I’ve been married 12 years and we have 2 children 6 and 9 and like most relationships we’re busy with work and family stuff and over the years my closeness with hubby has tailed off a bit.
Around 6 months ago I saw a guy at my local gym who is a parent of one of the kids in my sons class. He is not with the mother and only occasionally picks his kid up from school where I see him.
For a few weeks we’d let on at the gym and eventually started talking. He was lovely and spoke about school, kids, work etc and I enjoyed it whenever I’d see him there. He is attractive too which doesn’t matter but I guess for the purpose of this I should admit that
Whenever I’m on a school pick up and he’s there which is maybe once a week he comes and talks to me again about nice things however when I’ve gone with hubby he doesn’t come over but just smiles at me and let’s on
I hadn’t given him my mobile but recently he added me on FB and liked a few of my pictures. He’s also started messaging me asking what time I’ll be at the gym and if I’ll have time for a coffee etc
My question is do I need to say something to him or is this fine? I really like him and enjoy his company
Tell him I’m chatting you mean?
Are you looking to cheat?
If you meet up w/ him you will definitely be emotionally cheating on your husband because he doesn't give you the attention you crave.
There is nothing wrong with having a person of the opposite sex as a platonic friend . It best to introduce him to your SO at some stage , to make sure he doesn't get the wrong idea . I have plenty of friends who are the opposite sex of which many of the have befriended my SO but I have no intention of turning these friendships into something else .
However if you are developing feelings or as the above poster stated about Emotional Affairs , then you need to think again on what you want . This need may indicate something lacking in your own relationship and perhaps it is something you need to discuss with your SO . That way you can put things right if things have gotten a little stale . Often after kids are born some relationships at some time or other may get a little stale from time to time and just need that flame reigniting.
The other half of this is the intent of the other man. Is he mistaking your innocent actions for much more. You may be planning some personal communication, He may be thinking sex. Best ensure this is understood before anything else.