real life, because the physical doesn't get in the way. Words are really all you have, so you take the time to get to know each other for who you truly are deep down inside. And when you truly know the other person, you share his or her hopes and dreams. Your heart fills with joy for every opportunity they get, and truly hurts when things don't go their way.
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no I don't think so, most are infacuated with some one who speaks nice to them. they don't realize in the long run a relation on lush is like real life the longer you with some one the staler it becomes
If all your relationships get stale, it's because you probably don't love the person enough to make the EFFORTS to keep it fresh. If I was with someone and didn't feel like trying to make her happy, I hope she would dump me brutally.
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Love can happen anytime, anywhere...
so y not on Lush??
Truly said...