My husband is 51 and over the past couple of years his sex drive has diminished. He has no problem in achieving or maintaining an erection. He won't speak about it or see his GP and I've tried everything to get the spark back. I keep myself looking as good as I can for him and don't pressurise him into sex but it's frustrating and knocks my confidence everytime he refuses sex. Is this normal for men his age?
I'm not so sure that it is normal, just due to age. There can be a myriad of reasons for what appears to be a decrease in sex drive; work pressures, self-confidence, his own appearance, money issues, feeling your sexual relations are in a rut and boring, etc. I am not saying that any of these apply in your case, but a decrease in sex drive is always due to a less than obvious cause, particularly if the man is unwilling to discuss it with his life partner, a friend or even a medical professional. I don't have any magic pill or solution, but I thought you needed someone to respond to your cry for help. It must be very frustrating for you and I hope you can work through this issue to, at the very least understand what is going on with him, but ideally to resurrect what had been an enjoyable sex life that was apparently very satisfying to you. Hopefully, someone on here, more qualified than I, can help you with this very real problem.
I've asked him outright if he feels our sex life is in a rut or if he no longer finds me sexually attractive but he said no to both, it's soul destroying when your spouse spurns your advances, when we do have sex it feels like he is only doing it to please me . The unwillingness to discuss and talk things through is worrying.
I have suffered from the same problem as your husband over the years. Certainly aging plays a part, but the causes are by no means simple. Loss of self esteem is often significant, so work problems, sub-acute depression, grief, or just the feeling that one is no longer attractive can be important. Even something as simple as one's children leaving home can have unforeseen consequences. In my case, the catastrophic ending of an affair with a coworker sent my libido plummeting. I have found that a period of physical separation from my wife has had the opposite effect and on returning home from a period away I have always found that I am extremely horny.
Perhaps an erotic vacation trip to someplace like Hedonism in Jamaica or a lifestyle resort in the states might remind him how much fun it can be. I've seen folks as old as 70 in these places so it will also provide some peer approval.
I feel for your situation. I am your husbands age and went through that a couple years ago. I talked with my doctor and had a blood test taken. It showed I had low testosterone. He prescribed a cream that I rubbed in once a day. Problem solved. For me that is. Ask your hubby to talk with his doctor.
Good luck
There can be one thing or many things that contribute to the problem. Stress, medical problems, medication, age, vanity, an unresolved underlying marital issues. In my case all of these. It amazed me how much emotional abuse I was subjected to by my Ex-wife and how demeaning it was. When she declared her affair and desire for a divorce, the spiral down and climb back up was worse than being in combat and fighting for my life (Don't worry karma got her back he left her). Keep trying if you love him, leave him if you don't, maybe that'll wake him up.
due to the meds I have been on have been causing me that problom
I too am 51 and the biggest problem I have is stress, it really side tracks my libido, but I think Chuck e poo my have a point there are any number of OTC testosterone boosters available. Just adding one may be enough to get things started (psychologically as well as physically), Good Luck!!
Since I started taking presription testosterone my libido skyrocketed and I went from no drive to over drive. I actually could go at least four times a day now. I want sex all the time. Clearly it is a confidence builder from a psychological point of view as well. You can deal with your decreasing drive I just think it is important to regulate it and that is what Im trying to do right now
Since I started taking presription testosterone my libido skyrocketed and I went from no drive to over drive. I actually could go at least four times a day now. I want sex all the time. Clearly it is a confidence builder from a psychological point of view as well. You can deal with your decreasing drive I just think it is important to regulate it and that is what Im trying to do right now
Since I started taking presription testosterone my libido skyrocketed and I went from no drive to over drive. I actually could go at least four times a day now. I want sex all the time. Clearly it is a confidence builder from a psychological point of view as well. You can deal with your decreasing drive I just think it is important to regulate it and that is what Im trying to do right now
Since I started taking presription testosterone my libido skyrocketed and I went from no drive to over drive. I actually could go at least four times a day now. I want sex all the time. Clearly it is a confidence builder from a psychological point of view as well. You can deal with your decreasing drive I just think it is important to regulate it and that is what Im trying to do right now
Since I started taking presription testosterone my libido skyrocketed and I went from no drive to over drive. I actually could go at least four times a day now. I want sex all the time. Clearly it is a confidence builder from a psychological point of view as well. You can deal with your decreasing drive I just think it is important to regulate it and that is what Im trying to do right now
I will be 78 in a week's time and I still have a keen sex drive ; unfortunately ED has become a problem , but Kamagra , Indian generic Viagra , overcomes that problem . A bigger problem is being married to a beautiful woman 54 , post menopause who has little interest in sex . I feel sorry for men 50yrs who are losing it ; between 50 and 60 I was at my best , could stay hard for a long time without cumming .
My sexdrive is lower than lets say 10 yrs ago. But I guess it's all natural and ithas as an advantage that there no more unwanted erections lol
yes from all the meds im on
my sex drive is still ok it is my wifes that has gone
