After sixteen years of marriage I am recently divorced. Now that my children and I are settled again I have set out ridding myself of all the clothes that would remind me of my ex -- which means almost all of them! This is a massive undertaking and will be spread over several years. I am in my late thirties, have a reasonable figure and exercise most days. I have always been something of a classic dresser, but am wondering what sort of additions a newly single woman should make to her wardrobe -- underwear, over-wear, shoes, accessories. I have already changed my hairstyle and done a makeover on my face so that I look younger and fresher. Any ideas, ladies, that might be helpful?
From a guys perspective well this one anyway. Get clothes that show off your figure but don't show to much skin. However do get clothes that emphasise your best features. Nice lingerie always wins as it makes a lady feel confident . Heels are always a winner but make sure you can walk comfortably in them. Nothing more off putting than seeing a woman wobbling about . Armed with all of this get out and socialise .
Thank you for your masculine advice, black1. I have never really been a free agent before, so dressing to make a more general impact, especially on men, is something very new. Which pieces of female skin do you think ought to be seen?
I think that depends on you and how confident you feel. Wearing something that you not confident in wearing will show. I am not sure of your age and its not the correct thing to do to ask a ladies age . However if you still have a good pair of pins then perhaps a skirt with the hemline just above the knee. A good pair of heels will also emphasise your legs . If you have a nice rear then perhaps trousers that are tight across your rear will give you emphasis there . If you have a decent bust then perhaps a buttoned up blouse or a dress would be a good way of showing this off. Its all about looking attractive but not slutty. I would also look Online for examples of latest fashions and the colours that go together for your age group. . The look I would avoid is the funeral look ie all black.
Since posting the above I thought I would perhaps include an example of perhaps what not to wear in my opinion.
It was summer just over a year ago me and the Mrs had gone to our normal over 40s Cabaret Club in our local town . A lady in her early 40s ( I reckon) was tottering about in high heels after perhaps one or two drinks too many . She was with a partner so she wasn't single . She was wearing a short figure hugging leopard print dress and no nylons ( tanned legs) . If being honest she was in quite decent shape bodywise. Anyway someone had just spilt their drink near the dance floor and she tottered into it and slipped head over heels and onto her back . Her dress rode up revealing a tiny pair of black knickers/panties that had skewed to one side giving me an eyeful. I don't know who was more embarrassed me or her ?
Without trying to coming across has being judgemental , that's the look I think you perhaps need to avoid IMO.
Perhaps this is your opportunity to experiment with clothes and style, while at the same time allowing yourself to dress for yourself and not to please someone else -- like an ex-husband. Divorce is agony, I know, but perhaps it is the great opportunity for a new beginning as yourself rather than as someone else's person.
I'm confused as to why you need an overhaul? You dropped the biggest weight in your life:the husband.
Other then that, everything should be ok.
Breaking loose from a man I had come to abhor was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life, after a number of months spent rediscovering who I am with the help of counseling. In this light I started looking at my clothes and the way in which I presented myself and realized that too much of what I had been and the way I presented myself was to please him. Thus, part of the process of making a break is to be myself and not be his ex because of the influence he had over me.
i wouldnt worry about your clothes, that much
its the person inside them that counts,
the self worth, warmth, loving, caring, person that attracts others
clothes help but the personality is the key
My suggestion heels,a reasonably short black skirt, a silk blouse with matching bra will get your look out there,, try not to wear too much jewlery.....
My suggestion heels,a reasonably short black skirt, a silk blouse with matching bra will get your look out there,, try not to wear too much jewlery.....
While I could offer lots of suggestions, without knowing a whole lot more about you, the area you live in and the people you hang around with they most likely wouldn't be worth a hoot. Take a look at the people you hang around with, or better yet the people you'd like to hang around with. Pick a couple that you admire and try and emulate the look that they present.
For starters, you can never go wrong with a LBD (little black dress). How you wear it and accessorize it will determine how professional, classy, or sexy you will look. Of course, there are pearls, gold jewelry, hair combs, stockings, shoes, etc. that can change the look drastically. So, try different looks. it'll be fun for you. In regards to lingerie, you can't go wrong with fine lingerie (well worth the cost). It'll look and feel great. And, since you are the only one who knows what you are wearing underneath, you can go with fun, more fun, or risqué. You'll feel like a new woman! ? Of course this is only one choice and doesn't even begin to cover your overall wardrobe needs. However, suffice it to say, that from here on out every day is a new day, and every day belongs to you! Wear whatever makes YOU look and feel like the million bucks that you are. Because, when you feel good about yourself you will exude that "je ne sais quoi" (inner beauty, confidence, and desire) that no man can resist. Honey, you will turn heads!
Am I unusual in this -- or is it normal? was tidying my clothing drawers this weekend and realize I have spent far more on pretty lingerie and underwear than ever in my life?
