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Age,does it matter?

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Although there's no firm rule, yes age matters - quite a lot. Firstly, age strongly influences your cultural "touchpoints", the music, the celebrities, the tv programmes, the books, films and events that mean something to you. And those cultural touchpoints are, for (most?) couples, an important ingredient in the glue that binds you together. And secondly, as you get into the latter phase of your life, age-related weaknesses become ever-more intrusive. Instead of being in harmony, your body clocks are running at different speeds. Basic changes of any kind (job, friends, injuries, illnesses) put pressure on relationships and this is a long-term, grinding set of changes that is far from insignificant. Are you both comfortable sharing your anxieties about what the future holds as the menopause or prostate enlargement kicks in, swelling of the ankles, heart palpitations during love making, or simply finding favourite positions impossible through wear and tear on joints? Maybe you are. More likely you have a lot of uncomfortable moments ahead in which the older partner will feel regret, guilt, fear and lessened. Don't get me wrong, my partners are much younger than me and it has been a joy. But it has been joy through the tears as well as through the years.
Doesn't matter to me. My husband is 24 years older than me.
We can blame things on age, but really deep down they are more about the effects of age than age it's self.
If you look after yourself and keep fit then no . Age is often a state of mind.
Age is only a number...please ask...I won’t mind...?
I used to think it was. I ripped my friend to pieces when he was 24 and went to live with his 37 year old girlfriend who he met online, but since being here, I have felt more open to relationships with older women. But that is just Lush I guess.
When I was 20, I had a sexual relationship with a 38 year old woman. I liked her experience, she liked my energy I had then. A year or so later, I slept a couple of times with a woman about 22 years older than I. Never really thought too much into the age gap.
When two consenting adults enjoy each other's company then that is up to them. Age difference doesn't matter.
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Although there's no firm rule, yes age matters - quite a lot. Firstly, age strongly influences your cultural "touchpoints", the music, the celebrities, the tv programmes, the books, films and events that mean something to you. And those cultural touchpoints are, for (most?) couples, an important ingredient in the glue that binds you together.


I've had relationships with girls younger and older, and it was for the most part fine. But PeachesAndDiesel (great name, btw) has a big point - there's great comfort in having someone who shares the same cultural touchstones you do. Movies, TV, real world events. You share so much in common simply through living through those thing together. I need that. Didn't used to.
If you like the person and they like you, why should age matter?
As long as it's consensual and neither of you are underage, then no, age doesn't matter.

My heart has wi-fi and the password is Drew Carey.

I think it really depends on the ages. Mature (whatever age you think that is) can absorb the age difference maybe because the interests are more in line with one another. Younger will make it work in the beginning because it is a relationship they probably have not had, but in time that aspect wears off. When I am with guys/girls my own age we pretty much click but with older it starts to strain. Besides the run on sentences I hope this makes sense smile
I used to get attracted to mature guys, a few year older than myself....but after so many years I have now realized that age doesn't matter, chemistry does!
For most, generally, at some point, Yes, it will matter.
Some of my best sex was with 2 different women about the same time in my life. I was 31,32ish, they were over 40. One was so into it we became fuck buddies for nearly a year before she had to move away. Evidently my age mattered as my younger age gave me more strength and stamina she wanted.
I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone younger then my adult children, but a one night fling we we both leave afterwards as friends not lovers sure. That being said age does bring knowledge.
No it doesn't. Monday evening I entertained a guy 33 years younger than I. We had plenty in common to make for a wonderful evening and running well into the next day.
I don't feel age matters all that much. Attraction is what is important to me.
I'm a hopeless romantic and the older I get the more hopeless I become. Reach for the brass ring and don't worry about what others think.
That question has a different reality for everyone. Domwife and I have been together 39 years, and we still get that giddy tingling all over feeling when we kiss, and it only gets more intense from there. I was 17, and she was 39 when our love affair started, and we have been married 33 years. And no, it has not been all roses and champaign. But it has been far more good than bad. Sadly, our relationship and love have outlasted many of our friend's "age-appropriate" relationships and marriages.ch8bKe8dvx4G2op5
When I was younger I had GREAT sex with both men and women that were as much as 30 years older than I was, and learned so very much. I have passed this knowledge on....
In those cases where the difference in age is very very large - definitely yes.
I think 5-10 years is an acceptable age difference
In employment circles: 50 plus is a REAL thing. As for sexual matter... hell no. haha

I don’t feel age matters as long as the two people get along and love one another. I believe yes its the whole age difference thing but that’s part of the turn on for both parties.

Age surely does not matter to me.

I think it depends on the people.

A lot of times though i think it'll wind up being two people who don't understand each others references or share the same interests.

If they care enough though they can become interested in each other's interests.

Life can't be all Harold and Maude tho. ( whatever that means )

It does matter, but it depends on how much you let it matter.

My current girlfriend is 10 years younger than me, but it matters little since we're still both in the same generation. She'll crack wise about me being 'old' sometimes 😆, or I will make a reference that leaves her stumped, but it means nothing because the feelings(and sex) trump all.

My last published story: Ho For The Holidays

At one point in my life I had two lovers, one was over 20 years younger and the other was more than 30 years older. Both were unique in their own way, sexually and personally. After 6 months all three of us had dinner and after several years we have all evolved into very close friends…occasionally still lovers. I don’t recall ever thinking about age except on my birthday.

Does it matter? I dont think so.

If you are both happy to enjoy the relationship then do not hesitate.

I have only had a couple of relationships with much older men - my first older guy was 40 years was older and it was amazing. I was a teen.

Many years later and he was much older again, it was wonderful.