Bisexual female in love with a girl.. need help.

7 Jul 2015

So the subject it just the tip of the iceberg. There is this girl who I have been friends with for about 6 months and we have become really close. She has opened up to me and so have I. I know very personal things about her. What I don't know is her sexual orientation. She went to prom with a guy last year, but so did I. I can not tell if she is interested in me or not. She is the first girl I have fallen in LOVE with. I have had mini crushes but this girl, i love. I am still pretty young but I am seeing her again soon, as friends. Should I tell her im bi? Should i tell her I am interested in her? Should we just stay friends? I don't know what to do. Help please. Thanks.

Thanks BiGFStud.

15 Jul 2015

You are in a tricky situation. Because she might feel the same, and is just as you are, afraid to say something. She might have never thought about being attracted to another girl, or she is straight and would not consider anything more than just friendship.

You need to go creative about it. You need to create a situation of intimacy, and friendship where you would share things. Like some sleep over or something like that. Then you could start with a subject, incorporate it when talking and chatting about boys, and sex and things of such nature, that you read an article on the net about ( You tell her actually what you feel, but mask it as something you read ), and I am sure she would give you at least an indication of her sexual orientation. You can build on it, by saying that you find it cool, that the "girl in the article" is Bisex, and that guys are ok, but they are idiots for the most part, and that they could not ever hope to understand girls like you two. Not to mention, that - probably - a girl would know much more how to pleasure a girl because it would not be selfish and egoistical. The way boys think, in the end only about their own pleasure and forgetting about their partner's pleasure. In this form of conversation, she will reveal to you your thoughts, and you can go from there. She might surprise you, and come out with the fact and admit to you that she is Bi or even lesbian, after she would see that you understand such things. If that happens, then you are "in" so to speak anyway and you can admit to her straight out how you feel about her smile

. It is all about the atmosphere in which you two would be :).

I hope my advice helps :).

16 Jul 2015

I'd just ask. The best solutions are the most simple ones. Tell her that you are attracted to her - that way you put yourself on the spot, not her - and then, if she doesn't stare at you in horror, ask if she is interested in girls. she says yes, go from there. she says no, drop it. if you drop it, though, she may choose to pick it up at sometime if there is an interest there. if not, don't mess up your friendship by being pushy. smile

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26 Mar 2016

Your dilemma is because you dont wanna lose the friendship. As already suggested in both the earlier replies, you can somehow open up on the topic of intimacy, and drop a hint, or something. I know it sounds lame as compared to talking directly about it, but you dont intend do so, or it seems so, and its all right, sometimes. An example would be "the grilled cheese sandwich served at the local gay bar is really tasty, i went there tocheck the place out once."