Quote by JohnC
I have never understood the whole "coming out" thing. And frankly it outright annoys me. I could understand it back when homosexuality or bisexuality was HIDDEN and it could cause serious issues for people. But from what I can see, that time is LONG gone and most of the problems I see concerning it are caused by gay/les/bi people themselves (not all, only a very vocal minority) as opposed to the general public or even families. Most people just don't care. Be YOURSELF and just do what you do. People will know, if it is important to them. If not, so what?
The simple truth is, there are bigoted people out there, and bigoted for all sorts of reasons... not just sexual orientation. We have some of them in our families, and we run into them in the general public. But homosexuality/bisexuality/etc. are pretty much as common as pepsi and coke now days. It does not have the shock factor or impact it did 30 or more years ago. You see it on TV, in movies, on the street, you name it. There is no need for coming out, imo, any more. I find that the reality is that gay/les/bi folks tend to make more of their sexual preference than anyone else does.
But I guess it also depends on where you live too. What country, and even what part of the country. So what I said applies to where I have lived and what I see... it may not apply to everyone else.
This comment contradicts itself. First you say it's annoying because its no big deal, then you say it depends where you live.
I can tell you for sure that in many areas it is still a big deal. While I have never made it a "secret" that I enjoy girls, I don't discuss it around my family and I don't bring girls home.
When my cousin came out, his parents, my grandmother, and my parents(ie everyone in the extended family) stopping talking to or about him. It was as if he was no longer a member of the family. My brother in laws family has reacted the same to his now open uncle. They (all of his siblings and parents) will refuse to have him in the house. One of my best friends was so upset by the potential complications coming out would bring that she tried to kill herself rather than shame the family.
I feel so much for my friend. She is a staunch Christian and feels she is committing a sin whenever she touches a girl. But, in her words, she feels that if she touches a boy she is "being gay" (she identifies herself most closely as a man) and this committing a sin then as well. It might be "no big deal to us, thinking that we "knew" already, but to her it was admitting that she is willfully endangering her immortal self.
All of these people took incredible courage to stand up for themselves and admit to everyone who they were. For you to belittle their efforts and say its "annoying" is very small minded and bigoted.