Sources of Inspiration for Erotic Writing
Even the best writers of erotic literature can occasionally hit a creative wall. Sometimes it can be difficult to generate erotic story ideas, especially if you’re currently dealing with personal issues in your life that don’t lend themselves to sexual feelings. What can you do when you’re out of ideas, and you’ve already written about every possible combination of caresses, embraces, and thrusts? Luckily, we live in a culture where sexuality is readily available through a number of different mediums. Here are some great places for finding the inspiration to write your next erotic story.
1) Dreams. We all know that some of life’s best sexual encounters occur in our dreams. The best thing about sex dreams is they are often much more quirky than real-life encounters, you may find yourself dreaming about partners, locations, and positions that you’d never even consider trying in real life. But that is the magic of dreams - they open your mind to new possibilities regarding what is arousing and sensual. They can also reveal deep desires residing in our subconscious. Drawing erotic inspiration from your dreams is a very effective way to start thinking outside of the box in terms of new story ideas.
2) Nude, erotic, or pornographic images. This may seem like an obvious place to draw inspiration for erotic stories. But usually, when writers describe a sex scene, it is painted in their mind rather than displayed on a piece of paper or computer screen. Looking at a picture while detailing a sexual encounter can help you to include details that you may have otherwise forgotten. Look for a picture a couple embracing or making love, and then write down as many details about that scene as you can, and voila! You have an entire list of sex story ideas.
3) Think back to your teenage years. We’re not talking about teenage sex, silly. Get your mind out of the gutter! We’re talking about the puppy love you felt as an adolescent or teen. When developing a romantic plot line, it can be easy to forget what fresh, passionate, all-consuming love really feels like, especially if you are married or have children. Help to connect with your characters by remembering what it was like the first time you ever fell in love with someone, or kissed a lover for the first time. Then channel that energy into the interactions that occur between your two main characters. This is a great way to add some oomph to your romantic story lines.
4) Get sexy. Thirty percent of women ages 18-60 report suffering from a low libido. If you are a female writer, this lack of sexual energy in your own personal life can greatly effect your ability to produce effective erotic stories. So how can you vamp up your arousal levels? Here’s a little secret: our sense of sexuality has more to do with how we feel about ourselves than how we feel about our partner. So do whatever it takes to make you feel sexy to you. Get some new sexy stiletto heels to wear out to dinner with your man or girlfriends. Let your hair down. Wear some makeup, or none at all. Feeling great about yourself will inspire you to reintroduce your body to the pleasure it deserves, and thus get in touch with the feelings required to produce erotic stories.
5) Look for the sexiness in the everyday. To be an effective erotica writer, you need to get in touch with the sexual energy flowing throughout the universe. The world is chock full of horny sexual arousal, so you just need to find a way to tap into that sexuality. Look for the steaminess in everyday situations while you’re running errands or shopping. Allow yourself to imagine sexual encounters occurring between characters at the bank, grocery store, or department store. Your job is to craft fantasy encounters, and you can’t do that unless you start imagining the possibilities.
6) Draw from your own bedroom activities. This may sound like another obvious one, but many authors make too much of an effort to design elaborate fantasy scenarios when the best material lies right inside their own bedroom. While you do want to make sure that your writing has an element of fantasy, adding some more realistic details will better help your reader relate to the material. So think back to your last hot bedroom session (or couch session, or back seat of the car session - whatever your thing is). Take whatever made that sex so great and turn it into a story, adding a few extra details that would have made it even better. These reality-based pieces can make some of the best erotic writing that is out there.
7) Movies. By examining the latest movie trends, you can see what kinds of romance consumers are looking for. For example, the box office hit The Notebook could inspire you to write a classic 40s love story. Titanic could help you craft an old-world tale of romance and tragedy. Jerry Maguire would be a great starting point for a romantic novel written from a male point of view. If you’re looking to appeal to a wider audience, checking in on current movie trends can help guide you in the right direction.
8) Vacation planning. Some of the best erotic stories take place in far-off, luxurious vacation spots such as Rome and Paris. Think back to the last romantic vacation you took, whether it was your honeymoon or a short weekend away. Think of all of the encounters that could take place in the world’s most beautiful cities and islands. Adding exotic elements to your story can add excitement and mystery to any romantic tale.
9) Lingerie catalogs. Lingerie companies’ advertising campaigns revolve around seduction, beauty, and intrigue. The sexual essence captured by lingerie models is captivating and alluring, and can inspire you to create a steamy and sexual female protagonist. Imagine that you are writing about an empowered woman who knows what she wants and how to get it. The costumes featured in the lingerie catalog can help you visualize and design that character’s clothing and seduction tactics.
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