I get frustrated with some of my friends at times --- well the ones who know I am bisexual. I think they don't fully understand and I appreciate that they try. But they get this idea that if you are willing to be with a guy then you will just be with any guy who is bisexual.
We'll be out and they'll say you ought to get with so and so, we hear he is bisexual too. But the guy will do nothing for me at all.
I am sure it is probably the same way for bisexual women too.
Just wondering what kinds of things turn you on when looking for either a same sex partner or even the opposite sex partner. Do you prefer that they be bi too? Or can they be totally gay or str8?
Personally for me I do like them gay or str8. I do appreciate the bisexual partner just because they can understand where I am coming from better.
As far as what I like and don't like. I guess I am not the average bisexual man -- at least according to the ones I have met mostly in real life and on the Internet.
I like all types and have dated and had sex with many who don't fit my normal turn-on, but typically I like more feminine women and more masculine men. Just typically when I want a woman I want a woman and vice versa. I don't mind them being dominant or submissive in that role.
For instance I get more turned on my a woman in a hot pair of women's panties or a thong than I would in a pair of men's boxers. And the same for a man in a woman's panties. I would get more of a rise seeing him in his briefs or boxers.
I have found many others on the extreme to be very beautiful and even sexy. And even found the ones I have been with to be great lovers, but they are not generally what turns me on.
I also have one big turn-on in both men and women. That is being open minded and willing to experience new things. Not just in the bedroom but in life in general. New foods, new experiences, etc. I just find that hot when a person is willing to experience new things with me. At least willing to give something new a try.
Oh and edited to add -- individuality is a big turn on too. Someone who doesn't have to be cookie cutter like the rest. That is hot to me.
And I have to say I do love hair and I guess that is part of being an individual too. I don't want wild and bushy, but someone who keeps themselves well groomed esp. in their genital area. Esp. men these days who buck the norm and don some hair on their chest. That man really sticks out to me. I really love a wonderful landing strip on a female...neat and tidy. Or the same on a guy esp. if it has a nice happy trail that starts at his belly button and goes down.
So what about you?
I guess I can only speak from my experience and that is as a guy who was "straight" until I was about 27 or 28. Since then I've had a total of three partners, two of which I still hook up with (one for almost ten years, the other for almost 20). I'm happily married and one of my partners was the best man at my wedding.
So I guess for me, I'm not out there looking for people to hook up with. I'm open to the opportunity of having a male friend who becomes a FWB. In a perfect world, I'd hook up every month or two with one of my male partners, but instead it tends to be a trip to Vegas every couple of years, a camping trip every summer, a trip to the Lake on his boat or a visit while one of our wives is out of town. Maybe 2-3 times a year.
What turns me on is the sex, duh! What I don't like is anything that could shatter the illusion to the world that I'm a straight married guy with a professional career and good standing in my community. I also don't like kissing dudes. At all. Not even a little bit. Do I think some of that could be internalized homophobia? Yep, sure could be, but it's a pretty strong sense of distaste for the act, whereas I love reaching down a pair of briefs and grabbing a hard cock, pulling it out and dropping to my knees to suck it... which definitely seems more gay than kissing.pXHdk1baylN3jqjU
As for panties vs. boxers, I've never had a partner dress the roll, but it would definitely turn me on. I've fantasized about dressing up and playing the chick role, too, but it's never happened. I like taking a strap-on, but while I've done the whole role playing thing before, now I just want my wife to fuck me and she feels no compunction to degrade me in the process. It's just what we do when she's on her rag week and I'm horny.
I'd also consider myself a Kinsey 1.5-2. I've only met one 3 in my life and after a 20 year marriage, he's now dating a gay man (Kinsey 6, but very straight appearing). That will never be me. I love women and I've always had a closer connection to them. While I have great male friends, the intimacy just isn't there like it is with a woman. Thus, the one other factor comes in. A bi guy is always going to have his head turn when a pretty girl walks by and that alone is pretty cool. I like being able to talk to my partners about what I enjoy with my wife, what they enjoy with their wives, and not have that be a touchy issue.
Like HotBttminBriefs, I like men masculine and women feminine. When I finally get with a guy, I want him in a suit and tie (okay, maybe business casual since that's how I dress) with a big, hairy body and tight little briefs underneath, not in a dress and panties. Hair where it belongs is a big thing for me.
Personality-wise, I like smart, funny people of either sex. Someone I can enjoy a good conversation with. Imagination and curiosity are important, too, since those are things I value in myself. I want more fantasy in my sex life (present partner is not big on imagination) so an active, horny imagination would be especially arousing.
I don't this I would be too fussy about their orientation. Obviously, in an MMF threesome or something, having the other guy be bi would be a good thing, but for just guy-on-guy, I could go with bi or gay though I will confess that the wildly out, flamboyant school of being gay is a turnoff for me, so it would have to be someone more moderate and modest, rather like me.
Whether you are straight, gay ,lesbian or bi sexual. Why would anyone have sex with someone that they have no attraction . As far as the rest of it. Everyone has their differences.
If you can only fall in love with women but like to have sex with men, then that puts you in a very large category. But there are guys that can fall in love with either gender. Same goes with women.
Anyone that tries to place all bi-sexuals , gays or lesbians into a nice neat little box is immature. The reason they like to have everything in a nice neat little box is because their mind cannot perceive the larger truth. Everything must be laid out in black and white for them. The light is on or off, no such thing as a dimmer switch.
You have to live your life your way, and let others live their lives accordingly.
Turn one and turn offs. Its all personal preference when it comes to hair or not. Or any other styles.
Actions and styles are many. Find what suits you or learn to deal with it.
Said probably too much , so I'll stop
Bi-sex is definitely a turn on for me. When you are with a "person"...enjoying sex, why would you care if it's the same sex as you. It's the pleasure that counts. I've made love to a lot of women and also to many men. I receive and give pleasure to both sexes.
For me, it is about the attraction. As bi guy, I'm not attracted to every male but when I know there is a mutual attraction, I know it will be a no holds barred so to speak. I've been surprised on several occasions to learn someone was bi and actually had the same thoughts of how to enjoy the other. Biggest turn on is being with someone who wants to enjoy their first time. Hmmm. Turn Offs are those who just don't care about cleanliness. There is one thing about "heat of the moment" but more said for knowing that someone cared enough to want to be enjoyed. With women, cleanliness is the key…nothing worse than dirty bits, so to speak. } ;)
I'm just coming into my bisexuality. In the last year, I find myself looking at guys and wondering if they are gay/bi, and what their abs look like. While I don't have the best abs, I'm working on mine. I also think about the size of their dicks.
I tend to like 24ish year old guys, usually dark hair, no facial hair, and straight acting.
i tend to love guys that are well built but not total gym junkie. i like seeing the bulge of a guys cock in a pair of sexy male gstrings don't mind a bit of chest hair either
