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Sorry...but this question has been in the forefront of my mind for the greater part of a year now, ever since I decided that I was doing a great disservice to Lush by using it as somewhere to simply "get off" and then get off.
Something that happened here earlier today and the ensuing conversations about it have prompted me to ask...

Why are you here? What keeps you coming back to Lush?


For myself...I came here after being banned from another site for being a little too vociferous and argumentative. I've been the same here. And I'm still here...
Still a gobby bitch. Still wondering why having an opinion can get you banned.

I've almost fallen in love with this site and what it represents, the people that give freely of their time to make the place what it is and the members that make it such a fun, friendly and frankly fucking fantastic place.


So...why are you here?
i am here because i was in between relationships' at the time i joined. at first i fell in love with the stories but soon joined and fell in love with the chats, then the forum, then the people. being here going on 5 years or more, guess i just got addicted
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i am here because i was in between relationships' at the time i joined. at first i fell in love with the stories but soon joined and fell in love with the chats, then the forum, then the people. being here going on 5 years or more, guess i just got addicted


Pretty much what my ginger said, started with stories...then chat rooms....I befriended a super sexy skunk then who led me to the forums and I was instantly hooked.

Thats how I met my beautiful Ginger and friended her after a night of crazy posting and quoting Confucious..smartarse didnt realise I could quote him back and it was a hilarious and she's been my absolute love of Lush ever since and so long as she is here so shall I be...unless I get banned which I dont plan on being...I got suspended once...quite rightly so and it sucked so Ive been sooooooooo good since and intend to stay that way.

Then the forums got taken over by lesbians and bi girls a few of them were British nutters and very like minded and funny as hell and its just made lush better and better. They in addition have been amazing friends to me, laughed with me, supported me when times are tough as have all my amazing friends here on Lush.

For a single mum like me who lacks family, once the kids have gone to bed what am i to do?? TV sucks and I dont really have many people to socialize with in real life and im quite lonely. so coming on here, chatting, bantering and making people laugh brings me joy and makes me happy that others enjoy things i post, people who are equally as lonely and it delights me that I can in some small way bring joy to their lives to.

I think people who are not involved in social networks do not fully understand how you can truly grow to love online friends, people you have never met or likely will not ever meet but I do.

I met my first lushy last weekend I was having car trouble and it had been most of the summer hols and seens I had noone to help me Simplyjohn stepped up and came to help me and it was wonderful to meet him....my lush friend helped me when noone in real life did and that just goes to show how amazing these types of friendships are does it not?

And that in a nutshell Cin is why I keep coming back despite you all slating my pizza and trying to make me a lesbian by tempting me with delicious cookies.
The Duchess of Tart

Please check out my new story, co-written with the amazing Wilful.

https://www.lushstories.com/stories/straight-sex/long-time-coming.aspx

And my latest poem, The Temptation.

https://www.lushstories.com/stories/erotic-poems/the-temptation.aspx
I started with the stories. There are some pretty great authors on this site. Then i discoverd the chat rooms and forums around the same time. I met some great people and become friends. There's even a chance I might actually met a few. That would be a bonus. I've been around since 2008. Lush is one of the best sites around.
For fun for story's for like minded people, because a lot of the time I find it difficult to go out and socialise due to late working hours I come here instead
I stumbled on Lush when I was looking for some online literature, when I should have been studying. After coming back several times to read stories I ventured to look around spotted the forums, and yes one of the people I saw there enjoying theirselves was you Cindy along with KK and Ginger and many others, maybe I should have turned tail and run for the hills then. I decided to join and the rest is history.

I have met many people here, friended some and then unfriended them and also been removed from others lists.

So why do I come back? I come back time and again because I enjoy talking to friends, meeting new people, and posting in the forums, I feel like I am a member of a special club.
I first found Lush while searching for stories. I saw the community aspect and, unlike others I had seen, you weren't required to pay money just to talk to someone. I signed up and have made some really good friends, through both the forums and chat rooms. I enjoy and prefer the interaction with people I get here over the stories, and look forward to continuing to do so.
I was writing erotica looked for a place to post, and found Lush, this was about 10 years ago. Long before it became what it is today. I was gone for a number of years and completely forgot about this website. A couple of months ago I wanted to read my stories, did a Google search and was pleased to see a revamped, interactive site. Couldn't find my stories but instead found some really wonderful people. Great tradeoff!
Yall are all so serious...but I am stalking Lady Ann...hehe, Poke your it sweetie. LMAO
I was invited here by a current member who has been a good friend of mine ever since we were on MySpace together, years ago when it was a great social site. I've been looking for a comparable site for years, and found Lush to be far better than MySpace ever was. Since I've been writing for years, I thought Lush would be a perfect home for me. I love the site, and I'm hoping the wonderful membership here will embrace me and my stories as well.
Like many others I came here just to read the stories. At the time my name was Sottomesso. I had just lost a child and then shortly after found out I was preg with twins. I needed a BIG distraction. I found it. Since then I have met many wonderful people and would meet many as often as possible. After many many many many name changes and a few sabbatical's I realize I'll always be here. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Version 1: I found Lush by accident. I liked the stories and told some of the authors so. Then I discovered conversation with those authors, and that wonderful interaction keeps me here. Trading picture comments with friends is nice, but real talk is better.

Version 2: I am delighted that I can be completely open with my friends, and that they're willing to be equally open with me. [Of course, I haven't discovered any lies yet, but even that would most likely not drive me away.] The level of trust that I've found so far is amazing; I cherish that.

Version 3: I am completely captivated by the variety of sexual experience that I can read about here. I've obviously led a very sheltered life. I'm going to stay until I understand all of it.

All of those are true.
I followed my hubby here, then stayed for all the awesome friends I have made. (Too many to list) . They make me laugh, they listen when I have a bad day. Someday, hopefully I can meet a few of them. Especially with the long cold winters we have up here... in The Frozen North, Lush helps to make it tolerable.


because of my kk, chrissy,shiloh, bobbie, amy, maz, nikki703, erin, and even you cindy. it is the people, members , that keep me here.
I came here, like so many of the rest of you, to read erotic stories. Then I met a few good friends and found that Lush was so much more than a simple story site. I began looking at all that Lush offered and got to know a few people here better and decided this was the place I wanted to be at. It was a while after I came here that I worked up the nerve to write something of my own and it's been amazing ever since!
So far, this is turning out just as I hoped.
Thank you all (well...nearly all) for your posts and for being open.

@ginger "even" me?
Even me appreciates your posts, despite our little spats.
I'm here because I'm a bit of a perv (okay okay my bit is like an iceberg) and my Sonia is here... plus some other lovely friends
I get free tea and cookies in the chat rooms and sometimes I get to kick arse!!! (ok I am up for a serious post and will edit this when I have time and my challenge for today is resolved or I can do no more .. I will be back I promise. And well done Cin for posting this thread .. I, possibly like many, have thought about creating this thread before).
The members and the amazing people I made friends with are the reasons I come back. They make me happy. I guess, I just like them so much.
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ok well one person has admitted it.... I'm a bit of a perve too. And I love to learn new words like vociferous. shit.. I still haven't googled that one yet

Oh, and I came here to write. ;)


WTF a bit of a perve, you are total perve Trink, but dont worry I won't say about custard and tea cosy.

Sorry Cin I actually think this is most important thread ever posted and more power to you for posting it, love to all my friends you are the reason I am here
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WTF a bit of a perve, you are total perve Trink, but dont worry I won't say about custard and tea cosy.

Sorry Cin I actually think this is most important thread ever posted and more power to you for posting it, love to all my friends you are the reason I am here



Wait a minute, it's not a fucking WORD GAME though, is it? (I know Cinders has been waiting for me to say that) All the serious threads like this are supposed to go to The Pub forum. In fact, I think there is already one there for this just sayin'.

I don't know nuthin' about no custard or tea cosies. I take the fact that you called me a total perve, as a compliment thanks Bobs.

Now, can we get on with WORD GAMES?. jeez
I stumbled upon Lush, like so many others, by accident whilst searching for stories. From the stories, I migrated to the chat rooms, which, unlike so many others were and still are, totally free... a rarity in today's society!

Through the chat rooms, I started to get to know people on here, and from perving at their profiles also started taking notice of the Forum posts, which, unfortunately for some of you, I still frequent to this day, hopefully raising a small smile every now and then. Again, through the Forums I have been able to banter with many of the posters, a fact that makes any day more enjoyable

To answer the question, as to why I am here, these days the stories take a lower priority, The Forums mainly, the odd foray into chat ( although I do find as a member of the male species that many of the other male chatters do give us a bad name by preying on every female that enters), and also for the social networking side... I suppose being nosey, seeing what others are up to and keeping in contact.
Looking for erotic stories, realized it was a place where I might be able to get some of my own stories an audience. Then discovered the forums and that clinched it.
I can hardly say I love it like you do; sometimes I wonder if I even like it. But I'm here because, by and large it's possible on this site, if only in words, to sexually express myself to like minded people without getting thrown in jail or at least upsetting someone. In coming here, it's taken for granted that the erotic and the sexual is (in varying degrees, depending on the subject and the person) an open topic. That we may discuss (theoretically) without censor (well, maybe not) things we cannot otherwise say face to face with others in "polite society" outside of the cyber-ether. So, in a word, I'm here for the freedom. Relatively speaking. That being said, I have met some hyper-critical. over-reactive folks here, as well as people who only think they're open minded, several puritans and an abundance of downright trolls. So I'm not surprised you were bounced off here before. Better luck to you this time.
I joined in 2011 coming from another similar site but no way as good as lush, I came initially to read stories as a way of getting sexual gratification as my wife has totally given up on sex in any way shape or form and has done for many years now. So my only sexual pleasure is you people on here. I have only latley been using the chat and forums as I have been a bit hesitant to talk to people but they dont judge, no one seems bothered about ones sexual preferences or frequency. I find this rather comforting that i can come here and say what i feel and someone will be on the same wavelength at the same time and a good conversation will follow wether it is sexual or not. So people of lush THAKYOU for a wonderful 3 years and lots more to come.
First time around I came for the stories. Decided to become a gold member and try my hand at writing a few stories of my own. I soon discovered that the forums, chat rooms and writing became my "drug". I found myself quickly pouring more hours into lush then I needed, but I didn't mind the escape. I developed great friendships, some that even carried away from lush. Unfortunately due to personal reasons I had to leave lush and was unable to return for a while. During my time away I was able to grow as an individual and discovered a brand new me. Reading some of the stories here have opened my mind to things I never thought I'd even fantasize about. So my profile might reflect a member of a few months but I've actually been around for 3 years and have learned so much about myself during that time.
I stumbled across Lush when I was looking for stories as I have always found erotica fascinating, but what I have found really, really fascinating is these forums. I have found some nice friends who I love, and I have a setting in which I can share views, especially about things that are, let's say, not in the mainstream