So I came to you after a close friend recommended this place to me.
I feel conflicted as far as my sexuality goes, I find myself thinking about various things on which I never had the courage to act on.
As strangers give the best advice I would appreciate if anyone at all took the time to chat with me about this. It would mean a lot as I feel frustrated and confused.
Cheers
"If it doesn't leave you breathless, sweaty and ready to fade, it's just not worth doing."
I feel we all have a degree of bi=sexuality in us otherwise we'd all be unlivable. So all our thoughts and inclinations are in effect natural. There are a lot of social taboos some practical some contrived these factors can intermingle with our ''natural '' feelings. Consequently I think common sense should temper the ridiculous but guilt trips about these things are pretty futile. If what you feel hurts nobody then just go with it whatever the .
Thanks for the reply, it is reassuring to know I am not alone in this.
Well as you can see I am even ashamed to name my thoughts.
I know I am not hurting anyone but still I feel conflicted.
"If it doesn't leave you breathless, sweaty and ready to fade, it's just not worth doing."
I define myself as 99% straight...
(I've had SEX with three men in my ADULT life...)
I did it because I WANTED to, I'm not ashamed of it, on ONE of those occasions I believe I shared something with somebody...
I DON'T think I'm bi-sexual.
(I don't masturbate about men...)
But you know what? I don't think too much about it, neither do my friends, (including girlfriends) and NEITHER SHOULD YOU!!!
Love is Love, Passion is Passion, Fun is Fun...
(Don't worry so much!)
xx SF
I have many, many thoughts and fantasies I'm to afraid to act on in my real life. That's why I like sites like this. I find out I'm not alone!
A wise man once said to thine own self be true .Find whats right for you and not worry what anyone else thinks. Theres only one person you have to live with yourself
First of thank you everyone for your help. It makes me feel a lot better. Secondly I already feel nice and cozy here, you guys are so welcoming.
It is not so much fear or shame I feel it's more confusing than anything.
"If it doesn't leave you breathless, sweaty and ready to fade, it's just not worth doing."
Ok so I might as well be more clear.
I find myself wanting to be involved with men as well as women, in the same role.. I got hit one once or twice and I found the idea greatly appealing.. I didn't act on it though..
"If it doesn't leave you breathless, sweaty and ready to fade, it's just not worth doing."
The sad fact is many men and women grew up in homes with parents who were/are homophobic, and they have tried to ingrain their children with those prejudices and guilt, should they have those inclinations and feel too confused and/or guilt-ridden to express them. Sexuality is always a spectrum, and anyone can find themselves at some point in their lives at any point along that spectrum from straight to gay. I'm almost exactly in the middle. I love sex with both men and women, and I've been that way so long, I can't imagine being any different, because I have been a practicing bi-sexual all my life. If you are just discovering where you lie on that spectrum, and haven't yet actualized those desires/preferences, then just go for it without feeling any guilt that society or your parents would burden you with. You have the right to be anything you want to be.
I love the words SF, Sprite and Bethany said. In just one block they gave me and I am sure many others so many answers.
I am so shy, confused and never feel secure about me or my sexuality. Most of the time I even don't think in sex or intimacy. And so, this post has given me much to think. Thanks to all.
I would like to thank everyone for their kind words of advice, it helps more than you know.
I find myself attracted to the idea that sexuality shouldn't be limited by gender, I can see myself enjoying contact with both genders.
In my head my role doesn't change from one situation to another and I feel open to new things although I cannot see my self being passive in any of the two situations.
I have no idea how common such a thing is or what it indicates for my own sexuality.
If anyone has feedback I would love to hear it.
"If it doesn't leave you breathless, sweaty and ready to fade, it's just not worth doing."
(Just for fun I'll tell you this...)
My first ever STAFF Writing job was on an LGBT Community Newspaper. Consequently, I have a lot of Queer friends even today. (In those days I would NEVER have imagined myself playing about with another guy...)
But of course EVENTUALLY I did.
WHEN I DID, my Gay Male friends thought this WAS THE MOST HYSTERICAL THING EVER!!! (Not in a CRUEL way, more in a WTF way!!!)
However... For QUITE A WHILE, at parties and stuff, (Gay Parties, they'd never have put me on the spot in front of a mixed audience!!!) they would ask me to TELL THE STORY of my first Gay experience... And I'd tell the story QUITE HONESTLY...
And they would ROLL ABOUT THE FLOOR LAUGHING... (The GAY bastards!!!)
I've worked all my life in Media and Music and the Arts. The Gay Thing (?) was never unusual to me, I have straight, gay and indeed Bi men and women friends. Among my circle, sexuality while EVIDENT, isn't really an ISSUE. (By that I mean some of my mates are MOST EXCLUSIVELY gay (or straight). And some aren't.) And it doesn't matter a jot.
(Except when you FANCY a Bi-Girl that your Lesbian friend is interested in... Now THAT can be tricky!!!)
But that's another story!
xx SF
There is a guy that keeps hitting on me in the gym, most times in the showers. He is a cool dude we trained together for a while now. At first I was surprised but it was very appealing to me. You understand that I have never been with a guy before so I am a bit hesitant.
"If it doesn't leave you breathless, sweaty and ready to fade, it's just not worth doing."
My name suggest my feelings. I know I have bi tendencies that have not really been acted upon. They will some day soon. I am now open after many years of marriage. I love that I am. After spending all my life being turned on by lesbian porn ( finding my brother's mags as a teenager), I now find I am turned on by people enjoying sex in what ever way they see fit (within reason of course). My biggest surprise was when i first chose to watch two men together. I came instantly. I loved it. There is so much emphasis on female/female, and Kaboom, here was something new to me.
Enjoy
You people made me feel a ton better, thank you all. And especially the ones that took time to talk to me and advice me.
"If it doesn't leave you breathless, sweaty and ready to fade, it's just not worth doing."
Sexuality is a feeling, a need; it does not define you. You should go with your feelings and not be afraid. Be true to yourself.