In my first marriage I stopped loving him if I ever really did love him pretty much right away, the love and feelings for him disappeared...
I'm in my second marriage and I have fallen out of love with him about 6 years ago, we are still married but he lives downstairs and I live upstairs, don't get me wrong I care about what happens to the man, but am not in love with him...
It depends on why it ended. I still love my ex-Master as we ended when it was time to move on for him, and really for both of us. I have no feelings what-so-ever for my ex-husbands though lol.
Quote by thepleasureprinciple If it was a forbidden love that you were never able to fully act out upon, it never goes away. It's intensity never fades.
As much as I wish my heart had an on/off switch and I could just go on with my life, ending loving feelings for someone has never been that easy. It is like a funeral "In loving memory of....." because in the end it's just the memories of both the good and the bad that stays long after the love is gone. Emotions are complex, when a relationship ends there is an undefined part of you that stays with that person no matter what. Perhaps because at one point in your life he/she is what makes you WHOLE.
As much as I love you, and you and Aragon, I don't believe it!
You don't love by parts, it's all or nothing! Even with a bad break there's that bit of you that you gave for ever. It's when you walk down the street and a laugh, the way someone moves their head, a chin, a walk, an ass, a shirt and so many random things, spark a memory. The first memory is good and then we analyse.
There is always a good memory and we recall them first, later comes the warning of why it was no good.
It is weird with me. I recall my loves but I rarely think of them. Maybe because they don't compare to what I have now. Not even close.
It depends on the relationship. I have never walked into one without knowing the person first. To love a person, it must be based on truth. Truth seems to be lacking now days and people get burned. Many times, one gets burned because they play in woods. It being on fire.Tr4pqlTdjXcTx4mB
Therefore was it really love before or did you just think it was?
It felt like love at the time. Or maybe it was what I thought of love. Maybe when I am older I will revise my thoughts. But I don't love after. It may take time but I don't. I did it once and I will never torture myself again.
I think you can after a relationship, especially to move on. it's not easy, but it is doable. it's easier when they break your heart and you hate their slimy guts
With a few exceptions, I do NOT "hate" / "dislike" anyone. That being said, my first wife and I remained "friends" for 40 years...ranging from "civil" to "very cordial". Then she said it was all put on and for show, etc. and ruined a holiday for me with our daughter and severly hurt all of us. So...YES...I have completely lost all sense of friendship / platonic love for this woman. I try to not even think of her at all....the "relationship" is dead now.
Quote by mentalcase I think you can after a relationship, especially to move on. it's not easy, but it is doable. it's easier when they break your heart and you hate their slimy guts
I am at 50-50 on that. I still miss my first girlfriend terribly and never stopped loving her. My second girlfriend, who also got married and moved away, I had fallen out of love with her long before the relationship broke up. It wasn't mutual loathing, I was still happy for her but terribly relieved that she moved on.
Quote by Alphamagus Love is an energy. Energy, as all scientists know, cannot disappear, but its form may change. Hence the lyric "There's a thin line between love and hate".
Did you just apply the first law of thermodynamics to love? That made me chuckle some!
I think it's only human to still feel a bit of fondness if the relationship ended amicably. I wouldn't expect love to mellow out just after the split though; it takes time. As for ex-es we hate with our guts, the anger would dissipate too - in time. As long as we're making new worthwhile memories in the present time, things in the past should fade out quite peaceably. I guess the energy potentially spent musing about ex-es would be invested in something (or someone) else more important in the here and now - the law of conservation of energy holds true then.x